SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Im 23, been dating a guy online for about an year and 2 months. Or should I say, was dating. Anyways, he's very sexual and everything, and a day or two ago, he gave me an ultimatum, that I should send him nude sexual pics to make up for the imbalance I created by being moody in past two weeks. We have been moody over petty things, but we both clarified. He has said he's out of this relationship, and would only consider it ongoing if I give him said pics. I have given him suggestive stuff and shown him myself in lingerie on cam. But I dont want to be fully nude on cam or in pics. When I ask him to come visit me, he presses on his helplessness of not having enough income. He has already tried breaking up with me twice. This will be the third. He said, I should stop talking to him, and only talk with him when im ready to go meet him and have sex for real. My reason of not seeing him soon enough are my studied and living on the other side of the world. I really love him , but I cant bring myself to do this act, I already feel bad for the past things I have done for him to make him happy. He knows how I feel about this, and yet, he has still given me this ultimatum. What are your thoughts on this matter? Don't ever be dumb enough to send or post your nude photos on the internet, or otherwise send them to anyplace where they would be outside of your control. The rest of this is rendered insignificant if you follow those guidelines.
thefooloftheyear Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Better yet....take a picture of your cat...Send it in an attachment of an email that reads..."Here is the picture of my beautiful pussy that you requested"... Then send him another email a half hour later saying "go the fck away now".. TFY 4
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I have. I just wanted to know, if I made the right decision. Cause up until the end he blames me. I guess, thats his defensive mechanism. I'd say you made the right decision. Better than giving him a nude picture or yourself. The things a jerkoff can do with crap like that is horrible. In the end, you made the right choice, and are better for it. Don't let this or him beat you down. Must *******s tend to blameshift and make the innocent seem guilty of something. Be at ease
bubbaganoosh Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Wait a minuet. You have been dating this guy on line for a little over a year if what I'm reading is correct. Now have patience because I'm old but not stupid. Dating on line to me sounds like you never met this guy in person am I correct? If that's the case, you have no ides who this guy is. He could be a complete psycho. Ever heard of the saying, "Buying a pig in a poke"? If that's the case, get rid of him! he's only interested in bamboozeling a lonely girl for his own gratification. You can't be this naïve!
lindsay1990 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 What everybody else said ^^ This guy is like the opposite of a nice guy. Ew. shoooo!! 1
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Have you ever met him in person....or is this completely an online relationship? If the latter is the case, then I suggest you start meeting people IRL. I have dated people irl and been in relationship, but this guy, yes I met him online and Ive never met him for real. I have asked him several times that I wish he would come and meet me, but he says he doesnt have enough money right now.
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Wait a minuet. You have been dating this guy on line for a little over a year if what I'm reading is correct. Now have patience because I'm old but not stupid. Dating on line to me sounds like you never met this guy in person am I correct? If that's the case, you have no ides who this guy is. He could be a complete psycho. Ever heard of the saying, "Buying a pig in a poke"? If that's the case, get rid of him! he's only interested in bamboozeling a lonely girl for his own gratification. You can't be this naïve! Well, when we started dating he said he will come meet me in a few months, but that turned to an year, and then he said its better if I go and meet him and live with him. I understand your point of view, and thats why instead of being a stupid person, I waited and told him I rather give him some more time and wait to complete my studies.
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 What everybody else said ^^ This guy is like the opposite of a nice guy. Ew. shoooo!! He is nice otherwise, but with these kind of conditions and requests, he's pretty stern.
