Locust Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I'm 27 and never dated and recently met a Polish girl who lives in Poland online. I realize she is young just trying to reach 18 next month but she seem couple of my photos on Facebook. She said handsome. After hearing this I beginning to Think moving to another country might be a better choice for me. If I get this kind of attention from Europe then I guess moving there will be a better option for me. Being 27 and dateless there must be something wrong or I just don't fit in America. But I'm wondering if I moved out of the US and to a European country maybe I will have better dating life.
lollipopspot Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 You're part Indian and I have seen you say that you think females in the US do not like your skin color. I don't agree. But since you think so, maybe going to India where everyone looks more like you will improve your chances, at least mentally. 1
tricolors Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I'm 27 and never dated and recently met a Polish girl who lives in Poland online. I realize she is young just trying to reach 18 next month but she seem couple of my photos on Facebook. She said handsome. After hearing this I beginning to Think moving to another country might be a better choice for me. If I get this kind of attention from Europe then I guess moving there will be a better option for me. Being 27 and dateless there must be something wrong or I just don't fit in America. But I'm wondering if I moved out of the US and to a European country maybe I will have better dating life. Hint: The Polish girl is "interested" in you because she comes from a country that still hasn't escaped rampant economic problems from communist days and she thinks you're wealthy because you live in the United States. Much like any number of Russian girls on the internet will tell you that you're handsome, or Chinese girls, or Filipinos, ad infinitum. I do not think you'll like living in Eastern Europe as a minority, either.
Author Locust Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 About coming from the US and see me as wealthy could be true. I did not put much thought in that. But I have read online several men say European woman are much better and easier to date than American woman. For American women if I want to stay here and date it looks like I will have to bleach my skin. If I don't do that I will never have a relationship. I think it is time to leave this narrow minded country.
StanMusial Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Maybe you could move to India and ask her for a date. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/437816-interested-dating-indian-guy 1
tricolors Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 But I have read online several men say European woman are much better and easier to date than American woman. That's a huge blanket statement for a huge continent full of thousands of different cultures. Much like your blanket statement of the U.S. I don't think the average woman (or man) anywhere is that much different. Humans all want the same basic things. Additionally, I've heard lots of white guys who complain about dating in San Francisco. 1
Author Locust Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 I have tried Indian girls they want someone tied in the culture and I'm not into it. I have tired them here and not into me. They go for other Indian guys from the country. Main thing is I'm mixed so I'm not pure as most Indian girls want. I'm mixed with Latin and some Portuguese with my race.
petitefleur Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 How about Latina girls? I have never been to SF but I think you're exaggerating about your skin color being the issue. Has anybody actually told you you're not attractive because you're dark? That is crazy. Don't concentrate in a group of women either. You can't generalize. 1
Imported Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Read post and saw OP is Indian. I don't know what it is about Asian and Indian dudes but I see so many of them complaining about their race stopping them from getting women. OP you need to move out of San Francisco, that place is terrible for Asian and Indian dudes. On one hand the White women there want nothing to do with you guys and on the other hand all of your women are running to White men to raise their own status. You don't need to move out of the USA. I have met Indian guys in places like Minnesota and even North Dakota who were dating beautiful girls of other races. You need to get out of San Francisco, that place has terrible logistics and a very hidden racist culture in dating. I bet none of the Indian women there want you either since they are busy chasing White guys. Move to another state and until then try to hit on some of the European tourists in San Fran. I'm mixed asian and white and I live in San Francisco. I don't think you know wtf you're talking about.
Author Locust Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 I find it hard to believe that a white guy would have a hard time finding a date. I just really find that difficult. People of my background yes I can believe it from my experience. Yeah, I'm shy but I feel there is more to it and as someone said it could be that this city is racist and unfortunately I was born in the wrong town and perhaps the wrong country.
petitefleur Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I've seen many unattractive people find love, get married and the whole deal. I think your problem isn't about the way you look but has more to do with your shyness and awkwardness. Do you have any female friends?
OpheliaSong Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Not really. I have lived all over the world and I find that while cultural differences may play somewhat in dating, if you are shy, it won't matter what country you go to.
