Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I came home to see my brother (45mins ago) and seeing where he was at I went to his room to see if he was asleep and walked in on him and my best friend (been knowing since I was 2 years old) girl friend having sex. My mouth dropped now I am stuck in between a rock they begged me not to tell Franklin (my best friend) what was going on the past 8 months, 8 MONTHS this been going on, my brother also said if I was a real brother then I wouldn't tell Franklin and his girl friend begged me to the point where she had tears, telling me not to tell my best friend. Its just not right and I would feel wrong if I ratted on my brother cause we are real close brothers and I love him to death but I love Franklin just as much like a brother but I am caught in between a rock like I said and I need to know what to do. Should I tell my best friend or keep it from him and don't rat my brother and my best friends girlfriend out. Thank you guys P.s My best friend and his girlfriend are getting married in 3 weeks this is crazy.
Midnight_Princess Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Id tell the friend. He doesnt deserve to marry a cheater. Your brother will always be your brother. 3
Realist3 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Blow it all up,it will be better in the long run. 1
Keenly Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 You know what... I was going to say stay out of it because people will do whatever they want regardless of how you feel about it.... until you mentioned they are getting married. A friend wouldn't let a friend marry a complete whore. 6
pteromom Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Tell your brother that you can't keep this from your best friend, but that you'll give him and the girlfriend 2 days to tell him themselves first. They can decide what to do. But nope, this isn't your burden to carry! 8
RightThere Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Should should tell them they have 48 hours to come clean to your friend, or you will. Especially if they are getting married. I know I wish someone would have told me before I got married to someone who was cheating on me. 3
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I'd tell the GF to come clean to your BFF. If she doesn't then you should tell him. Until you mentioned that they were going to get married, I was going to advice you to stay out of it. 2
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Id tell the friend. He doesnt deserve to marry a cheater. Your brother will always be your brother. Yeah I'mma have to tell him but I don't know how to break it to him..you know what's funny someone else that I asked about this said that my brother is a "G" for doing this WTF??
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Id tell the friend. He doesnt deserve to marry a cheater. Your brother will always be your brother. Someone told me that my brother is a "G" for doing this I guess when they say he's a "G" I'm guessing that means it's a good thing or he has "mad skills" to get someone else's woman that's already engaged to be married to have sex with him or like he's a player for banging a woman despite she's getting married.
pteromom Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Your brother has no right to be mad at you. If he didn't want your friend to find out, he should have done a better job having sex where he wouldn't be caught. 2
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Your brother has no right to be mad at you. If he didn't want your friend to find out, he should have done a better job having sex where he wouldn't be caught. It's funny how women do this **** all the time and then blame the husband/boyfriend?? She would never confess trust me. I'll just sit him down this week and do the best that I can And yes my brother is a scumbag for doing this I told him how I feel about this situation as well And BTW someone siad that my brother is a "G" for doing this what is that all about??
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 I'd tell the GF to come clean to your BFF. If she doesn't then you should tell him. Until you mentioned that they were going to get married, I was going to advice you to stay out of it. I think she might try to turn this around on me if I tell him though:-( And why should I stay out of it even if they werent getting married why should I let my friend date a cheating scumbag..that's like me not having a problem with him being played for a fool right?? I have a personal hatred for cheaters.
RightThere Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 And BTW someone siad that my brother is a "G" for doing this what is that all about?? Ain't nothin' but a "G" thang. I'm sure it's a compliment in the same way that a group of guys would high five each other after kicking the crap out of someone in a 4 against 1 fight.
lindsay1990 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I'm surprised they'd be so dense to 'fess up to the duration and actually TELL YOU it's been eight months. Blow it out of the water. Why? No matter how mad your friends get at your brother, he's worse off with a girl like this. Hopefully they will realize she is more blameworthy here (as your friend's girlfriend) and they'll send her on her way. You'll be sparing both your brother and your friend of a girl like this. The sooner the better, because if your brother hasn't fallen for this broad yet he will and then HE will be stuck with the cheater.
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I think she might try to turn this around on me if I tell him though:-( And why should I stay out of it even if they werent getting married why should I let my friend date a cheating scumbag..that's like me not having a problem with him being played for a fool right?? I have a personal hatred for cheaters. You should stay out of it because they ALWAYS shoot the messenger.
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Ain't nothin' but a "G" thang. I'm sure it's a compliment in the same way that a group of guys would high five each other after kicking the crap out of someone in a 4 against 1 fight. I dont think my bros a "G" at all 1
Author Mr.NoDaysOff Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 You should stay out of it because they ALWAYS shoot the messenger. Hell naw man If I don't say anything I will feel like **** when the pastor asks "is there any reason why these two shouldn't get married" I won't be able to look at myself in the mirror. 2
peruano99 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 tell your friend, but get evidence first or else he won't believe you. 2
pteromom Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Hell naw man If I don't say anything I will feel like **** when the pastor asks "is there any reason why these two shouldn't get married" I won't be able to look at myself in the mirror. I agree - by you holding this in, it becomes your burden to carry, and that isn't fair. This is your brother's choice - he needs to be the one to live with the consequences, not you. 2
pteromom Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 It's funny how women do this **** all the time and then blame the husband/boyfriend?? Not just women. Both men and women can make incredibly selfish and hurtful choices.
Clay Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Ask yourself. Would you want to know if your GF was with another guy three weeks before you married her. It sounds like you already know the answer. I would rather be a decent person than play games like that with peoples head. Your Best friend is just that. He is someone that trust you to have his back. Would you want him to tell you? I would not wait another minute. Doing the right thing is not always convenient or easy. Its these moments that define who you are as a person. Clay
peruano99 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 OP get evidence, like text his girlfriend or your brother. Do not buy into the girl's crocodile tears.
RightThere Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Don't wait to gather evidence. Tell him that you caught them. You saw it with your own eyes. Any other "evidence" is pointless. 1
AlwaysGrowing Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Why the need for evidence. Either someone who is a close friend believes me or they do not. For all the reasons already posted....do tell your friend. He will be mighty pi**ed at you, if he finds out you knew..and let him marry her anyways. Your brother and the OW are just trying to protect their butts. Your silence is the same as condoning their actions. It is unfair to ask you to lie to your friend. And I simply would not lie for them. Would you want to marry a woman who is cheating before you even get married..and has the audacity to still want you to marry her?
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