Turn off?

[Pandaaa]

I am going out with this guy who makes me pay him back when I forgot to bring money one time. A very precise amount of money. He took the total and divided it by 2. I never asked him to pay for anything. Turn off?

[pteromom]

Very much a turnoff. He comes across as petty and nit-picky. Not attractive at all.

[Philosoraptor]

While I have no issue with going dutch, this is a little beyond cheap. I'd give him his money and let him know you will not be seeing him anymore.

[CherryT]

Definite turn off.

 

I am generous with my F and so is he with me. We don't keep tabs. Sometimes I pay and sometimes he pays.

[runningfar]

Definitely not attractive. I wouldn't do that with a friend or somebody I was dating, and a guy doing that to me would have me lose any previously held interest.

[AHaze]

How do you even end up going on a date with such a guy?

 

Somebody who would do that strikes me as the socially awkward outcasty type... the kind of guy who wears worn-out white running shoes with suit trousers and a fannypack

[spiderowl]

Definitely, a generous nature is really important as I think it probably extends to all areas of life. Is he going to be generous when you need some help in the future, not financially, but perhaps because you're not well or (if you get together long term) have children?

 

Personally, if a guy seems to quibble over money or even pays too much attention to whether he has to pay sometimes or not, I can't bear it. My father is a really strong character and we haven't always got on well, but he was generous. When we had visitors, they were always made welcome and given plenty to eat and drink. He'd bring out the best and offer it freely. He never expected anything back. He was just a gentleman.