Wiredandriod Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Hi, all So last week one night completely out of the blue a good friend of mine says shes in love with me in front of another friend who likes her but nothing came out of that, and yes she is aware his feeling toward her. It caught me off guard and at the time I took it as a joke at the time and told both of them that I loved them too. But afterward I cant get it out of my head if she meant it? I always liked her as a friend, and there are moments that I could feel a spark of chemistry between us, but since this girl is very extroverted and treats everyone like her best friend its hard to read between the lines between the sarcasms. I like the person I am when I am around her since I'm more introverted and she always have a way to bring me out of my comfort zone and I do think we have potentials. The problem is we always hang in mutual social circle but never by ourselves. How should I approach this? I think I am going to invite her to dinner when we are both free and bring it up if then because I think this should be a face to face conversation rather than txt. Should I just start by telling her the feeling is mutual? Is that a good idea or just bring it up casually during the next group get-together? any encouragement or suggestions? Also want some opinion from girls here that would you tell the guy that you are in love with him randomly? appreciate in advance.
tlegend Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Hi, all So last week one night completely out of the blue a good friend of mine says shes in love with me in front of another friend who likes her but nothing came out of that, and yes she is aware his feeling toward her. It caught me off guard and at the time I took it as a joke at the time and told both of them that I loved them too. But afterward I cant get it out of my head if she meant it? I always liked her as a friend, and there are moments that I could feel a spark of chemistry between us, but since this girl is very extroverted and treats everyone like her best friend its hard to read between the lines between the sarcasms. I like the person I am when I am around her since I'm more introverted and she always have a way to bring me out of my comfort zone and I do think we have potentials. The problem is we always hang in mutual social circle but never by ourselves. How should I approach this? I think I am going to invite her to dinner when we are both free and bring it up if then because I think this should be a face to face conversation rather than txt. Should I just start by telling her the feeling is mutual? Is that a good idea or just bring it up casually during the next group get-together? any encouragement or suggestions? Also want some opinion from girls here that would you tell the guy that you are in love with him randomly? appreciate in advance. I think asking her out on a date is good for starters. You never know until you try. 1
spiderowl Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 It sounds to me as if it could be a sort of teasing, see how you react kind of thing, but with an underlying serious note. It planted an idea in your head, so it worked. I suspect she wants to get to know you better, just the two of you, and see how it goes. Sometimes moving from friends in groups to just the two of you can seem really difficult. It's the sort of thing someone might say in a semi-joking way to see if there is a reaction and recognition. You could ask her if she's like to spend some time without the rest of the crowd for a change and suggest a couple of different options, e.g. a walk followed by drink, or a fun-type meal somewhere 'cos you've heard good things about the food.
Phantom888 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Be careful of extroverted girls who use the word "love" frequently. I knew a girl who was very friendly, and she told me exactly: "wow you are so nice to those kids...I think I'm in love with you. *wink*". I knew she was not IN LOVE with me, but she likes to flirt with guys and it was fun to just be her platonic friend. If you want to confirm your theory, ask her out (as stated above). But I would not be surprised if she was just being super friendly and cute.
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