krista28 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 so there’s this guy that i know that i work with at a part time job. i only work with him about twice a month…but anyways we went out for drinkss together one night. he wass kinda talking about girls the whole night which i thought was kinda weird. anyhow by the end of the date he told me i was too insecure etc had too many issues. seemed kinda selfish. He is 42 and i am 29 some may say that is wrong. so……anyhow i thought we had a connection . we hungout again the other night and ended up sleeping together ..that was Sunday night. Then…on monnday night i trxted him saying something like hope u had an ok day and weren’t too tired. then last night he texted me back around. six pm saying no worriesn then we had a couple texts back and forth about how we weren’t gonna tell anyone at work. today then i texted him saying how was ur week goin etc and no answer ?!? he used to answer like right away…immediately …i feel like crap kind of…i know its my. own fault . more importantly what should i do now?
crederer Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Oy. He pretty much told you right away that he wasn't interested romantically with you when he said you were insecure, etc. Then he told you again when he said he didn't want people at the office knowing. He wanted to have sex with you. He did. I'm sure he'd have sex with you again if you were willing (what 42 year old wouldn't want to have sex with a girl in her 20's?). Doesn't mean it's for anything more.
Zahara Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 This is your third thread about the same thing. The advice is not going to change. Drop this guy.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 This is your third thread about the same thing. The advice is not going to change. Drop this guy. Exactly. Any way you look at it, OP, still gives the same result - he told you he wasn't interested any more and has not kept in touch with you. What does that tell you?? EDIT: Your multiple threads on this underline the issue. He was right - your insecurity is off-putting.
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I missed the multiple threads but I will answer this one. You made a choice. That choice didn't work out the way you wanted. He got what he wanted; he clearly doesn't want a relationship. You remain cordial & professional when you see him at work. You never mention it again. You never have drinks with him again or do anything else alone just the two of you (unless you are OK with NSA sex which you don't seem to be). Finally you learn from your mistake & don't do this again in the future. What did you think we were going to tell you? That you should grab him by the crotch at work, drag him into the men's room, pledge your undying love for him & beg him to marry you because we were all so sure that he was your soulmate? 1
Phantom888 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 This guy is scum and has taken advantage of you. The thing with older guys... they can manipulate young girls because they have been practicing. This guy is totally lame for tricking you.
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 A 29 year old woman is not a young girl. Nobody tricked anybody here. 1
Author krista28 Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 true story i am old enough to know what im doing..what i dont get is...why the heck didnt he even want to persue something with me? guess maybe he knows im too young for him and he probably doiesnt want things getting outta hand at work.. yes this guy is a dirt bag butim pretty sure hes a sociopath anyhow so no harm done i guess... i guess ill just walk around work acting like nohting happened and everythings fine! and look super hot while doing it. 1
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