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Better yet....take a picture of your cat...Send it in an attachment of an email that reads..."Here is the picture of my beautiful pussy that you requested"... Then send him another email a half hour later saying "go the fck away now".. TFY This really made me laugh. Thankyou. n.n
Pretty.in.Pink Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Im 23, been dating a guy online for about an year and 2 months...he gave me an ultimatum, that I should send him nude sexual pics... I have given him suggestive stuff and shown him myself in lingerie on cam. But I dont want to be fully nude on cam or in pics. When I ask him to come visit me, he presses on his helplessness of not having enough income. ..... My reason of not seeing him soon enough are my studied and living on the other side of the world... Have you ever met this guy in person? Regardless, as everyone else has said, drop him. If he's repeatedly using the threat of ending the "relationship" as a weapon to get you to do things you don't want to do, he's not the right guy for you. There are many good men out there who will respect your boundaries! 1
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 So, you've basically wasted a year of your life having an online flirtation (because it's not a 'relationship') with some guy whose probably married and/or committed in some way, or at best is living in his mom's basement. His entire goal in this so-called 'relationship' is to get dirty pictures from you, have cam sex with you, and for you to fly out to wherever he lives and have sex with him. Yeah, that's the stuff that dreams are made of. You seriously need to turn off the computer and go out into the real world. OP, if you think for one minute that YOU'RE the only girl he's pulling this crap on, you'd be very, very mistaken. Ive thought of this countless times, and ironically I never wanted to try, but somewhere along the course of time I began believing in his words and hoped he would come see me. Then I saw a new side of his, and now he has really broken my trust by asking me for sexual pictures. Its true, I dont know his friends and although Ive seen his family members on fb and on cam, I have never talked with them to confirm his motives. But im done with this online relationship crap, its just an illusion.
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Absolutely. This man is vile. Manipulative, disrespectful, and a bully to boot. I shudder to consider what might have happened had you ever given in to his demands to visit HIM (any man worth his salt who really wanted to know you better in reality would travel oceans to see you my dear). You most definitely need to consider the alternatives to actually getting out there and meeting real people whose faces you can see, talk to, and get to know. The internet is an insidious and anonymous vehicle for those who do not want to reveal their true identity because it is too disgusting to be attractive to anyone but themselves. Never, ever, lower yourself to someone elses deviance. after a few talks of who's meeting who, he said, well you and I are too serious and we probably would want to move in together, so why dont you come and be with me? I dont have cash anyways and youre rich enough to afford it. Youre absolutely right, internet does hides a lot of nasty secrets, but I didnt know this side of him until a couple of months ago when after a big fight he wanted me to give him some suggestive pics, in which THANKFULLY I wasnt naked but just dolled up and wearing revealing clothes. Even that disgusted me, and yet just for his sake and ours, I did it. He considered it a test to see if I was willing to do this much for him, that Ive never truly done for anyone before. I just came off the wrong foot I suppose, I had kept myself away from guys for about three years cause of my previous break up which was quite ugly and depressing. We broke up in a sense, and yet he has told me, this phase is also a test for us, to see if I bother meeting him or if I find another guy. But for now, im focused on studies, he has been cruel enough to give me tension when I have my semester exams.
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 So, you've basically wasted a year of your life having an online flirtation (because it's not a 'relationship') with some guy whose probably married and/or committed in some way, or at best is living in his mom's basement. His entire goal in this so-called 'relationship' is to get dirty pictures from you, have cam sex with you, and for you to fly out to wherever he lives and have sex with him. Yeah, that's the stuff that dreams are made of. You seriously need to turn off the computer and go out into the real world. Also, we never did cyber. I consider it gross.
pteromom Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 We broke up in a sense, and yet he has told me, this phase is also a test for us, to see if I bother meeting him or if I find another guy. LOL! Oh I see, so if you move on, you've failed his "test". That's just another manipulative tactic. All I can say is that is one test where FAILING is winning!!!! 4
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 I would strongly suggest that you never make any contact with this individual again sweetie, seriously, he is beneath scum. If/when he tries to contact you, block him at every point of that contact, and never look back. Find a true friend you can really talk to about this, face to face so that she can read your emotions, then let her help you move on to healthier things............. I just dont want to tell my real life friends about him. One of them knows a few details , that I was dating a guy online and everything, but I think its best if I dont share more. And when I posted here, I had already made my mind that I would never talk with him, he never truly cared for my feelings. All I wanted from this forum was to know from very neutral people, if i had done the right thing. You know, like a pat on the back or encouragement. And Im happy with my decision, havent contacted with him since our last talk a few days ago.
