GeeziG Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Hello Dear LoveShack Members I would like to address my most current situation with a female in which I was dating, by the title you can obviously tell that she was a stripper. We met casually at her job during a visit woth some friends. I approached her asked her, her name and if she had a bf she replied with a no but thats not by choice answer. I told her that she was cute and walked back to my table. After a few more visits we became friends and exchanged numbers. I knew the sterotypes when it came to dating/pursing a stripper so i honestly didnt expect things to go anywhere at all, but after a few attempts to get her on a date she finally agreed to go out with me. ..the reason she couldn't go on my prior attempts were do to her 2 year old daughter of course lol. Our first day was to the fair and i picked her up we talked about a lot and surprisingly she seemed to be a well rounded down to earth girl. We had a blast and a lot in common. After the first day it was like i could do no wrong she wanted to spend more time together..we had several more dates and things were going well. On these dates it was addressed that she wanted stability in her love life, but wanted to take things slow because of her daughter. Hell i wanted to take things slow because she was a stripper. As time went on we found ourselves guled to each others every word. It got to the point where she would be at work but texting me like she was at home. After about a month it got to the point where she started to invite me over granted i would have to come over late and leave early because she didnt want me to meet her little girl. I respected that. At this point it still wasnt anything sexual we would just lay and talk for hours about how we felt. I was finding myself very happy and in amazment at how good things were going. We began to become more serious and asking questions about different situations, one night i asked her how would she deal with a client that gave her gifts or wanted to do something outside of work via text...she replied with we need to talk about that in person so we did. I found out that one of her main clients would give her any amount of money she wanted and all he wanted was to spend time with her in return. ..."red flag" she went further and told me he likes me but it will never be that way between them. I quickly addressed that i dont have a problem with him comin to see you at work but outside is a problem. She reassured me that it wouldnt las and we dropped it. We finally got to the point where we felt comfortable enough with each other to engage in sex. On the night i came over to have sex with her she stopped me and asked me how would i feel about dating a girl that had herpes type 2. I was puzzzled my inital reaction was dumb founded, we talk it out for the rest of the night and i took a step back for a few days, after some heavy research i contacted her and told her we could make it work. Which told me my feelings for her were real. We engaged in safe sex and continued to date. However afterwards maybe a week or two i started to feel a disconnect. Less text, and little spats here and there. The topic about her client came up several times in which she addressed that she didnt think we had enough time in our relationship to make any big moves and tht i needed to be patient with her because it wouldnt last...she said it never does "red flag" i told her it sounded like you've done this before and that it'll be another after him she said no. We ended that night on that note The next day was kinda rocky but we got back to normal. Night came and i told her i was coming over she said okay let me put the baby down in 30 mins n you can come. 45mins went by nothing. ..so i texted her and said hey she replied baby I'm tired. .i replied with ok i wont bother comin..which lead to another small bicker. We didnt talk at all the next day which was a first in our 2 months of dating. The following morning she texted me first thing asking if i was not talking to her anymore. ..i replied wiith a no of course not i think we should meet up and talk so we did. I felt good about having this talk we could finally clear the air, but to my surprise she came at me unexpected. She leashed out at me saying she felt like i was trying to move in with her, that i was trying to tell her what she could and couldnt do and that we were just moving tooo fast. I was once again dumb founded. She said she liked me and that she could see herself with me like a year from now..i said okay thats all i needed to kno and composed...walked out. Its been twp days since no contact at alll...i deleted her number and have no way of contacting even if i wanted. I'm addressing my situation for general opinions, i think anytime a person rejects you it makes you feel some type of way but I'm handling it really well. Thank you for your time.
headinthecloud Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 It's difficult to give feedback without knowing how long were you together and age difference (if any).
Author GeeziG Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 I stated we were dating for 2 months. ..shes 23 and I'm 24
Sugarkane Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 It's interesting this always seems to be every man's fantasy. But it goes sour.
crazybestie101 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 EVERY man wants to date a stripper, huh? Says a lot about your taste in men and who you date. Cant be agreed more. I mean who dates stripper and expect things to go like normal relationship. Get out of this , find some other normal girl , you would be more happy. I am assuming you were behind her because she looked hot and pretty. But to be honest relationship with such people likely wont go anywhere and of course you don't want to catch HIV or any that sort. 1
headinthecloud Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 (edited) I stated we were dating for 2 months. ..shes 23 and I'm 24 I think you didn't have a chance to really get to know this girl. She's 23, a mother of a 2yr old, and she strips to support herself and her daughter. A stripper's life is not as glamorous as many think, it's a harsh and cutthroat business where people are devalued. Plus, clients who pay are what she needs. - she's not stripping for the fun and excitement. While your boundary of her not seeing clients outside of work is completely reasonable, to her you may have been putting restrictions on her. I think she did you a favor by letting you go. It's not rejection, I think she realized that you wanted something meaningful and it sounds like she's not ready to have that kind of relationship. It's hard to say based on your description, but she may have a lot of personal issues to work through (single mom of 2yr old at 23). I would move on and go NC. Edited November 7, 2013 by headinthecloud 2
bubbaganoosh Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 GeeziG She has a client. Lawyers have clients. Strippers have clients and this particular client will give her ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY just to spend time with her..................................doing what? Oh by the way, hookers have clients too and they pay good money to...........................just talk..................and go out to dinner..................and talk. Did she get an STD from............................talking? Come on man use some common sense. Find a woman that you can walk down the street with and be proud of rather than one you can walk down the street with and guys come up and stuff dollar bills down her blouse. One gets what one deserves. 1
Sugarkane Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 EVERY man wants to date a stripper, huh? Says a lot about your taste in men and who you date. If it isn't, then why is it such a successful business? As opposed to women, who only see male strippers for hens nights. You never see a male poster on here complaining his wife won't stop seeing male stripper shows. This isn't the first post about a guy seeing a stripper/ prositute.
AlmostFrench Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I once served drinks in a 'high class' strip club (just wore normal clothes btw lol). I remember the security guards had told me that little 'arrangement' where the clients can pay for a girl to go 'spend time' with them. I asked if that made the girls hookers and they said 'we don't ask what they do away from here but it is obvious by how much the men pay'. So I definitely think it is sus about this 'spending time' together. I think she has done you a favour, when your emotions were more invested imagine how difficult it would be dealing with these 'visits' and other men paying her to grind against their laps. 1
Author GeeziG Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 French i see your point, the fact she was a stripper never bothered me, but seeing a client outside of work is a bit much.
veggirl Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I mean she isn't even just a stripper, she's a prostitute! No way was that guy giving her "any amount of money" to just "spend time" with him. God are you seriously that gullible. 2
JDPT Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I don't know that I can say that I've ever contemplated the thought of laying eyes on a stripper. Clearly, I've been to strip joints, shoots I think I've grown out of them even.
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