Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 UPDATE TIME FOLKS!....It went down ugly I ended up meeting up with my friend and got all of us together (my brother and the girlfriend). I simply turned to her and said "Ok this is your last chance tell him or I will" He didn't want to believe it at first. But when she admitted to it he took a while to respond. The girlfriend tried to say she was sorry and then my brother tried to say something to him but got beaten up..real bad I had to pull my friend off of him and almost got hit myself his girlfriend tried to blame me for everything and hates me now .... He is calling off the wedding and has informed his family about what has happened (this is gonna be an ugly month) it looks like my brother is going to need dental implants OUCH but oh well that's his problem, he and the girlfriend are not speaking to me either. The girlfriend called the police and my brother is going to charge him with assault and my friend got taken downtown SMH But my friend is sticking by me even closer than before:-) My parents and I don't think that my brother has any right to charge my friend with assault. Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice..I love this forum truly mature answers from everyone:-)
BetrayedH Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Well, I'm surprised that you kinda setup your own episode of Jerry Springer but I guess what's done is done. At least the guy isn't marrying her. But why do it with so much drama? I would've suggested telling your friend in private rather than right in front of the cheaters where violence is pretty predictable. I mean, even Springer has those bouncer dudes 'cause they know what's coming. 1
Grumpybutfun Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 OP; Good, you did the right thing albeit in a an oddly reminiscent way to murder mysteries being solved in the library with the candlestick while the butler did it. Grumps 2
peruano99 Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 UPDATE TIME FOLKS!....It went down ugly I ended up meeting up with my friend and got all of us together (my brother and the girlfriend). I simply turned to her and said "Ok this is your last chance tell him or I will" He didn't want to believe it at first. But when she admitted to it he took a while to respond. The girlfriend tried to say she was sorry and then my brother tried to say something to him but got beaten up..real bad I had to pull my friend off of him and almost got hit myself his girlfriend tried to blame me for everything and hates me now .... He is calling off the wedding and has informed his family about what has happened (this is gonna be an ugly month) it looks like my brother is going to need dental implants OUCH but oh well that's his problem, he and the girlfriend are not speaking to me either. The girlfriend called the police and my brother is going to charge him with assault and my friend got taken downtown SMH But my friend is sticking by me even closer than before:-) My parents and I don't think that my brother has any right to charge my friend with assault. Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice..I love this forum truly mature answers from everyone:-) Strong girlfriend on calling the police. Stick with your friend if he goes to court. 1
Bryanp Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 My hat is off to you. You did not right thing without a doubt. I feel so very sorry for your friend. I am curious on how the girlfriend tried to justify to your friend who she was going to marry in 3 weeks the constant sex with your brother for the past 8 months? I cannot imagine how she could come up with any story to justify this and still think it was O.K. to marry your friend. What did she come up with to try to convince your friend to still marry her? 1
peruano99 Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Good thing you awared your friend. If they married, she would probably cheat again, and take half his stuff on divorce. 1
Try Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 he and the girlfriend are not speaking to me either. Cheaters try to blame shift by getting mad at the other party when they have no right to. Stop buying into this.Your brother has it backwards. It should be you that does not speak to him. Your bother did not just betray your best friend when he slept with your best friend's fiance, he also betrayed you in this. For him to expect that you would go to your best friend's wedding, probably as a groomsman or best man, and stand by and let your best friend marry a person that you know is cheating on him, is a ridiculous expectation that only a real dirt bag would even try to ask. As a person of moral character, there is no way that you could do this. But since your bother clearly lacks any values, he would not understand the actions of someone that does have good values. Look your brother in the eyes and tell him that you feel betrayed by him when he cheated on your best friend, and that you do not know if you can ever forgive him for this. If he tries to turn it around on you, just tell him to go F himself and walk away. It really amazes me how often lying cheaters, that have clearly lost their moral compass, expect people that actual do know the right way, to follow the cheaters as they lead them down the wrong path. 1
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 Well, I'm surprised that you kinda setup your own episode of Jerry Springer but I guess what's done is done. At least the guy isn't marrying her. But why do it with so much drama? I would've suggested telling your friend in private rather than right in front of the cheaters where violence is pretty predictable. I mean, even Springer has those bouncer dudes 'cause they know what's coming. Nah..I feel that putting people out on blast makes them feel even ****tier than doing it in private
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 Well, I'm surprised that you kinda setup your own episode of Jerry Springer but I guess what's done is done. At least the guy isn't marrying her. But why do it with so much drama? I would've suggested telling your friend in private rather than right in front of the cheaters where violence is pretty predictable. I mean, even Springer has those bouncer dudes 'cause they know what's coming. I actually wanted my brother to get his selfish ass whipped he used to try to hit on my past girlfriends so I feel that he needed this to teach him a lesson not to be a ****ing scumbag!!
