Jenniferxo1 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Hi all My ex of two years decided he no longer wanted to be with me about 2 weeks ago, he said he was unhappy in the relationship and that we argue too much, whilst 2 days before he told me he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of my life with me.. It came as a very big shock and I miss him a lot, I thought our relationship was good although we argued but we always managed to see past that and make up. Looking back on it I would change quite a few things.. I've been in no contact for the past 10 days and have been struggling like mad, only recently have I stopped crying and started to try and move on with the hope of getting back together in the future. Until.. Last night I went out with a couple of friends and had a few drinks. I ended up bumping into one of my old ex boyfriends and chatting, anyway he ended up going on my phone and snapchatting all my contacts a picture of me and him, including my recent ex. He had always been jealous of him and hated it if I ever spoke to him even though we are just friends. I don't want it to come across as though I'm trying to make him jealous to win him back cause I'm not. Do I text him apologising or leave it and continue with no contact? Thanks for taking the time to read and respond
greenfairie Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I wouldn't give your ex the satisfaction that you care but at the same time you don't want to play games. I know it's the hardest thing to do right now but please refrain from texting him or sending him one message. That attracts guys for some weird reason. Trust me, I know from experience. I thought that was bull**** so I contacted the guy however I wanted instead of not following thru with the NC. I didn't get the guy. When I didn't send a message or responded to their messages, the guy seemed to chase me more. It's strange how the human mind works. If he happens to text you, you have the power to not answer or answer. Answer if you feel it's right… Just know that he might not want you back and if you want him back, NC is the best solution for this all.
greenfairie Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Also, take care of yourself too. That's the most important part. You don't want to hurt yourself over this. I know breakups can affect people, not only mentally, but physically. I lost so much weight after my breakup, I was so miserable. Flash forward to a few months now, I'm feeling great and I have a new boyfriend that treats me so well. Show him you're doing well, even without him. I know on the inside, you must be dying or craving his company right now. The best thing to do to keep yourself busy is hang out with your good friends A LOT, reconnect with family if you can, start up new hobbies you've been wanting to do in a while but you can start now! The good energy from doing all that will help the pain lessen and it'll definitely help you think about him less. You will have some days or times when you're like **** this, I miss him so ****ing miss. How the **** could he do this to me? When you find yourself feeling so anxious or torn up about it, DO something productive and good like going for a walk, or a run on the beach or in the park, reading/writing helps me a lot too, staying active helps me stay sane too. I hope all of this helps! I'm here for you girl
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