JDPT Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Again us dumpees always find a way to apologize even if we were wronged or just for no reason, amazing how the brain operates. 2
JDPT Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Oh and her parents clearly do not have the slightest concept of boundaries. If they knew better they would just simply leave you be and let you heal since you can't do it on your own.
barky2 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Damn, was hoping it was a jack in the box and you wrote here how bad it scared you :/ Barky
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 i thought it was gonna be a restraining order
Author xUnknown Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 haha, I know. It was the anxiety that was getting the best of me and my thoughts all day. Yeah, it really shows how much they care about me and appreciate the memories we all shared together. They are good people, and I've gotta look at it this as a positive. I've touched all their lives in such a way that they would do all that for me, when they didn't need to by any means. 3
Author xUnknown Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 i thought it was gonna be a restraining order ...Good one. Not sure why you would have thought that?
JDPT Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Now you are just being delusional and subliminally getting your hopes up and making yourself think it's best this way.
Author xUnknown Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Again us dumpees always find a way to apologize even if we were wronged or just for no reason, amazing how the brain operates. What do you mean? What did I apologize for? Oh and her parents clearly do not have the slightest concept of boundaries. If they knew better they would just simply leave you be and let you heal since you can't do it on your own. I understand where you're coming from, but I'm just gonna look at it as a positive. They felt compelled and cared enough to do such a gesture - one that they didn't need to by any means. I sent a card, and had no expectations of a response. They cared enough to do so.
Author xUnknown Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 (edited) Now you are just being delusional and subliminally getting your hopes up and making yourself think it's best this way. Getting my hopes up how? That this is HER way of reaching out to me? I didn't think that for a second. I saw it as they were being more than nice. Sorry bro, I don't follow. Edited November 7, 2013 by xUnknown
Canadiangirl78 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I don't understand some people on here.. I think that was a nice gesture from the ex's parents, why make a bigger deal out of it then it needs to be? I get the feeling some people just want to bring others down to where they are so they feel better about themselves....but what do I know.. 2
crederer Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Yah my ex's parents did something similar. After a couple of weeks of being broken up they sent me a nice e-mail basically saying they appreciate everything I've done, they'll miss me, they thought of me as family, etc, etc. It made me quite emotional but all in all I'm glad they did it. I don't think being emotional after something like that is a set back in my recovery. The cookies thing though, I dunno if I'd be able to eat those. It'd be too symbolic to me, eating the last cookie sort of thing......
Author xUnknown Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Yah my ex's parents did something similar. After a couple of weeks of being broken up they sent me a nice e-mail basically saying they appreciate everything I've done, they'll miss me, they thought of me as family, etc, etc. It made me quite emotional but all in all I'm glad they did it. I don't think being emotional after something like that is a set back in my recovery. The cookies thing though, I dunno if I'd be able to eat those. It'd be too symbolic to me, eating the last cookie sort of thing...... Yeah I hear ya on that. I'm glad they did. I got emotional too...I think it helped me get out a lot of what I was holding in. I too don't think it set me back at all. The cookies were pretty darn good hah. I hear ya on the whole symbolic thing....I think the exact same way. I didn't think about it until you had mentioned it. But I think I'd feel guilty if I didn't have some...like they had done such a nice gesture and I didn't give myself the chance to enjoy or appreciate them. Well that's just me at least.
Zahara Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 That was so sweet. Had tears in my eyes. Well, that certainly speaks of how highly they regard you and what a wonderful impression you've made on them. You can walk away knowing that there a people out there that love you and value how special you are. Have a cookie! 2
30andsad Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I think things like this are definitely a positive. I reached out to my exe's parents after the break as well and received a very similarly heartfelt reply. They even sent me a birthday card and signed that they loved and missed me. With a LTR, it's easy to forget that families get emotion from this too not just in missing someone they liked and respected in their family, but in the hurt it causes everyone involved as well. My mom told me my dad cried soon after my breakup just because of how much it hurt him to see me hurt so. 1
Author xUnknown Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 I think things like this are definitely a positive. I reached out to my exe's parents after the break as well and received a very similarly heartfelt reply. They even sent me a birthday card and signed that they loved and missed me. With a LTR, it's easy to forget that families get emotion from this too not just in missing someone they liked and respected in their family, but in the hurt it causes everyone involved as well. My mom told me my dad cried soon after my breakup just because of how much it hurt him to see me hurt so. I know my parents went through the same....She not only broke up with me, but broke up our families.
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