Dylan Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 OK, this is a long story, but I'll try and shorten it some. There is a restaurant that my friends and I frequent on a regular basis. About two months ago, I noticed a new waitress working there, and I've been attracted to her ever since I first saw her. We've never had her as a waitress, so I've asked other waitresses about her, and I found out that she's originally from someplace that's 800 miles from here, and supposedly she has a boyfriend who still lives there. Over the last three weeks or so, each time we would go in there, I would catch her looking at me a few times during the night....like she would make eye contact with me out of the corner of her eye, and hold it for a good 2-3 seconds....sometimes from halfway across the room. I just introduced myself to her about two weeks ago, and I've made it a point to talk to her for at least a few minutes every time I've been in there since then. Even since I've introduced myself, I still catch her looking sometimes....and the thing is, she never looks at my friends...just me. I'm thinking about asking for her number pretty soon...maybe see if she wants to hang out with some friends of mine (one of those friends (a girl) happens to be friends with this girl I'm interested in) at the bar one night. By the way, I'm 19 and she's 21. Just as a side note...I don't know if this means anything or not, but when we talk, she keeps such constant eye contact with me that's it's intense, plus she smiles a lot. Now I know that waitresses are supposed to be nice and friendly to their customers, but I've never been a customer of her's. To her, I'm just a guy that's in there a lot. I know I might be reading too much into the eye contact thing, but trust me...I'm the kind of guy that if I see a girl looking at me, I just assume she's looking at the guy behind me...I'm very pessimistic. With her, I know she's looking at me. So this is where my question comes in. She seems like she's curious about me, since I often catch her making eye contact with me, plus she's always friendly with me when I go talk to her, but I'm just wondering if it's too soon to be asking for her number. I mean, I'm not really asking her out, I'm just going to ask her to hang out with a group of us sometime so we can get to know each other better, then ask for her number. I'm just wondering if it's too soon since we just met two weeks ago. Plus, she supposedly has a boyfriend back home, but she's never mentioned anything about a boyfriend to me. What do you guys think? Thanks.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 Originally posted by Dylan Plus, she supposedly has a boyfriend back home, but she's never mentioned anything about a boyfriend to me. What do you guys think? I think you should ask her directly about it before you get yourself wrapped up in it.
alphamale Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 Dear Dylan: It's all about the money man. See, she is smart and already knows you like her cause someone told her. She KNOWS you go in there all the time to eat and eventually she'll be your waitress. She's flirting with you so that you give her a good tip and then she'll keep on flirting with you so that EACH time you come in you'll ask to sit in her section and YOU"LL GIVE HER A GREAT TIP. So she will get $$$ out of this. ANd those $$$ will be used to buy nice sexy outfits she can wear while she hangs out with her boyfriend. DOn't buy into this krap from attractive waitresses and bartenders, 99% of the time they are just after the big tip. Trust me, I've seen it too many times.
SoleMate Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 alphamale, you're kinda bitter. dylan, I think it's fine for you to start thinking about this girl. I don't see any reason to assume she has evil ulterior motives. You're probably nice, and nice looking, and she likes to look at you. Plus she has heard that you have been asking about her. Since you have a common friend, why not have the friend ask the girl you're interested to join a group of you at the bar? That way you get a chance to spend time together and chat...without any big to-do about it. There's no reason you can't become friends with a nice girl who is new to your area. As you get to know her, you will find out whether the bf is going to be around for long or not. If they had a real serious relationship, I'm not sure she would move 800 miles away to work as a waitress. About asking for her number...well, maybe. If you have the diplomatic skills to make it sound ambiguous...as in, "We'd love to have you join the gang here when we get together. If you gave me your number, I could call and let you know the plans. Sometimes we go out to eat at <name of joint>." That's low key. I do think it's best to build a friendship with lots of chats and talks, so give it a whirl. And if for some reason things don't work out as you hoped, it is very important to: * stay pleasant * keep your head up * give her the benefit of the doubt - she may be shy Good luck!
Author Dylan Posted December 17, 2004 Author Posted December 17, 2004 Originally posted by SoleMate About asking for her number...well, maybe. If you have the diplomatic skills to make it sound ambiguous...as in, "We'd love to have you join the gang here when we get together. If you gave me your number, I could call and let you know the plans. Sometimes we go out to eat at <name of joint>." That's low key. Yes, that's along the lines of what I have thought about saying to her....almost exactly, actually. Thanks for the replies.
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