Noma Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 So.... Had a 4 yr relationship. He broke up with me in Feb and I moved out. We were in LC for about 4 months then started to hang out as friends. Started seeing each other again end of July. In sept I moved to a new place. For just over 2 months I haven't even stayed at my new place. When I offered him space, he would still invite me over. We had planned dates, and lots of fun together. Talked about us some. This past Sunday he ended up at dinner with another girl.... They ran into each other at the bar watching the game and were hungry... Monday morning he wakes up and must have realized we were in a relationship. He said I should start staying at my place more, but leave our cat at his place, only stay some of the time. I was shocked. He said we rushed in to things, and wasn't sure if he was ready to be back together. Said when we broke up it is because he thought it was what was best at the time and now he isn't sure. He wants to actually date. Makes sense. I got jealous of the dinner he had, and him talking to another girl. Now he says I should move the cat out too. He would like to date, both of us keep our options open... Like we would starting over. It makes sense. I was hurt and pissed at the time, but it makes sense. We never should have jumped right back in to things, he said he saw some of the old issues coming up, and would like to date to see if we could work on them. He is being honest. He says he doesn't want to string me along. I told him EXACTLY what I want. He said he is not ready to give me that right now. But wants to date to see where it goes. And talk more along the way this time. I believe him. But this is really hard! I told him I want 2 weeks of space and then we can date. Told him I expect him to plan a fun date and pick me up- do all the things people do when they first start dating! . He called. He agreed and said he can help me out with some things I need done at the apt as well. How do you start over? It does kinda sound like fun, but it means I also have to be prepared that he might also date other people? Has anyone done this? Advice??
Fufu Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I'm confused, you guys are broken up. He broke up with you in Feb but throughout the 4 months you guys had been contacting each other and had planned dates.. What's all this about? Are you guys having an open relationship?
Author Noma Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 (edited) Throughout 4 months we had contact because we work together. Then started hanging out as friends. Then started planning dates while staying together again. During that time we weren't seeing other people. This dinner he had was with a friend. I am 100% positive about this. He told me all about how they ran in to each other... And called me before he left the house to go watch the game because he couldn't get it at the house. His plan was to stay home. Now we are starting over. Isn't that kind of the best way to do things??? Edited November 7, 2013 by Noma
Author Noma Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 How I see it is we are going back to the very beginning. Where you date non exclusively for a while to see where things go. Doesn't mean I will always be available....
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