Miranda123 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Okay everyone, here's my problem I'm from America and have recently moved to Germany, all by myself, 3 months ago. After the first month of being here I met a really great German guy and even tho I have tired to pace myself, I'm falling fast for this guy. Our relationship has been great and I felt like we have been on the same page. Hes called me his girlfriend, tells me he misses me, hes even said he loved me, twice. I even have my own tooth brush at his place, so yeah, you could say its prettttttty serious! lol JOKING So here is the problem, as of last Thursday the guy has went M.I.A. We usually talk once a day or every other day and last Thursday (one week ago) his phone has been off. The last thing we spoke about was getting together on Monday, as we both had different plans for the weekend. We never made any set time, I just told him I would let him know how late I had to work. We both have an app on our phones that allows us to text for free. The app displays the last time each contact as lanched the app and his says he hasn't opened the app since Thursday. When I call it, it says the "phone can not connect to server." I figured he either lost his phone, broke his phone, or forgot to pay the bill. Since it has now been a week I am starting to wonder where the hell he is? He also doesn't have a facebook so he can't contact me there. He does have my email address but has not contacted me thur email. I texted his bestfriend yesterday just asking him if he knew what had happened, and that I was a little concerned. BUT, of course, the friend never wrote me back. Soooo, should I, A: just go over to his place and knock on his door, I mean, I am concerned this is just not like him. Or, B: Try to keep my pride and wait to see if he ever turns his phone back on and/or contacts me. I mean we live in the 21st century. If you want to contact someone, you can find a way. So am I over thinking this? Should I just go over their? Or shjould I let him do all the chasing, his phone is messed up, its up to him to contact me. At this point I am pretty upset with him. You don't just go M.I.A. for a week.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Well, there certainly is no "stalker" element involved. And you are well within the bounds of common decency to go a knockin' in order to inquire as to his lack of communication. But the sooner you make that inquiry, the sooner you'd be able to move-on in the event that he got back together with an old girlfriend, or something.
Author Miranda123 Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 I say if I'm having sex with you, I have the right to go knocking on your door. But thats just what I think. I don't know where I stand on having the right to atcually go knocking on his door. If he actually cares about me, and hasn't talked to me in a week then he would be happy to see me. But I say if it turns him off, Then he was already over me and I'll know instead of wondering and I can start moving on!
Grumpybutfun Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Miranda:Did he act odd the last time you saw/spoke to him? Distant?G
beach Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Yes, find out what's going on, go to his door and demand answers. He knows how to find you - yet he hasn't made the effort for a week? I'd want to know what changed! Go now! You've waited long enough (too long actually). What were his plans over the weekend? Maybe he's seeing someone else?
Author Miranda123 Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Guys, I went! No one answered the door! I left a note...... with my number on it so he SHOULD contact soon. And so the msytery continues.... Will keep everyone posted on this
greenfairie Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I don't blame you for feeling upset, girl. I would be concerned too. I don't look at it as a stalker thing at all. Maybe contact his family if he hasn't replied? Oh, and what's the name of that app you text for free? I would like to know because my boyfriend's from England, so I would definitely love to text him for free. Would appreciate it, thanks. Take care and I hope he responds soon!
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