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 LOL! Oh I see, so if you move on, you've failed his "test". That's just another manipulative tactic. All I can say is that is one test where FAILING is winning!!!! Yes, to the very end he said, ' He'll see' if I ever come to him or if I choose another guy and move on. I emotionally replied, that I will hope he waits for me, cause I will wait for you. And he never said anything to confirm to it, not even refute me when I said that I have a doubt you wont wait for me. That in itself answered me, that moving on is the best option. I'll always be the one proving my love to him, and I dont want that.
bubbaganoosh Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 You know what scares the living daylights out me? That there are people this naïve. He wants you to move to him. He wants you to send him dirty pictures. He wants this and he wants that and he's poor and your rich and he's expects you to do everything he wants and you get nothing out of the deal. I am going to choose my words carefully and believe me sweetie, I got a whole lot more years on the earth than you do and probably most people on this forum. I'm 66. I was completely around the world before my 23 birthday, owned my own company, have children and now retired and sick (my fault) and I have pretty much been there and done that and what I want to tell you is this. You are one of those statistics that people shake their head when they read the obituary page in a newspaper about a girl who was found dead in a land fill some where because she was to naïve to believe that the guy pursuing her was a psychotic nut that preyed upon vulnerable girls that took his word that he was a nice guy. My advice to you is lay the hell off of on line dating. A lot of us are seeing through this guy and your the one in contact with him. Start thinking about reality and on line dating a guy you never met, never spoken one word face to face. Never touched his hand is not reality. I'm sorry if I came across this strong. I have two daughters and it worries me that someone's daughter is asking for trouble and all I can do about it is give my opinion and advice and hope they follow it. Good luck 3
FitChick Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 I sent an email to a guy with the subject line "Photo of me naked in bed." It was me as a baby, naked in my crib. Well, he couldn't say I lied to him! 1
Els Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 You dodged a huge bullet here. Thank goodness he's gone! Block him, move on to much greener pastures. 1
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 You know what scares the living daylights out me? That there are people this naïve. He wants you to move to him. He wants you to send him dirty pictures. He wants this and he wants that and he's poor and your rich and he's expects you to do everything he wants and you get nothing out of the deal. I am going to choose my words carefully and believe me sweetie, I got a whole lot more years on the earth than you do and probably most people on this forum. I'm 66. I was completely around the world before my 23 birthday, owned my own company, have children and now retired and sick (my fault) and I have pretty much been there and done that and what I want to tell you is this. You are one of those statistics that people shake their head when they read the obituary page in a newspaper about a girl who was found dead in a land fill some where because she was to naïve to believe that the guy pursuing her was a psychotic nut that preyed upon vulnerable girls that took his word that he was a nice guy. My advice to you is lay the hell off of on line dating. A lot of us are seeing through this guy and your the one in contact with him. Start thinking about reality and on line dating a guy you never met, never spoken one word face to face. Never touched his hand is not reality. I'm sorry if I came across this strong. I have two daughters and it worries me that someone's daughter is asking for trouble and all I can do about it is give my opinion and advice and hope they follow it. Good luck I admit I was naive and this really is an eye opening experience. Lol, to be honest, when I was a bit suspicious of him not opening up enough and coming to meet me, I've often had this scenario playing at the back of my mind, a what if: he's a psycho and makes my life a hell when I visit him. No, dont apologize, you told me the right thing and I am glad you shared your personal view on this. ^-^ I guess, love made me stupid, blinded my judgment sometimes and I was afraid of screwing up the relationship because I am not the kind of person who plays another. But Im not in contact with him, nor do I ever want to be. God only brought him to my life as a lesson, and I learned from it. Thankyou for your advice.
Author noskilljustluck Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 I sent an email to a guy with the subject line "Photo of me naked in bed." It was me as a baby, naked in my crib. Well, he couldn't say I lied to him! Lol. I have had my fill of online ' relationship' to try this trick. n.n
ponchsox Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Send him a picture of a dick because that's what he is.
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