flight E Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Very rare does any one want closure, people only use it as an excuse for wanting to remain in touch with ex in order to get them back. When it's over the best bet is to quietly agree to thier decision and leave them alone. Any action other than that which is not clearly and reasonably justifiable lik you have a child together will only be interpreted as weakness of a person that is not wanted but won't stay away. That kind of person isn't deserving of respect. Is natural to want to follow the impulse of reaching them, but the best bet for closure, getting over ex or even getting back together is strict nc
Mz_sassy_77 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 We were together for about 3 years. My Ex sent me a message to say it was over. I did not think on that day it would be last time I would see him or hear from him. But....I will never contact him again. I will never give him that kind of satisfaction. For me I get closure in the realization that I was dating a total dick and that he's just not worth it. It doesn't matter what reason they give you. It will never be a good enough reason for the person who is getting dumped. I think closure is going to have to come from you. 1
ks0985 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 in a weird way that sorta is closure IMO. Maybe you held out hope that meeting up and talking would fix things and the two of you would get back together. Now you know that its over for good. Time to move on and forget
j.gman Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 You came up quite desperate and needy with those 4 messages. Remember, neediness is the opposite of attraction. You should stop contacting him and let things cool down a bit.
mysteriouschic Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 I tried to get closure more at the start we never met up he ignored every message. I even tried calling and leaving a few days. The most I got was the two breakup texts. I stopped contacting him went into contact for 4 weeks I broke no contact and replied an even asked if he wanted to talk . . I texted him again a few days later we spoke for a while. After he ignored me and decided to block me. I tried again to tell him how I feel texted to say I miss him. I left it as that went into no contact for good again 4 weeks later he's back trying to text me this time with me ignoring it. It's best you just move on you're only going to get more hurt the more you contact him and if he text you still ignore it he'll just start ignoring you again. It's hard to move on but it really is for the best and the more you contact them the more you will push them away only when you disappear they may realise but it's best to move forward and not wait around.
newmoon Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 my ex gave me closure conversations, lots of them (maybe 5), and you know what - they still didn't make it better or make it hurt less. in fact, it's probably worse, because in the end I was able to hear all of the reasons why I wasn't the one and etc. it's not like 'closure' helped me move on faster, it might have even hurt me more because he was saying it all out loud and answering all of my questions. and they were all lies and excuses anyway. forget seeking closure - the end of the relationship is your closure so move forward
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