Question for the gym afficianados.

[AnyaNova]

Okay, so the trick here is,

 

Is that I will have my first training session Friday, and I literally just did the first true cardio workout that I have tried since I went gluten free.

 

I realize that I need, just getting started with fitness, to go slowly and carefully so that I don't injure myself or set myself back.

 

But I really just want to burn myself out completely with exercise so that I am so completely tired that I can just stop ****ing feeling right now, because I am sick of it.

 

I am sick of the fact that he can so easily ignore me, when I can't forget him.

 

I am sick of the stupidity (whatever it is, and I am not even clear on what it is) that is keeping two people who at the least could be good friends helping each other out with some difficult traits dealing at the least with social anxiety and fear of rejection.

 

And I am just sick of it and need to burn myself the **** out every day at the gym so that I can go home at night and crash and just stop feeling for awhile.

 

But how do I do this without injuring myself? What are the best ways to wear myself out without doing damage or setting myself back as I start on this fitness thing?

 

I really used to have dignity. Now I feel like a stupid love sick teenager who can't get over the jerk who left her (too bad he isn't a jerk, that would make it much easier).

 

Any advice would be appreciated.

[ponchsox]

Proper form, proper diet, drink water, and 8 hours of sleep. Your body can handle a lot more than you think.

[AnyaNova]

I guess I am asking, though, what can I do? What specific exercises/lengths/intervals? Because the cardio suggestion they gave me was pretty easy to do, and I don't want to risk injuring myself before my first training session, but I really need something that is going to wipe the floor with me and really wear me out.

 

Basically, they suggested I do an elliptical for 3 10 minute intervals with a short break in between for water. My face got really red, and due to low magnesium (still have difficulty holding on to that, post gluten-freeness) my back spasmed a bit after I was done (is 99 percent better now), but otherwise it was pretty easy and did not leave me feeling worn out at all.

Edited November 6, 2013 by AnyaNova

[mendsley]

I would suggest go on bodybuilding.com and look at all the 12 week programs. You will not find one that is specifically for "burning your self out" but you find all kinds of programs. I would suggest one that follows the HIIT methodology. It's really tough and you will tone up.

 

The most important part to control mental health is what you consume. I would say nutrition is 70% of a healthy life style.

 

Another suggestion is to go on YouTube and look at some motivational speaker videos. I personally watch the Navy Seal/DEVGRU (im ex SF so im biased), but they contain very informative topics that help not only relationship drama, but every day mental toughness.

 

http://Http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/wotw40.htm

 

Hope that helps ;-)

Edited November 6, 2013 by mendsley

[RightThere]

If you're just riding a bike at the gym or doing the elliptical, it's pretty hard to injure yourself. So try that until you burn out.

 

Anything else (treadmill, rowing) you could risk injury if you really push it too early.

 

But eat and keep hydrated if you are really going to run yourself down. If you don't, you might be that person who passes out or pukes in the gym.

[AnyaNova]

Thanks guys for your responses, and apologies for the angry tone of the opening post. I just need to be moving on better than I am.

 

So definitely elliptical and bike. That is good to know.

 

Any other suggestions (and yes, I will keep well hydrated and fed to ensure that I don't pass out or bazooka barf at the gym). :-)

[Nyclovin]

Go to classes like spinning and pole dancing . But especially pole dancing.

[RightThere]

I just need to be moving on better than I am.

 

You're doing alright.

 

If you can find it, I do restorative yoga.

 

It's not physically draining, but amazing emotional and mental release. I feel better after that and able to go to sleep as compared to an hour of throwing iron around the gym.

[lovelylilly]

Yoga is amazing! I am a big fan of it. Usually at the gym I do 30-45 minutes of some sort of cardio (the bike is good for not putting too much stress on yourself), and every now and then I'll run outside for 3-5 miles. After cardio I lift weights and then spend a long time stretching afterwards. The first couple of weeks I felt worse while at the gym (I actually cried the first two times I forced myself to go). It's not very encouraging for me to say, but I was never able to get myself so exhausted that I didn't think about "him" anymore. Just focus on yourself and less on thinking about him. I honestly don't know what else to say .

[AnyaNova]

Go to classes like spinning and pole dancing . But especially pole dancing.

 

???

 

I'm a klutz. I'd probably fall off of the pole. :-)

[AnyaNova]

You're doing alright.

 

If you can find it, I do restorative yoga.

 

It's not physically draining, but amazing emotional and mental release. I feel better after that and able to go to sleep as compared to an hour of throwing iron around the gym.

 

I will look into it. How do I ensure a quality instructor?

