spaceboy409 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 So me and my girlfriend have been broken up for about a month now. Each day I wake up like I got kicked in the stomach and I miss her more than ever still. I know this is part of the process of breaking up and I'm doing my best to cope. Recently we started texting again kind of out of nowhere. Naturally I spilled the beans and told her how much I missed her and wanted to get her back. Her reply was that we need to take it day by day and see what it happens. While this makes me happy, it also kills me inside with false hope. I notice myself looking at my phone more and being impatient when she doesn't write back right away... Is this the right thing to do? Should I hold on and try to see if we can make it work by just talking and building trust? A little more background info...I moved about 3 hours away from her a month ago to a town where my family lived for moral support and they have done so much for me and would be very upset if I chose to take her back...but inside my heart is telling me I still love this girl like I did the first day I met her. I am so confused....Should I just let her go?? Or continue this day by day thing that she wants to do....either way Im hurting...
Mario79 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 You have to know how you feel yourself. I know that state, if she said come over, you would be on your way before the sentence was over. Sounds like you were the one that got dumped? Or why did you guys break? If you want to try things with her, you will have to give her the space she wants. There things she would need to work on her own. Or let her go completely which that process will take time, and effort from your part to not contact her again. Nobody can take that decision for you...I would wait though...
xUnknown Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I'm about a month in as well. If you wanna chat PM me. I've been going No Contact...its tough. Every day I feel the same as you.
reddragon588 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Not really any false hope there, sorry. She is just being withy washy to try to be nice. Unless she says unequivocally yes, there's no hope that she is giving you. It is best for you to go to NC to avoid these kinds of overthinking. 1
Harri74 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Sounds like a similar situation to me. Got dumped but back in touch. Im using a policy of being friendly and helpful but not heavy as this will only drive her further away. I think the best thing to do is follow your heart but retain your dignity and respect her space. The odd sprinkle of romance will work but dont overdo it. Good luck.
greenfairie Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I don't want you to push her away, so try and respect her space. That's what she means by taking it day by day. She feels overwhelmed and she's pulling away right now. At the moment, just let go, if you do that daily communication, expect to talk a bit less than you usually do. She'll come to you if she really wants you. If she doesn't, then you got your answer…..
Author spaceboy409 Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 But if I go no contact she will likely move on...I feel like if we stay in contact I can somehow win her back. I can't imagine myself with anyone else...
xUnknown Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 But if I go no contact she will likely move on...I feel like if we stay in contact I can somehow win her back. I can't imagine myself with anyone else... I hear ya man. I had the same thoughts. But I don't want to remain friends with someone who isn't sure they want to be with me. Either you know that you do, or you don't. In the case that you don't you have to let them realize it on their own. Pursuing is only going to push her away. Sometimes they (and you as well), need to move on to realize what she/you had. The question here isn't you, its can SHE imagine herself with YOU. The ball is in her court.
Ansem Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 But if I go no contact she will likely move on...I feel like if we stay in contact I can somehow win her back. I can't imagine myself with anyone else... She's moving on now. While talking to you, chances are she's also talking to some other guy. She might rush things with a new guy because now she knows that you will be there for her in the backdrop so even if she gets hurt you'll act as a temporary source of support. 1
xUnknown Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 She's moving on now. While talking to you, chances are she's also talking to some other guy. She might rush things with a new guy because now she knows that you will be there for her in the backdrop so even if she gets hurt you'll act as a temporary source of support. The sad, harsh truth of it unfortunately.
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