BetrayedH Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Nah..I feel that putting people out on blast makes them feel even ****tier than doing it in private Fair enough. Hopefully your bud doesn't go to jail. You and peaksandvalleys might make a good couple. 2
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 Strong girlfriend on calling the police. Stick with your friend if he goes to court. Well when you think about it he is gonna have a ****ty defense argument against my friend. I mean what can he really say?? "I was screwing his fiance for almost a year but he had no right to assault me"?? hahaha yeah let's see what judge will sympathize with him on that..
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 Fair enough. Hopefully your bud doesn't go to jail. My parents think my brothers a dumbass for trying to file an assault charge for screwing another mans fiance lol..
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 My hat is off to you. You did not right thing without a doubt. I feel so very sorry for your friend. I am curious on how the girlfriend tried to justify to your friend who she was going to marry in 3 weeks the constant sex with your brother for the past 8 months? I cannot imagine how she could come up with any story to justify this and still think it was O.K. to marry your friend. What did she come up with to try to convince your friend to still marry her? Honestly nothing..I mean what could she say??
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 Cheaters try to blame shift by getting mad at the other party when they have no right to. Stop buying into this.Your brother has it backwards. It should be you that does not speak to him. Your bother did not just betray your best friend when he slept with your best friend's fiance, he also betrayed you in this. For him to expect that you would go to your best friend's wedding, probably as a groomsman or best man, and stand by and let your best friend marry a person that you know is cheating on him, is a ridiculous expectation that only a real dirt bag would even try to ask. As a person of moral character, there is no way that you could do this. But since your bother clearly lacks any values, he would not understand the actions of someone that does have good values. Look your brother in the eyes and tell him that you feel betrayed by him when he cheated on your best friend, and that you do not know if you can ever forgive him for this. If he tries to turn it around on you, just tell him to go F himself and walk away. It really amazes me how often lying cheaters, that have clearly lost their moral compass, expect people that actual do know the right way, to follow the cheaters as they lead them down the wrong path. I actually told my brother that I lost A LOT of respect for him and that this will happen to him someday because KARMA is a bitch. 1
In Like Flynn Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 So your brother wants this affair to be public record....which it will if it goes to court and the local news loves this stuff also!!! Both families will be embarrassed. Then he has to hope that no one on the jury has been cheated on....which is highly unlikely!!! He will get no sympathy from the jury then!!! Good Luck!!!
tom670 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 So your brother wants this affair to be public record....which it will if it goes to court and the local news loves this stuff also!!! Both families will be embarrassed. Then he has to hope that no one on the jury has been cheated on....which is highly unlikely!!! He will get no sympathy from the jury then!!! Good Luck!!! As messy as it may be right now you did the right thing. I wonder if both of them have the b@lls to keep seeing each other. This will make for awkward holidays but that is his fault ugh.
Artie Lang Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 now it's your brother..... what is it with your family and infidelity.
tom670 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 now it's your brother..... what is it with your family and infidelity. Exactly WTF. This one was even worse Utah sheriff's deputy TJ Brewer assaulted father for having sex with his wife in son's room | Mail Online
peruano99 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Exactly WTF. This one was even worse Utah sheriff's deputy TJ Brewer assaulted father for having sex with his wife in son's room | Mail Online wow .
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