darkmoon Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 (edited) too many insults, stuff nobody else says, almost predictable now, she even joined in an acquaintance in slagging me off recently, she could have been neutral no amount of asking her to stop has worked, we even argued one time known her 12 years, 3 unbearable months of this, so am phasing her out... texting her when I used to ring her back, not being there, no more money help, like I used to lend, not bothering to visit her, I left early last time how does the final contact work? the final moment of my departure from her, she likes phoning, but my mobile ringer is off - so now what? next time she phones, just text her back saying I am busy? which is true Edited November 8, 2013 by darkmoon
noskilljustluck Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 too many insults, stuff nobody else says, almost predictable now, she even joined in an acquaintance in slagging me off recently, she could have been neutral no amount of asking her to stop has worked, we even argued one time known her 12 years, 3 unbearable months of this, so am phasing her out... texting her when I used to ring her back, not being there, no more money help, like I used to lend, not bothering to visit her, I left early last time how does the final contact work? the final moment of my departure from her, she likes phoning, but my mobile ringer is off - so now what? next time she phones, just text her back saying I am busy? which is true Have one last talk with her, play the mature part. If she resumes her old ways then tell it to her face, that you're phasing her out. You've made it obvious, you dont want to talk to her and an open confrontation is the best way. 2
stillafool Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Hopefully sooner than later she will grow tired of unreturned phone calls and texts. If not just face her or call her and let her know it just isn't workin for you anymore but you wish her the best. If she starts an argument just listen to her blow off steam and then again wish her the best and hang up.
Author darkmoon Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 (edited) Have one last talk with her, play the mature part. If she resumes her old ways then tell it to her face, that you're phasing her out. You've made it obvious, you dont want to talk to her and an open confrontation is the best way. she's 48 I am 60, both mature as old cheese, but yes, one last try, she did say something nice about a skirt I had on, it just reminded me of the opposite, namely her insults, but she might start being nicer Edited November 8, 2013 by darkmoon
noskilljustluck Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 she's 48 I am 60, both mature as old cheese, but yes, one last try, she did say something nice about a skirt I had on, it just reminded me of the opposite, namely her insults, but she might start being nicer Hehe, your metaphor to explain age is cool. n.n Still, sometimes open confrontation is better than expectations. Hopefully things workout.
Gloria25 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Have one last talk with her, play the mature part. If she resumes her old ways then tell it to her face, that you're phasing her out. You've made it obvious, you dont want to talk to her and an open confrontation is the best way. I'm going through something similar. I've had good and bad times with this friend of mine and I'm just getting to the point where I don't put any effort maintaing the friendship. It hurts a lot cuz I'm not sure if I'm overreacting, but just get fed up with her at times. Geesh she won't even friend me on Facebook. She's trying to reconnect, but at the same time, she contacts me when I'm not available. I'm thinking of doing like Irisu mentioned above and have a last talk with her and see if she "gets it", but part of me is waiting for her to ask 'what's going on'. But, part of me feels like trying to have this talk with her is a waste of time, cuz when she pulls her stunts and I call her on it, she usually acts like she doesn't get it or turns it back on me. I don't know if I should just overlook her stunts, but at the same time she has done some things that I think a friend should not do.
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