LovelyLamb Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Hi! I posted here the other day about liking my coworker and not knowing how to approach the situation in letting him know that I have feelings for him. Since then, I've asked him to grab a drink after work and we spent a few hours talking and enjoying each others company. It was nice, but we ended at the same place we started: just friends, me unsure of where to go next. I'm thinking about asking him to go see a movie tomorrow night. Specifically Thor, since I know it's a movie he probably wants to see, and it's one where if put in the situation, I can easily tell him that I asked him since no girlfriends of mine like super hero movies. Win win, right? I'm still terrified though. But, there's now another guy who I think may be just a little interested in me. For the past month and a half, I've been frequenting a book store that's about 35 minutes from my house since it's near my job and near my friends' houses, so it's convenient for those reasons. Especially since my friend and I enjoy studying there since it's quiet. The first time I went there, I noticed this attractive man looking at me a few times and I mentioned it to my friend that every time I looked up he was looking at me. Since then, her and I have gone a handful of times, and almost each time we see him, whether he's just passing through or sitting and studying. It almost turned into a game seeing if we'd see him again, and wondering why he was always there. The other day, I went into a grocery store that was near the bookstore for some wine to help my friend cook. As I was checking out, I saw him, and we made eye contact a few times and smiled. He waited for me to leave, and when I did, he tried talking to me about my wine, but after some small talk I just said good night and walked away to get back to my friend who was waiting for me. Today, I went back to the bookstore to study (by myself), and he was there. He saw me, moved his things, and positioned himself near my table. As I was studying, he started talking to me, asking me different questions about myself, like who I am, where I'm from, what I'm studying for, etc. I found out that he's studying to get into dentistry school, and some other interesting things. As I was leaving he tried talking to me some more, and I know I could have given him my number, but I wasn't sure if I was too interested, so I just told him that I'd see him later. I really want to date my coworker; he's wonderful, a great friend, and someone I can really see myself with. But, I'm scared that he doesn't feel the same. I know that I could easily go out with this new guy since he's made it pretty obvious he's interested in me, but I don't know if I should lead him on or take a chance on him, when I'm obviously hooked on my coworker still. Help?
truth_seeker Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Make your move on the co-worker. See how it goes. If it doesn't go your way, give this bookstore guy a chance.
Author LovelyLamb Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Make your move on the co-worker. See how it goes. If it doesn't go your way, give this bookstore guy a chance. Honestly, that seems like the simplest/most obvious answer, and I did think about that. But I don't really like the idea of making this new guy a backup plan for if things fail with my coworker, ya know? But, I'm taking the GRE next week, after that I wont have any need/desire to go back to the bookstore besides to just buy a book. This new guy knows that. That gives me less then a week to decide if I want to try to pursue things with him, and/or try things with my coworker. I'm making this more complicated than it needs to be, but I'm just so unsure of what I should do, and if I should just forget this new guy.
Keenly Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I say skip Thor and throw out enders game. Its a good movie and he probably will actually be interested in it.
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