Locust Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Over the past weeks I met a girl on Omegle who lives in Poland and been writing emails back and forth and did voice chat on Skype (no video). During our conversation I sense her voice was too light and I asked how old are you and she said 17. I was like omg, you too young. And she saw my couple of my photos on Facebook and said I was handsome. I was like in my mind I really doubt some freaking 17 year old even know what looks handsome or not. She only 17 what she knows. I deleted her contacts since it is illegal age. I looked at her photos and yes she looks about her age.
Author Locust Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Dude, meet a girl in real life....or at least in your own country....or at the very least in a country you plan to go to in the near future. I would but seem American women are not interested in me. I don't think American women like any kind of olive or brown skin color very much.
Author Locust Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 What race are you? I'm mixed. I'm Indian, Salvadorian and got some Portuguese in me.
Author Locust Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 (edited) Interesting mix. I couldn't even venture to guess what you look like. I don't think you would have problems getting girls with that combination. Although, as an avid traveler, I do agree that it is easier to get girls outside of the US as an American man than inside. I heard the same thing as well. Edited November 7, 2013 by Locust
Author Locust Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Pro move backing away from that one, seventeen is underage for a reason. Shlt, when I was seventeen....I think I was playing Pokemon. As for American girls, give it time. I don't know how old you are but unless you're 40 and still single, you sound like you're giving up a little early. I'm 27 years old. I believe I could date someone but I nervous and shy to go after what I really want. I tried to approach this one girl in my class but I lack in ability to maintain a conversation with her and therefore did not get anywhere much.
Tayla Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 heres some statistics- see link : Age and Sex Composition in the United States: 2011 - People and Households - U.S. Census Bureau So that blows your generalization that "AMERICAN" women all have a dis-interest. Heck we are the melting pot of nations ....So lets knock that myth off the table. Leave under-age well enough alone. Yes they can have opinions and deserve acknowledged, when I was 17 I certainly knew the parameters of what was dating material..and what a true gentleman was....The terminology "handsome" is subjective... I think Kevin Spacey is handsome. Yet others may not.
Author Locust Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Well that's a bummer. I've dated people like that though, I'm a firm believer that there's an entire subset of people out there for every person. People who are quiet sometimes catch the eye of someone who's louder or more outspoken, and consider it bonus points that they're foreign. You can try online dating if you'd like, but disregarding my massive distrust of online dating in general, I feel you may be setting yourself up for failure in a way by beginning a relationship in too comfortable of a situation, if that makes any sense. If your problem is interacting and conversation, then the easier road of online will still only work so long. Does that make sense? I would say I'm the kind of person who feels confident behind the computer but not face to face. I avoid any good looking girls because I feel intimidated by them and feel their standards are way above than I could ever provide. There is this Asian girl who talks to me in class and she sat next to me during our last class meeting, but she good looking so I would not go for her so I rule her out. Even though she is young but having someone feel some physical attraction toward you feels great since I never had this kind of attention before. I wish I could get this here at home from someone.
MrCastle Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 So that blows your generalization that "AMERICAN" women all have a dis-interest. Heck we are the melting pot of nations ....So lets knock that myth off the table. Depends on many things. From the neighborhood he lives in to the women he's going after. As a New Yorker who lives just outside the city, I've seen a stark difference in my success. Where I live (suburbs) is predominantly white, and very little interracial hookups going on. When I'm in the city, I get looks from all different kinds of women. Also, keep in mind, NYC is a major liberal, culturally dense city, known for its tolerance and acceptance of all groups of people, but a half hour drive north, and that all changes. I can only imagine how it is for those who live in cities/states that are not known for their open minded views. That doesn't mean you give up though, you accept that dating will be harder for you sometimes if you're non white and just move on. 1
Author Locust Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Right, that comfort is what I would worry about with you. You'd be on solid ground until it came time to meet up, and then what? You should try going out with some friends at the same time so if you find a girl it isn't as awkward and the attention isn't so much on you. Have you talked about your insecurities with anyone else though? It can be hard to be socially insecure, depending on the severity therapy can be very very helpful. Not really. I'm very social with men and do good meeting people in general. I'm just feel the pressure as you said and I tend to really lock up a lot when trying to carry a conversation. I guess the issue is I'm trying to figure words that will make her interested in me but then it fails anyway and that is what I been doing. I strike a brief conversation with a girl asking her if she was there for the wine tasting and she replied wit ha detail answer, but I froze like I usually do. I run out of things to say because my brain is scrambling for the "right words".
Author Locust Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Depends on many things. From the neighborhood he lives in to the women he's going after. As a New Yorker who lives just outside the city, I've seen a stark difference in my success. Where I live (suburbs) is predominantly white, and very little interracial hookups going on. When I'm in the city, I get looks from all different kinds of women. Also, keep in mind, NYC is a major liberal, culturally dense city, known for its tolerance and acceptance of all groups of people, but a half hour drive north, and that all changes. I can only imagine how it is for those who live in cities/states that are not known for their open minded views. That doesn't mean you give up though, you accept that dating will be harder for you sometimes if you're non white and just move on. I was thinking of moving out of the country and go to Europe and I believe my dating will be much better. American women are pretty harsh and strict.
MrCastle Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I was thinking of moving out of the country and go to Europe and I believe my dating will be much better. American women are pretty harsh and strict. If you're serious about that, I would take a trip to various countries and see how you feel, not just in terms of dating, but in adapting to the culture. Personally, despite some dating challenges I've faced, this is the only place I can live. Because I love the culture and the freedoms and everything else that comes with living here.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Wait just a second..OP, you're 27? And this girl is 17? Regardless of troubles dating in the U.S., you'd be wise to step away from the this one. She's still in high school, for heaven's sake
Author Locust Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Wait just a second..OP, you're 27? And this girl is 17? Regardless of troubles dating in the U.S., you'd be wise to step away from the this one. She's still in high school, for heaven's sake After meeting someone in Europe and having some interest in me it does show some light that Europe might be a better place for me. 27 years old and have not dated once, I rather give up my US citizenship if that is what it takes to live in another country for a better life. Because women here just don't work for me.
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