Author Chris715 Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Get over your pride and do it. You need help. I mean, you were thinking of committing suicide to get your ex to pay attention to you. You need counseling badly. You don't know my parents man. They would not take something like this well and I don't see how talking to a random therapist about any of this would help me to be honest. Feeling incredibly trapped today with no way out.
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 You mentioned something about mental health at school . . . start there. If you don't want to put this on your parents' health insurance they may be able to find you low or no cost options. If your parents are your only option, use the insurance. Your parents don't care about the money. They care about you & want you ALIVE. They may not see how a "random therapist" will help you but if their other option is losing you, they will happily let you talk to whomever you want.
Author Chris715 Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 You mentioned something about mental health at school . . . start there. If you don't want to put this on your parents' health insurance they may be able to find you low or no cost options. If your parents are your only option, use the insurance. Your parents don't care about the money. They care about you & want you ALIVE. They may not see how a "random therapist" will help you but if their other option is losing you, they will happily let you talk to whomever you want. I'll look into counseling at school one more time to see if there's any options even when I'm withdrawn from most of my classes. Again, I don't know how a counselor's going to help but I guess it's worth a try. I made my ex go to a school counselor while she was depressed and she HATED it, so it's kind of put me off to the whole idea of therapy and meds in general. 1
Minneloa Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 First of all, please call the suicide hotline if you feel self-destructive or are having thoughts about harming yourself. In addition to listening to and talking with you, the staff may also be able to guide you towards some resources like low-cost counseling. It sounds like your emotions about the breakup may have morphed into a generalized depression, which medication can sometimes alleviate. Could you make an appointment to see your regular doctor and discuss the situation with him/her? You have mentioned before that you don't have a strong support system, and feelings of social isolation can exacerbate depression. Counseling might be helpful for you because a trained therapist can offer emotional support, provide a place for you to share and process your feelings, and help you find and implement strategies to cope. I know you are in a lot of pain right now, and that it's hard to take action when you are emotionally overwhelmed. But I urge you to call you doctor and/or the counseling center TODAY so that you can get a professional opinion and hopefully some relief. M
Minneloa Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 If you are in the US, USA NATIONAL Suicide & Crisis Hotlines - When You Feel You Can't Go On... Call a Suicide Hotline. / SuicideHotlines.com - Direction for immediate crisis intervention for the gravely suicidal & treatment for major clinical suicidal depression.
Never Again Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 (edited) You don't know my parents man. They would not take something like this well and I don't see how talking to a random therapist about any of this would help me to be honest. Feeling incredibly trapped today with no way out. Your parents don't need to know why you're going. Doctor/patient confidentiality and all that. You can still be honest with your parents and tell them you need to see someone because of stress/depression/anxiety issues that this past year has given you. You'd be surprised what talking to a knowledgeable third party can do. After my ex left me, right at the time I really needed her most, I started going to a grief counselor. It was something I should have done months before, but I was too busy spending all of my time with the (ex)girlfriend...and then the real trouble began. Even though it was too little too late to help the relationship, it was something I needed to do for me. Had I done it before, maybe things would be different, but I didn't...so they're not. Regardless. Talking to someone that won't judge, that understands the mind behind the problems, that will actively listen...it helps. I had plenty of awful things this past year as well, so I can relate. I didn't think opening up about it would help. I was sorely wrong and paid a hefty price. My entire emotional well being. Be good to yourself. Edited November 8, 2013 by Pfenixphire 1
crederer Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I had an ex that threatened to kill herself a few times after I left her. I felt sympathy at first but became very angry with her emotional manipulation. The last straw was when she called me and I didn't answer. She left a voice mail saying "I'm jumping off the bridge (big bridge by her house). I can't take it anymore. I will love you forever. Good bye." So I rush down to the bridge, she's not there and there's no crowd around or anything so I assume she didn't do it. I got to her house to check in on her and she's making dinner acting completely fine as if she didn't just completely mess with my emotions. I yelled at her. I told her i don't want to have anything to do with her ever again. Don't call me. If you're going to kill yourself I'll hear about it in the news. I was soooooooo pissed.
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