Outsider77 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 For American women if I want to stay here and date it looks like I will have to bleach my skin. If I don't do that I will never have a relationship. I think it is time to leave this narrow minded country. I really don't think your skin color has anything to do with it. Younger people here are less racist than previous generations and people from larger cities are less likely to be so as well. For me, skin color would not affect whether or not I wanted to date a man. I also don't think going to another country would necessarily improve your chances. You are focusing on the wrong thing. It's most likely not your ethnicity or skin color. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 (edited) OP, I don't think your dating life has much to do with skin colour. If you're concerned about racism and xenophobia, be aware that's it's alive and well in many European countries too. You can see from my username that I now live in Italy; I'm not pulling this out of my hat. I don't mean to over-generalize, but also keep in mind that eastern European countries in particular (Poland, Ukraine, Belarus, etc.) don't exactly have a history of being kind and welcoming to people of other races. Something to chew on. Edited November 8, 2013 by ExpatInItaly 1
lollipopspot Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Well he should just go to India where he will "fit in," since that's his concern...unless he himself wants to date whiter...
ltjg45 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 While I hasn't given up completely yet, I am getting to the conclusion that if I were to find a woman that I really want, my chances are higher in foreign countries. I went to a wine tasting event last night and I only see like 2 women that I would ask out if given the chance out of 50 single women. That isn't great odds at all and I hasn't even said a word to the woman yet.
Author Locust Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 It tired black girls and don't seem interested in me. Not to generalize but I thought hey brown with brown skin. I never tired a white girl because I feel she would not interested in me. I would never, ever go to Russia and I guess I could add Ukraine in there as well. Poland I would visit there I heard they pretty American friendly. When I was at a community college couple years ago I had a Russian woman approach me and out of nowhere start talking to me. She been living in America for 3 years and I think she was lesbian.
Bobibble Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I live in San Francisco and I have no idea what you are talking about. There have been plenty of Indian men that I found attractive, and if you are mixed your odds are even better. Are you sure you don't have it instilled in your head that no "white girl" will go for you therefore you become slightly standoffish towards them? It sounds like you have been burned in your past and you seem to be holding an underlying grudge.
Author Locust Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Locust your English is terrible, I am certain you probably carry the highly unattractive Indian accent and that is turning most American women away. If you sounded like Sanjay Gupta then you would be doing somewhat decent but I am not surprised at all that you do so terrible. Please take the time to learn English and lose your accent. This may take a year but it will be the best investment you ever make. I was born here in San Francisco, so I don't have the accent. I have a normal American guy accent. As for the English here I just write sloppy. Most posts by others. If I was writing my research paper or a profile for dating site, then I certainly I Would double check. Again I was born in the US. So I know my accent is not a issue. Also I'm not pure Indian because I have other races mixed in. I say Indian because I have been told by my mother I'm mostly Indian. Some people I met can tell I was Indian, some others thought I was Filipino, and had some thought I was South American. Most people I have met can tell I'm mixed.
clia Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Your fundamental problem is that you don't approach women and ask them out on dates. That's why you have no dating life. You aren't going to have a dating life until you put yourself out there and start asking women out on dates. Moving to another country is not going to change that. You will just find yourself without dates in another country. 3
Author Locust Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Your fundamental problem is that you don't approach women and ask them out on dates. That's why you have no dating life. You aren't going to have a dating life until you put yourself out there and start asking women out on dates. Moving to another country is not going to change that. You will just find yourself without dates in another country. I will admit that is mostly true; however, I do not approach because I hear women think you a creep if you decide to approach them. If they will think I'm creepy it will be a issue so that is why I don't approach. I rather have her approach then I don't have to feel I'm creeping her out. Imagine if I'm on a bus and start talking to a lady, I bet she will move to another seat. I have been told that in women are very easy to approach and won't think of you as a creep. I read this from other forums out there. So I'm assuming it might work for me. I could be wrong too.
Author Locust Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Or maybe I should try dating a lady who is completely unattractive like fat, no teeth, losing her hair. Maybe I will be able to get a date then.
Imported Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 (edited) Moving to another country is not going to change that. You will just find yourself without dates in another country. I'll have to disagree kinda. I think some people can get caught up behaving in a way that does not help them because everyone they know have come to expect that behavior from them. Some people really will benefit by pulling up roots and starting completely fresh where no one has any expectation of who or what they are. It'll give them a better shot to be ....someone else. Which is really just a better version of themselves which was previously boxed in because of preconceptions of people in their lives locking them into a mold that serves them poorly. What I don't think is that.....women will like him more in some other place because there is a problem with where he is now. Northern California has a **** ton of people. If you can't find a girl there, it's not the location that is holding you back.....it's you (I feel like such a bad movie writer). You might have to move locations to change you, but it's not so much a problem with the location. Edited November 9, 2013 by Imported
kassy Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 You seem to be the one limiting yourself based on race. I know a lot of American and English Indians and half Indians and to be honest most do exceptionally well with the ladies. I know 3 who are married to attractive and successful white women. The problem is you have decided for them they aren't interested in you so don't even try. If you aren't going to put yourself out there you aren't going to get a girlfriend. Try approaching women you like and see how it goes. Where you live is not the problem. If you said you lived in a mining village with no single women I would agree moving is good. You live in San Francisco... You not asking people out is the problem not the place and certainly not your race.
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