Locust Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I messed up a possible opportunity and I'm like crap to myself. This pass Monday I was in class and this lady came and sat by me, never met her and don't know her. I decide to ask her if she was here for the wine tasting last week and she told me yes. Then she told me how they did the taste testing and she told me how she was guessing the types of wine. After that I got quiet I did not know what else to say. I ran out of words. This has been my problem for a long time. I good at having conversation with men but not women. I feel that I won't be able to succeed with women after that night and feel my confidence is low. I just don't know how other men do it, how you guys can keep a conversation alive. I suck!! Maybe I should just give up.
CherryT Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Might not be you. If you asked a couple of questions and she was reciprocating it's hard to continue a conversation if it's one sided. But if you're not asking enough or getting her to warm up to you, maybe think of a few standard questions? Like you could've said "what made you decide to come to this class?" or maybe you don't have to ask anything and just say something about yourself like what wine you enjoyed. See if she can respond and keep it going too. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 the best way to keep a conversation going is to just ask more questions. Some that spring to mind based on your post: What was your favorite wine? (furrow the answer away for later) Gee, you seem to know so much about wine. Where did you learn it? Do you wanna teach me? (Granted that last one will take some confidence) Do you know of any other upcoming wine events? If she gives you some dates/times/locations make sure to state that you might meet her there.
Phantom888 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I seriously think it's chemistry. When I meet a woman I don't match with, the conversation dies down. When I click with a woman, the conversation can go on and on for hours. Just act natural. I suspect there is limited chemistry, so the conversation couldn't go forward. It's not a matter of talking to women versus men. You are over-thinking it. You will act perfectly natural when the right woman comes along. Believe it or not, your anxiety when talking to women is your mind telling you she is not right for you.
Author Locust Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 Well I only asked one her one thing and shortly died out. I ask "did you go to wine tasting last week." And she said yes and told me things about the event. From there she look at me for a second and I guess she was waiting for a reply but did not. Also it would been a bit awkward because this other girl to my right I know from a earlier group project was talking to me. When she went to the restroom during a 5 minute break that is when I asked her about the wine tasting.
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