TylerDurdenn Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I miss the old her, I don't miss who she is now, or who she was within the past 6 months, so even if we were to reconcile (highly unlikely), would I want the new 'her'? I don't know. I miss the old her that would spend time with me no matter what we were doing, I miss the old her that would squeeze me and say 'you better not leave me, or else!', I miss the old her that would wait outside my house for me to finish work.. I don't miss the social media whore, I don't miss the make up and I definitely don't miss the obsession with going clubbing!! Sorry for the random/pointless thread, just thought I'd post my mind! Stay strong! 7
ponchsox Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 A couple of weeks before I was dumped, I remember telling her that I missed the old her. Looking back, she was not the same person I'm the first year of our relationship. The first year she got me hooked, the second year all she did was take and act cold towards me. And yet I stayed with her.
xUnknown Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 A couple of weeks before I was dumped, I remember telling her that I missed the old her. Looking back, she was not the same person I'm the first year of our relationship. The first year she got me hooked, the second year all she did was take and act cold towards me. And yet I stayed with her. Same with me man. It was the honeymoon phase. After that, I/you started noticing things that you were so blinded by before....yet we both stuck around.
Reels Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Human changes really very quick. It's not obvious or confirmed when they will change. Indeed, i had also missed "the old her" a lot, i couldn't believe what she had became in last days either.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Human changes really very quick. It's not obvious or confirmed when they will change. Indeed, i had also missed "the old her" a lot, i couldn't believe what she had became in last days either. It's amazing how you can miss an old 'version' of someone.. Finding today very hard, I wonder if she is thinking of me?
LostInTheWild Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 (edited) Meh, I've been the same. The only thing that changed me was someone beating me back into my childhood shell. I'm back, out again, and feel like I'm 6'2" tall -- even though I'm a foot less than that. No one can make changes but you. I changed one thing about myself and all else followed naturally -- I just quit smoking. Just stopped. Feel great. What I'm saying is, no one really changes unless their lives/circumstances change drastically. Otherwise, it's just chemicals and built-up ideals that make you believe someone has changed. Edited November 9, 2013 by LostInTheWild
rec88 Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Dang this really hit home. The person I once knew was ambitious, caring, and understood exactly who she was and what was important to her. The new version who has 'found herself' can't see more than a few days in front of her and has abandoned the people who care about her the most. But it's ok because she's following her heart, and because everything happens for a reason. A lazy approach to life if you ask me. *sigh* What have I learned about people changing? "Bad company corrupts good character." 2
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 Dang this really hit home. The person I once knew was ambitious, caring, and understood exactly who she was and what was important to her. The new version who has 'found herself' can't see more than a few days in front of her and has abandoned the people who care about her the most. But it's ok because she's following her heart, and because everything happens for a reason. A lazy approach to life if you ask me. *sigh* What have I learned about people changing? "Bad company corrupts good character." Wow love the quote.. 100% agree.
Reels Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 It's amazing how you can miss an old 'version' of someone.. Finding today very hard, I wonder if she is thinking of me? Yes same, wonder if she ever thinks about me now, and if she does, what she thinks? Some questions remain unsolved.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 I've committed a sin, I've just broken NC big time.. I went round to see her. Her eyes lit up when she saw me, and she immediately hugged me. We sat on her bed and we spoke for an hour, it was just like (the good) old times. I had to ask her if she ever thought we'd get back together and the answer was no, which crushed me yet again. Before I left she told me to keep in contact, I told her I couldn't as I didn't have her number, she asked if I want her number but when I replied yes she said oh well you're not having it. As soon as I left she text me a 'blowing kiss' emotion and said thank you for coming to see me, it was nice to see you handsome. So here I am back to square one again, deeper in love with her than ever whilst she couldn't really give a ****. I am an idiot. DO NOT BREAK NC.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 All I am is a ****ing shoulder to cry on, she is texting me telling me how ill she is and that she is home alone but doesn't want anyone near her. WTF
Nubcake Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Wow I'm sure this would happen to me if my ex didn't ignore me completely and was somewhat cool with me. I don't even want to think about falling back to square one and this is a good reminder for me not to text her on her upcoming birthday which is sadly the only thing I'm looking forward to. Wish you the best man. 1
Amaury Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Yea I miss the "old her" the one who would call me when she woke up and when she would leave work and the one who couldn't sleep unless I was on the phone, the one who would wait outside my job to come home with me, and the one who wanted us to be happy. It wasn't the honey moon phase because we were perfect for over a yr. Then she reconnected with her old friends and then all she wanted was to go out with her friends (without me) get high and drunk every chance she had. All of a sudden she loved me and wasn't in love with me. Then after we broke up she hurt me in ways I never thought ANYONE would, that's when I realized that I was in love with the memories and not the person. I excepted the fact that things will NEVER BE THE SAME even if we did got back together and the sooner you realize that the sooner you can move on and finally be happy. Let her go bro she will never love you the same and all you will be is a shoulder to cry on or some poor sap to boost her ego when the other guy she wants doesnt want her. 1
Omei Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I know how you feel, how after a breakup when you find you miss them it is always the version we fell in love with, and you constantly have to re tell yourself that person doesn't even exist anymore!
