randuff Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I met a girl, at work, and hit it off right away. She was going through a break up with a boyfriend of 4 years at the time we started talking. well like I said we hit it off right away and had tons of fun. Fast forward 3 months and it has pretty much ended. We still talk (we work at the same place) and she knows how I feel about her. She still cares about me and I know this but not in the same way. I have to admit I fell pretty fast pretty hard. The issue is why I continue to have the feelings I do. I'll start off by saying she is a stunning beauty. Absolutely gorgeous and the sex was incredible. I have done my Ben Franklin list and the cons FAR outweigh the Pros yet I still keep thinking about her non stop. The biggest con is our age difference, she is 21 I am 40. I definitely don't look or act 40 and she certainly is way more mature than any 21 year old I've ever met and we have a lot in common. But the fact still remains that we have a 19 year difference. I know what most of the responses will probably be like and I will probably be in agreement with them however I can't shake these damn feelings I have for her.... Any advice would be appreciated.
lindsay1990 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 You were her rebound. She wasn't yours. That's where your feelings come from, imo. She was processing a lot during that time and what you guys had going got entangled with all that. Not saying it happened on purpose and as she cares about you, it was probably just her settling into her feelings now. It's not all about the fun, chemistry and circumstances, it's also about the timing and there's little we can do against the timing. I'd advise keeping casually in touch, doesn't sound like there's any ground for hard feelings so who knows? Maybe in the future you could reconnect romantically.
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