XNemesisX Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 For those of you have read my posts I just realized something today ---- ***** THIS SH*T I DON'T GIVE A RAT'S A** anymore I'm sick and tired of everything being on my ex's terms. Even during the relationship it was his way or the highway. And now he is saying he would consider giving ME a second chance. Does he think I'm going to call him again? ***** NO. When I suggested that this Saturday we could see eachother he says he has to help some friend out at his store. (When we were together he would say the same thing but would come back home in the evening and we would do something) but oh I guess this is going to take all night. And Sunday? Oh he is going to church with this old friend of his. So he is busy. Duh. I should have known. For the past 2 months he is always "busy" like he can't even talk to me for 5 minutes on the phone. Acts like he is always in some big hurry. Sure, he works full time at a low stress job, and has been preparing for the LSAT and his law school applications but my God...you know I'm busy too. I have worked, went to school full time, studied but I have one *****ing day a week to see someone, or I could at least talk to him on the phone for 5 minutes. You know what? I'm done with this. Once his LSAT application sh*t is over and he calls me I'm just going to be unavailable. Its not a matter of IF it is a matter of WHEN. You know, he has taken this too far. I had been open to the idea of reconciliation but there is such a thing as making someone wait for some reciprocation TOO LONG. He doesn't need to worry. I will never be around for him again. Good luck to him. I just realized this today, I was thinking oh so its only about what is convenient for him, when is a good time for him, what he wants to do, SCREW IT. I do want to say thanks to everyone who has helped me on LS. I am even sick of talking about his selfish a**. I know I must be getting over it. You all have helped me so much. And if he thinks I'm going to sit around and wait on him to have 3 minutes for me, then he is in for a rude awakening. At this point I don't care at all if I ever even hear from him again. He has officially ticked me off and I am just fed up. I have been very understanding of him having to study and work, but guess what? No more. Enough is enough. Sorry just had to vent.
HokeyReligions Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 !! Hang on to your post and read it over and over whenever you experience a weak moment. Frame it and hang it on your wall!
savethedrama4allama Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 Seriously, print your post. It'll be hard but stick with it. Don't back down.
NiCoLe20 Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 wow thats amazing....thats like reading the post i just started the other day!! im in the same boat girl... im fed up with him too!! im tired of always wanting to see him when he doesnt do the same. he doesnt even try to be alone with me..im done with it too!!! im not talkin to him right now and probably wont through out the weekend. lets meet some new MEN that can actually appreciate their girl!!!! he wont find someone better than me and i know this..i was nothing but good to him...oh well i dont give a sh** anymore
beejsea2 Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 All I have to say is that I agree!! I can't keep thinking the what if's and the why's and if he calls. I need to take care of me and worry only about me!! When I start feeling down I come on here and read post like yours and others to make me feel good, make me feel empowered!! Like I've said many times I believe in karma....he'll get his some day!
tokyo Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 Sounds good I do think he´s manipulating you in some ways and it´s better for you to leave him alone. You were wondering before if no contact is a good idea when you want to get someone back. I think if they realize their mistakes one day, they´ll come back. We will always remember people who had some impact on us, whether it be for telling us the truth about us which we did not want to hear or for having loved us. We may forget the hurt and the pain and get over them, but not about the good things someone did to us. He wants you back and he knows *you* want him back. If you give in, you´ll find yourself in the same vicious circle as before. I´d not take him back now. P.S. Did you read my PM? Did you overlook one of them? I saw that you just read one, but not the other?
opaleye Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 Yup. Don' t contact him. My ex never had time for me even though he promised he would and I got sick and tired of being the one who was always putting in the effort for nothing in return. I didn't even want to get back with him- just be friends but even that was too much. So one day I decided to see if he really wanted to keep me in his life at all and I stopped contacting him. I haven't heard from him since then- like 2 months ago so I guess I know the answer! No contact is good for you. Do it.
piper27 Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 I hope he doesn't get into law school. It's people like him what give us attorneys a bad name =)
Moose Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 Do you curse like that all the time? No offense, but I'd be avoiding you too just so I wouldn't have to listen to that foul mouth.........
mischafan160 Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 Originally posted by Moose Do you curse like that all the time? No offense, but I'd be avoiding you too just so I wouldn't have to listen to that foul mouth......... Oh geez, was that REALLY necessary?! Curse away hon. I'm really happy for you and I admire your strength!!
jellybean Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 Originally posted by Moose Do you curse like that all the time? No offense, but I'd be avoiding you too just so I wouldn't have to listen to that foul mouth......... Moose...that's not fair. She's angry, and venting anonymously on a forum - free to say what she wants, and not necessarily an indication of how she speaks to people in her real world under normal conditions. Have a heart Moose - don't be petty.
Author XNemesisX Posted December 17, 2004 Author Posted December 17, 2004 Thanks everyone for your kind words and words of enouragement I am set on sticking to this! You probably won't hear me say much about my ex for a while now because I am sick of even hearing his blasted name! Piper, lol my cousin is an attorney and he said the same thing! That he hopes and prays my ex doesn't get into law school because its people like him that give lawyers the bad name! My ex is also interested in politics and is pretty active in that. I think the stereotypes of lawyers and politicians is what drew him to those fields...must think that his crooked ways will pay off! Let's just hope all of the admissions boards will overlook his applications and they will somehow end up in a dumpster somewhere Kooky, I just sent you a pm about the other message. It says something like it was cancelled by the sender. I wonder if there is still some way I could see it? I was really wanting to read it. Nicole, Good for you! I'm glad to hear you are feeling on the same page as me. You know, enough is enough isn't it?! You know I just may have to print this out and hang it up on my refrigerator, but you know I'm not even sure if its necessary at this point. I think this is the last straw. I'm tired of his games and how he thinks everyone should worship him and its his way or the highway! Ugh...ENOUGH. All I can say is good luck to the next girl he decides to torment...*cough*...I mean date! Moose, I don't really talk like that in real life, no. But when I'm angry and want to vent I sure do! If you knew my ex you would probably be cussing like a sailor too!!!! Mischafan, jellybean....thanks guys..I'm glad you all can understand where I'm coming from. Mischafan, I have only got this strength recently (VERY recently!) but I'm hoping that it lasts indefinitely! I have a feeling that when he calls again I'm just going to have to be "busy" I don't care if I'm cleaning the litter box...I will be too busy!!!! Give him a taste of his own medicine
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