cekma Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Met a girl - we were both drunk, went to her place and hooked up. Had a great next morning of hanging out. We talked all week and made plans for this past Friday. Had a very good sober date, she wanted to try and hang out the next afternoon and I couldn't because I had a family bday. She texted me throughout the day though. I told her I was heading to a friends Bday that night in Brooklyn and extended the invite to her and her friends. She told me she would let me know, she was just going with the flow of what her friends wanted but that sounded like fun. That was the end of it, then all of a sudden at 12:45 am I get a text from her that only says "In Brooklyn..." I text her and ask her where and tell her I'm at my friends party she should come, its fun. I don't think my text went through so I leave her a vmail saying just tried to text you, you may or may not get it. I'm at so and so, where are you? Never heard back from her. I'm assuming she texted me drunk. The next day/last Sun around 5 pm I just text her saying hope you had a good night, I called you because I didn't think my text went through. It's now the following Thursday and I've not heard back. Yet she has been the one initiating communication. When I hung out with her the night I met her she had lost her purse and phone and I was able to find it. It's possible, but I doubt it that she lost her phone again. Do I text her tonight something funny/light just seeing if she's alive or leave it be? I'm baffled by what happened. I get that she was probably bombed but can't believe I haven't heard from her since.
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 It's up to you. One more friendly little "hi are you still alive?" text wouldn't be the end of the world or you could just leave it alone. Either way, the ball is still in her court & I wouldn't hold out a lot of hope.
Zahara Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Don't reach out anymore. Two text messages and a phone call is enough.
Author cekma Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 what the hell do you think happened lol. I'm debating writing to her. I mean the balls in her court, it's been 4 days. Is it possible the phone got lost etc? Sure, but I doubt it. Is it just a game? Insecurity? Her friends gave her a hard time for reaching out to me when drunk etc?
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Unless she's dead in a ditch somewhere, does it really matter what happened? Speculating will just make you crazy but you have to accept the fact that you may never know.
Zahara Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 what the hell do you think happened lol. I'm debating writing to her. I mean the balls in her court, it's been 4 days. Is it possible the phone got lost etc? Sure, but I doubt it. Is it just a game? Insecurity? Her friends gave her a hard time for reaching out to me when drunk etc? You both were drunk. Had sex. Then you met again once more. Then she disappeared. People don't respond for a reason. They either met someone else. They lost interest. They got bored. They didn't feel like seeing you again. It's not a mystery. It happens all the time.
Saurren Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Yep its over because you just explained you had a one night stand and a great next morning. Easy as that she's not the type to get tied down.
Author cekma Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Why all the asking me to hang out next day/texting me all throughout the day and even texting me that night letting me know that she's nearby? That's where I'm baffled. I mean she could also just be nuts, and if so, it is what it is.
Saurren Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Why all the asking me to hang out next day/texting me all throughout the day and even texting me that night letting me know that she's nearby? That's where I'm baffled. I mean she could also just be nuts, and if so, it is what it is. It's like you've never done this before. It's called push and pull. She did the pulling in and got your attention and now she is doing the pushing to get inside your head.
Zahara Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Why all the asking me to hang out next day/texting me all throughout the day and even texting me that night letting me know that she's nearby? That's where I'm baffled. I mean she could also just be nuts, and if so, it is what it is. It's no different from guys who tell you they had a lovely time after a first date and would like to see you again and then you never hear from them. No different from someone you've dated for two years that tells you they love you just as they walk out the door to go to work only to tell you they want to break-up the next day. People will tell you crap. Maybe she did it because she felt it was nice to have some guy pay her attention and then decided that she really wasn't into it. So she disappeared. Who knows? But when someone is ignoring you, don't go chasing them. They're sending you a message with their silence. 1
Author cekma Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 been played, and have played. I've just never honestly gotten the old hey it's 1 am and I'm near you trick. I thought that text was more like... where are you, let's hook up. Oh well. So am I the biggest fool in the world if I reach out? I guess so.
Saurren Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Well don't let us stop you from trying your best effort to see her again. Maybe you'll meet her again at the same club, you never know.
Author cekma Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 I might try one more time. Probably not. I could tell leading up to going out she was a tease, there was some damaged goods hints being indicated too, along with **** like her vs roommates and stuff. I seem to always go for these types... siiigh.
Saurren Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I might try one more time. Probably not. I could tell leading up to going out she was a tease, there was some damaged goods hints being indicated too, along with **** like her vs roommates and stuff. I seem to always go for these types... siiigh. It's alright the next one will run along and you'll sweep her off her feet and repeat this process again until you get it right.
vanek26 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I normally would never advocate doing this, but you can always have a friend of yours send her a text and see if she responds. Girls I've been ignoring have done this to me before and I fell for it. My guess is your friend will get a timely "hey who is this?" response and your fears will be confirmed. It's probably better than texting her every couple of days hoping for an answer 1
Author cekma Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 but I am pretty sure she is nuts. If anything, I'm just gonna send her a funny dumb text, like she would send to me. Not make any mention about the incident or anything in case she does respond, so it's not weird or looks like I've been thinking about what happened.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 but I am pretty sure she is nuts. If anything, I'm just gonna send her a funny dumb text, like she would send to me. Not make any mention about the incident or anything in case she does respond, so it's not weird or looks like I've been thinking about what happened. But she obviously knows that you have been thinking about it, or you wouldn't have texted and called her. She hasn't been interested enough to respond or try to communicate with you at all. Your ego is a little bruised; don't punish yourself further by sending yet another text that goes unnoticed. My guess is that she met someone else. Let this one go. If you're pretty sure she's nuts, why the heck do you even want to talk to her again?
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