greenfairie Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I feel sad because I'm the one who broke up with my ex and I see how much hurt that came after that. I miss him a lot. He was the first boy who taught me about love and we loved each other so much. We just grew apart, which is even more sad. He texted me last month but I really couldn't bring myself to reply….. What's the point if he doesn't want me anymore? There's more good days and honestly I do feel like I've moved on… But days like today just make me want to go to sleep forever and not have my brain think about my ex. I find myself looking thru pictures of me and my ex, how cute and adorable we were. I literally feel like a crazy pathetic cat lady sitting here just looking at all these pictures from the past… Any advice for this crazy gal?
Riou Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I am sure he has let go of the hurt you caused him and is happier now.So should you,don't feel guilty or sad anymore.
xUnknown Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 How long have you two been together? How did it end (good terms/bad terms)? What did his text say? What do YOU want...do you want him back?
Author greenfairie Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 How long have you two been together? How did it end (good terms/bad terms)? What did his text say? What do YOU want...do you want him back? We were together 4-5 years. I've known him since we were in elementary. He's 23 and I'm 21 now. First text said, "COME TO AMY'S HOUSE AND PARTY WITH US!! WE'RE CELEBRATING HER BIRTHDAY!!" Second text said, "Happy Birthday." We ended on bad terms, ended up in a fight/ a lot of blaming each other. I can't say I want him back. I could see that happening in a few years from now if we grew up a little bit more and got more healed from whatever we did to hurt each other… I want his friendship back. But the way he's treated me after the breakup was so cold and he hurt me badly. He's a really decent guy though and he was devoted to me through the relationship. He just switched personalities on me after the breakup. I was like, who the eff is this guy? lol
Frank13 Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 any more input? Yeah, you want his friendship back and he was cold after the relationship ended, but then you ignored his text. Sounds like he is trying to be nice or offer an olive branch. You ignored it so what do you want now?
mea_M Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 We were together 4-5 years. I've known him since we were in elementary. He's 23 and I'm 21 now. First text said, "COME TO AMY'S HOUSE AND PARTY WITH US!! WE'RE CELEBRATING HER BIRTHDAY!!" Second text said, "Happy Birthday." We ended on bad terms, ended up in a fight/ a lot of blaming each other. I can't say I want him back. I could see that happening in a few years from now if we grew up a little bit more and got more healed from whatever we did to hurt each other… I want his friendship back. But the way he's treated me after the breakup was so cold and he hurt me badly. He's a really decent guy though and he was devoted to me through the relationship. He just switched personalities on me after the breakup. I was like, who the eff is this guy? lol Look at it this way, it ended badly as you stated and you had the power to walk away from something that turned out to not be good for you. I'm sure it did not start out this way, so your obviously recalling the happier times. However, reality is the now & what the relationship evolved into. Focus on the reasons why this did not work & have no guilt. It sounds as if you've made the right choice. Good luck. Mea :-) 1
Author greenfairie Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 Yeah, you want his friendship back and he was cold after the relationship ended, but then you ignored his text. Sounds like he is trying to be nice or offer an olive branch. You ignored it so what do you want now? Everyone I know that's been through with me in real life tells me NOT to respond or to talk to him…. I've hit rock bottom because the breakup really hit me hard, so I think that's why they tell me not to contact him ever… But my heart tells me to reply back but it's been two months after the message.... My mind agrees with them though.
Author greenfairie Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 Any more input!?! I definitely need more perspective….
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