Omei Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I've committed a sin, I've just broken NC big time.. I went round to see her. Her eyes lit up when she saw me, and she immediately hugged me. We sat on her bed and we spoke for an hour, it was just like (the good) old times. I had to ask her if she ever thought we'd get back together and the answer was no, which crushed me yet again. Before I left she told me to keep in contact, I told her I couldn't as I didn't have her number, she asked if I want her number but when I replied yes she said oh well you're not having it. As soon as I left she text me a 'blowing kiss' emotion and said thank you for coming to see me, it was nice to see you handsome. So here I am back to square one again, deeper in love with her than ever whilst she couldn't really give a ****. I am an idiot. DO NOT BREAK NC. What a cunt lol sorry. She's CLEARLY thriving on your pain.
GatsbyMH Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I often wonder if people are so oblivious and inconsiderate of the other person or if they really are enjoying someone else's misery. I'd hate to think that. I really think that people get so focused on their own issues they can't see anything past their own noses. That's what I'd like to think at least.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Tyler she had you at one time, and now I guarantee she has her eyes set on someone else, sorry man that's why she won't get back with you but treats you like that. Yeah the mind is a ****ed up thing. I miss who my ex used to be too. She completely changed and lost all her integrity that she used to have. It's really sad. She was a chameleon girlfriend though, maybe yours was too?
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 She continued to text me about her illness today, so after work I went to a shop and bought medicine, flowers, drink and chocolate for her and surprised her after work.. She was very happy to see me again and appreciated the gifts. When will I learn?
Nubcake Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 She continued to text me about her illness today, so after work I went to a shop and bought medicine, flowers, drink and chocolate for her and surprised her after work.. She was very happy to see me again and appreciated the gifts. When will I learn? If you're trying to get her back you need to be upfront about it and push it. She will just keep loving the attention if you just simply pamper her then one day start telling you how she is interested in someone or how she hooked up with someone. When that day comes you really going to be crushed.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 Something strange is happening today.
lovecomesandgoes Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I feel for you. I miss my old boyfriend too. Loving, patient, funny as hell, straight up spontaneous and just a load of awesomeness twisted into one person. Slowly he turned into angry, impatient, tired, from time to time he will surprise me and still talked to me every single day multiple times, but I just couldn't stop missing the old him. He stopped talking to me last time we had a big fight (over absolutely nothing) for a good 4 days until I contacted him again, and he asked me if I missed him, I said no ****, and he said he felt completely empty without me in his life. But I don't want to keep feeding into his childishness and anger, I keep thinking about the crazy fun times we've had and I doubt I'll like another guy as much as him for a very long time, but I am worn out and I find peace hanging out with my girlfriends or just lying in my bed. This is life, people all grow, and sometimes, they don't grow together, they grow apart. 1
FortunateSon Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I struggle with this the "old her" too. After 6 year together, with one break up and reconciliation in the middle, she was never the same woman I fell in love with. After we split 6 months ago for good, I still miss and love the "old her". I wish the bad times were more memorable than the good!!
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