whatdreamsmaycome Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 It's been around 4 months since it ended, and I'm sure he's had a few moments where he's missed having me as a "fan" (I say this because the relationship was basically about him... his ego needed to be fed at all times... and I know it was unwise of me, but i caved to the pressure and appeased him in that way). But I thought that by now, he'd be over it and not trying to get me to notice him still. I do my best to stay out of his way because it feels so awkward and I have some colleagues who have told me it sometimes gets awkward for them too - and I didn't understand this until this morning. I'll get to what happened in a second... but first... On Monday, a girl (about 10 years younger than him) met him at the office and they went out to lunch together, and when they came back he brought her in and started introducing her to people. I busied myself with an errand to another department because it still feels awkward. When I returned from my errand about 20 mins later, I asked my co-worker about her, and she said that they had met just a little over a week ago at a softball game. Fair enough. I had a moment of the pit-in-the-stomach feeling but then it eventually subsided and I was fine. This morning, when I came into the office, there was a group of people talking around my desk and my ex was standing about a foot from my chair! I wanted to turn around and go somewhere else, but I felt like that would of drawn attention, so I just walked over to my desk and sat down, figuring he'd eventually go away. The MINUTE I sat down, he shifted he conversation towards one of the new guys (one who didn't know about my ex and I) and loudly asked, "So how's your love life? Got a girl?" ????? I cringed inside. The new guy said, "nah, not right now, and not looking..... What about you?" And my ex replied, "Oh yeah, and she's a babe, I brought her here on Monday..." I didn't really hear the rest because it was so awkward that I had to force my mind elsewhere... not to mention how awkward it was for all my other co-workers who just don't want to get involved. With so many things in the world to talk about; news, sports, work, family, etc.... I don't understand why he chose to talk about that subject. Am I crazy for thinking that he was trying to get a reaction out of me? I know this guy is an ego-maniac, but I don't understand why he is doing this? Can we be normal people who just move on with our lives and try to avoid the discomfort of awkward encounters as much as possible? Why does he need so much attention constantly? It would be a wish/dream come true if he would just go away.
strive Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Yes, you're right, he just wants a reaction out of you. Otherwise, it wouldn't be important to introduce the girl to everyone in your office (unless that's something you all do?) and he wouldn't feel the need to brag about her. Wow what a douche. 1
lauri Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Thank god you are no longer with him. What a loser, and I'm not saying that to even make you feel better. You don't deserve that BS.
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