Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Why the need for evidence. Either someone who is a close friend believes me or they do not. For all the reasons already posted....do tell your friend. He will be mighty pi**ed at you, if he finds out you knew..and let him marry her anyways. Your brother and the OW are just trying to protect their butts. Your silence is the same as condoning their actions. It is unfair to ask you to lie to your friend. And I simply would not lie for them. Would you want to marry a woman who is cheating before you even get married..and has the audacity to still want you to marry her? Yeah this is true my brother was pretty slimy for doing this as well 1
underwater2010 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Easiest way for you to decide.....if your girlfriend was screwing around on you, would you want to know?
underwater2010 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Hell naw man If I don't say anything I will feel like **** when the pastor asks "is there any reason why these two shouldn't get married" I won't be able to look at myself in the mirror. You could always wait until then and say "I do....she is screwing my brother!!!" It would be a great way...but I say tell your friend ASAP.
crederer Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Yeah I'mma have to tell him but I don't know how to break it to him..you know what's funny someone else that I asked about this said that my brother is a "G" for doing this WTF?? Well that person, is an idiot. Don't go to that guy for any sort of life advice. I'd give them a chance to come clean first. My brother was dating a friend of mine and I knew he was cheating on her with the neighbour. I tried staying out of it but he kept getting me involved by blatantly cheating on my friend right in front of me. Eventually I told my friend about it. The messenger was shot. She didn't believe me until he dumped her a few weeks later for this other woman. So basically I'd avoid being the messenger as much as possible by getting them to confess. Seriously though, he needs to know before he marries this girl.
bubbaganoosh Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Yeah I'mma have to tell him but I don't know how to break it to him..you know what's funny someone else that I asked about this said that my brother is a "G" for doing this WTF?? Do the right thing and tell you buddy. He's going to marry this woman and if he's your best friend, he would have no reason to doubt you since your telling him that it was your brother that was having sex with her. Put yourself in his shoes and think of the shock knowing that he knew your fiancé was having sex with another guy and he didn't tell you. I have had the privilege of having two best friends in my lifetime. One has passed and the other thankfully is still here and I would have no problem telling him what was going on. Better he hear it from me rather than off the street. He would know that I would never tell her something like that unless it wasn't true. And he would know that I have his back. That's what a best friend does. As far as your brother goes, I would look the guy straight in the eye and tell him that he isn't much of a brother or a man.
Betrayed&Stayed Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Is this for real?! Of course you tell your friend. If you were in Franklin's position, wouldn't you want to know? What if Franklin finds out later that you knew and did not tell him!? No brainer. Tell Franklin.
Yesterday Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 NoDaysOff, All this sounds too incredible for me to believe! 2 Extreme threads, both include a best friend, and your brother. Is this the same best friend as the other thread? The same brother who picks up your kids? You started the other thread, on Oct 30 with a question of whether to keep your WW. who has had a very long affair with your best friend. I find it hard to believe this has all happened to you in just over 1 week. 1
Leaving Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 In your other thread you said your best friend was single and was sleeping with your wife for six years(is this that same guy)... this thread is not adding up... How many best friends you got 1
lindsay1990 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Haaaaaaaaang on. False alarm. Does anybody really believe then that somebody who was BH/BBF where AP was best friend would actually wonder if he should blow the whistle on someone's cheating best friend? I'm too lazy to look up the actual threads but if this is a troll, am I the only one who feels the increase in trolls here lately? 2
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 NoDaysOff, All this sounds too incredible for me to believe! 2 Extreme threads, both include a best friend, and your brother. Is this the same best friend as the other thread? The same brother who picks up your kids? You started the other thread, on Oct 30 with a question of whether to keep your WW. who has had a very long affair with your best friend. I find it hard to believe this has all happened to you in just over 1 week. I'm sorry but you absolutely know NOTHING about me or my family and or my friends so believe what you want or not to believe..do you understand me!!!??
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Haaaaaaaaang on. False alarm. Does anybody really believe then that somebody who was BH/BBF where AP was best friend would actually wonder if he should blow the whistle on someone's cheating best friend? I'm too lazy to look up the actual threads but if this is a troll, am I the only one who feels the increase in trolls here lately? Say what??? umm no stuff like this happens all the time more than you think so please don't jump to conclusions okay?? thank you
tom670 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Yes you should tell him and if he doesn't believe do not go to the wedding. Hopefully this will wake him up. If it doesn't move on oh well.
OpheliaSong Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Yes you should tell him. Your brothers behavior has erased his right to have privacy in this situation. She is not a good person either. 1
Darren Steez Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I'm sorry but you absolutely know NOTHING about me or my family and or my friends so believe what you want or not to believe..do you understand me!!!?? and hence OP didn't answer the question. Would have barely believed it on the walking in on his brother.. but then the getting married in three weeks.. NOT BUYING IT! 1
beach Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 (edited) Is this your same "best friend" that screwed your wife? Your brother is a complete douche. You need to really sort through your friends. Bottom line - yes, always tell your truth. You saw it - yes tell. Edited November 8, 2013 by beach
Chi townD Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Yeah, this isn't making any sense. You have a thread where your wife was screwing your best friend. Okay, But your best friend's girlfriend, is sleeping with your brother? Does your best friends girl know that her boyfriend is sleeping with your wife? Too confusing..... Bunnies are poking their heads out.
BetrayedH Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Yeah, this isn't making any sense. You have a thread where your wife was screwing your best friend. Okay, But your best friend's girlfriend, is sleeping with your brother? Does your best friends girl know that her boyfriend is sleeping with your wife? Too confusing..... Bunnies are poking their heads out. Yep. Why would you be so concerned about your best friend being cheated on if he was sleeping with your wife? I thought you were going to beat his ass? I'd expect you'd be cheering on your brother. Care to explain?
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Is this your same "best friend" that screwed your wife? Your brother is a complete douche. You need to really sort through your friends. Bottom line - yes, always tell your truth. You saw it - yes tell. No I have three brothers and more than one friend..come on now lol
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Is this your same "best friend" that screwed your wife? Your brother is a complete douche. You need to really sort through your friends. Bottom line - yes, always tell your truth. You saw it - yes tell. No I have three brothers and more than one friend..come on now lol
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 and hence OP didn't answer the question. Would have barely believed it on the walking in on his brother.. but then the getting married in three weeks.. NOT BUYING IT! I fell aslees last night okay?? geez calm down dont know anything about my family members or my life I have more than one friend you know..:-/
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 yep. Why would you be so concerned about your best friend being cheated on if he was sleeping with your wife? I thought you were going to beat his ass? I'd expect you'd be cheering on your brother. Care to explain? different friend different situation dude!! Gosh
Clay Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Not trying to kick you but it does sound a little far fetched and the fact you have not resolved this matter only makes for more speculation to the validity of this post. If it is true and you are being honest what kind of person are you to wait another minute and not be descent to your friend. If you were a true friend to him you would have dealt with it the moment you found out. Good luck in this matter. Clay
BetrayedH Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 If you're being honest, that's cool. I'm hoping you're telling your friend like, yesterday. Hopefully he can get some deposits back on his wedding.
Darren Steez Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I fell aslees last night okay?? geez calm down dont know anything about my family members or my life I have more than one friend you know..:-/ sure buddy, sure:bunny:
drifter777 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Out her to your friend yourself. Say something like "dude, I have to tell you that your girlfriend is screwing my brother and it's been going on for the past 8 months. I caught them myself and they begged me not to tell you but you have to know". You owe it to your friend to tell him the truth. 1
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