Mariposa10 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Thanks for the support, Mariposa I want to picture you know cringing/half-smiling in a "what the ridiculousness" way instead of just mortified. I hope you move towards this more, but it's okay you're not the first or the last to say something like this thinking it's super romantic, because we are coming out a place of love so there's nothing to be ashamed of. You loved him and were emotional, there's no shame in that at all. You got desperate because you were clinging to the guy you loved. It's not dignified but I'd rather be this vulnerable than act out in aggression from the beginning, as some people do. Been there, at least we're not alone in this one. At least it didn't happen in person if that's any comfort. And again there's nothing to be ashamed of, not something to brag about I think it elicits more sympathy than pity, you know? Yay for salvaging something from the humilliation! Definitely don't worry about the waiting for you comment, I think you totally undid that and he's definitely not thinking you're still waiting. I felt similarly when I rejected breadcrumbs, ha. Like "No, I will not accept these breadcrumbs and I'm not only disregarding but I am wrapping them up in some FFCK YOU and sending it back so you can shove it, BECAUSE YOU'RE HORRIBLE. That's right, and stay away from me. Good luck with your life". Ha. And definitely NC. I think only people like us who really fell low with the pursuing or the begging feel this way about NC. But to me I was never even TEMPTED to break it, I just wanted some more NC to recover some face (since I didn't save any). NC saved my life, and I'm suuuuure ex was surprised that I had the balls to pull through with it. Unless of course he's found this site and discovered me. In which case FFCK YOU STILL AND FOREVER and your stupid family too. Yeah, it has to be a little bit weird to have someone beg you and do as much as possible to show you that the relationship can be saved and then see that person disappear... That's gotta hurt your ego a little bit. I've forgiven myself and I've learned so much, so I'm happy. Same here, after I made up my mind about NC, I never have felt like breaking it. That's soooo out of the question. And yes, when the first month went by my ex must've freaked out when I didn't contact him. I would always contact him, not this time though. By now, he must know I'm not gonna contact him anymore.
lindsay1990 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I've forgiven myself and I've learned so much, so I'm happy. Me too. Sometimes I almost think it's not too shabby a trade-off. I feel like I horribly lost my innocence (in a way that I could have gone my whole life without) but at the same time I feel so much "wiser".
tjr Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Lol okay i was just being ignored... I sent a silly message like man my boobs look good (they did lol!!!) and poof hes like what, so i just told him the truth that i thought he wouldn't recieve it laughed it off a bit. Lucky i didnt send what i really was gonna. Sad that a boob message is less harmful than a i miss you etc. Good thing im at a stage that im not so worried about his rejection. Haha
AnyaNova Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 oh, jeez I had read this wrong. I think you should probably have deleted it and called or emailed privately with an apology. But I guess an apology is an apology either way. I mean, the awkwardness was already there with it being on FB but maybe you can still delete it now? Just so it's not THERE. couldn't hurt right? I would have I could have. He wouldn't have picked up no matter what the reason, of that I am sure, I desperately wanted to give him more of a personal apology, but I knew in my gut that even if he never saw the post, and didnt even know that I needed to apologize, he wouldn't pick up.
Sugarkane Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Completely cut off exes and haven't spoken to them since. Was depressed and lost a lot of weight. Could fit into youth/ kids sizes. Rebounded for quite a while. 1
aybc123 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I guess similar to others. For me i got all pissy when she didnt reply to something heartfelt i sent a day after she told me she had been on a date with someone new and so blocked/defriended her, after that just the standard texts/ missed calls i guess 5 of each over a 24 hour period a week later when i tried to mend fences, plus one drunken text professing my love. After that i got the hint. Still feel pretty cringeworthy about it though. Knowing that other people do this stuff (including my ex with me!) makes me feel slightly better about it though. Just about at the stage of laughing at myself over it.
Omei Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Think about scuicide how and where. I didn't do it tho. (lol if that made you laugh) But I think asking my friend to stay over in case is pretty drastic. 1
toolforgrowth Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 What do you mean "until that light shined on us"? Literally? so I guess you got caught? Almost. I won't say exactly where our car was parked (because it is SO ghetto and it embarrasses the hell out of me) but a police car showed up a few hundred feet away and flashed that big light in the direction of our car. We were decent by the time we passed it. In retrospect, I think they probably thought we were doing or selling drugs there, but still. It was a huge eye opener that that relationship wasn't for me. And that I needed to stop doing such childish things. It was fun at first, but got really old after a while.
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