[AnyaNova]

Yoga is amazing! I am a big fan of it. Usually at the gym I do 30-45 minutes of some sort of cardio (the bike is good for not putting too much stress on yourself), and every now and then I'll run outside for 3-5 miles. After cardio I lift weights and then spend a long time stretching afterwards. The first couple of weeks I felt worse while at the gym (I actually cried the first two times I forced myself to go). It's not very encouraging for me to say, but I was never able to get myself so exhausted that I didn't think about "him" anymore. Just focus on yourself and less on thinking about him. I honestly don't know what else to say .

 

It seems to get worse when I'm tired and unfocused. Like at the end of my 12 hour day, today in class, by the end, much as I hate this, my brain had totally checked out. And I actually caught myself fantasizing about him coming back. And every time inlet my guard down for a second, it came back.

 

I guess, too, I seem to have had an annoying relapse into longing a little for him since I declared my moratorium on dating. But I need to work on myself, now.

 

I hope I can get myself tired enough to stop thinking about him.

 

This question is for both you yoga fans, how did you perceive it having a direct result on your breakup recovery?

[lindsay1990]

Hi Anya,

 

 

Not any particular advice just showing support and saying that I'm probably going to join the gym tomorrow as well will update.

[AnyaNova]

Hi Anya,

 

 

Not any particular advice just showing support and saying that I'm probably going to join the gym tomorrow as well will update.

 

I am super glad that I did!

[AnnaAnna]

If you're just riding a bike at the gym or doing the elliptical, it's pretty hard to injure yourself. So try that until you burn out.

 

Anything else (treadmill, rowing) you could risk injury if you really push it too early.

 

But eat and keep hydrated if you are really going to run yourself down. If you don't, you might be that person who passes out or pukes in the gym.

 

Great advice! Shin splints are really painful and will set you back.

[AnnaAnna]

Go to classes like spinning and pole dancing . But especially pole dancing.

 

Where do I sign up for a pole dancing class lol

[AnyaNova]

Where do I sign up for a pole dancing class lol

 

I must admit that my first thought when I read that was, "Get a magazine!"

[AnyaNova]

Dear moderators, if you could please move this thread back to the coping subforum.

 

The point of the question is not about exercise for self-improvement, or development. The point is about exercises for the point of coping. It is literally about the use of exercise as a coping mechanism for the whole breakup thing.

 

I would really greatly appreciate it.

[AnyaNova]

Boy this thread is really scary. This is like the opening message that leads the original poster to working out for 3 hours, ignoring soreness and ending up with some really nasty injuries just because she wanted to tire herself out

 

 

Working out cannot be a coping process. It's a fun process that can make you feel a lot better but you need to do it in a responsible and sensible way. Work out intense for reasonable amount of time periods, make sure your form is excellent and make sure you don't injure yourself by not overtraining and stopping when you do feel soreness

 

 

I think the attitude you're going to have going into the gym is very unhealthy. You have to realize that getting injured is very easy if you don't do things right. You're putting your body through some real stress and trauma (which is how it gets better and stronger) so you have to do it in a safe and controlled manner

 

 

I would recommend starting out slow - get used to all the movements first, let your body get used to the stress of the gym and then slowly increase your intensity level. Always make sure that safety is the #1 concern.

 

Sorry, I thought that underlying assumption was too obvious to really harp on. That is why I was asking. Ways to tire myself out safely. But before that, to engage in extreme focus. Please understand, after years of damage to my body from simple freaking gluten, I am very conscious of both my health and my safety.

 

As long as there is emphasis on safety, proper form, and control, why can't exercise be a form of coping? Why can't the carefully controlled and monitored "pushing through" physical (I don't want to say, discomfort, because I'm not advocating pain and injury) difficulty? perhaps serve as a symbol and a metaphor for pushing through emotional pain?

[thefooloftheyear]

Stimulate.....dont annhiliate...

 

TFY

[lovelylilly]

This question is for both you yoga fans, how did you perceive it having a direct result on your breakup recovery?

 

I love yoga because it helps calm your mind and you HAVE to focus on what you're doing or you'll fall (I love handstands!!!). As for recovery, it's pretty much the only time I don't think about him. And I'm in a calm state of mind afterwards--it takes my anxiety away. .

[xUnknown]

Get a trainer for one or two sessions. Lift. Girls think they'll get big and beefy if they lift...its quite the contrary. You'll build muscle. The more muscle you have, the more fat you'll burn. You'll lose weight and get toned. MWF do lifting (chest tris, back bis, legs), T/Thurs do cardio (incline walking high incline, slow walk -12-15* @ 3 mph for 30 mins will do). Stretch before and after working out to prevent injury.

 

Drink plenty of water and get plenty of sleep. If you have to ask yourself, "is this healthy for me", it probably isn't. Eat, Sleep, Train. Also, SQUAT!