FrostBlaze Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 (edited) Made some similar topic not to long ago, but i was asking the wrong question, this is probably my last attempt on here. I just want opinions, on what you think can happen and wtf is actually going on. Short Story, i hope. So i met this girl, we dated for a while, she was madly in love with me "why didn't i meet you sooner" "i love you, i know i say it often but i do" etc, stuff like that. THen some situation arised that she would be gone for like 1 year in another country, and feelings went colder betwen us. (she hasn't left yet). So she broke it off with me, eventually when i got slightly iritated and asked "why? because i find it hard to believe considering how you act, you must love me" she replied with something of the sort. "i never loved you"+some harsher remarks. I just couldn't believe that considering her earlier behavior. So i was wondering wth happened? After we kept it cool and NC for a while, she contacted me to see how i was doing, missing me etc, i was slightly cold so we didn't talk much. She says she still wants to be friends...+quite a few other details i am leaving out. What do you folk think? Should i call her back, is it possible to reconcile? Why did she do this/doing it. I find it hard to let her go, i mean the NC was going well until Last night i just totally missed her xD. Is she testing me maybe? :| she has a weird way of doing it, did some similar stuff before, wonders if i will wait for her. PS: I tend to trust my gut feeling, i feel there is something else...i still think she cares, i might be wrong. Edited November 6, 2013 by FrostBlaze
Philosoraptor Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 She was in the honeymoon phase and her feelings were all lovey dovey. She left you and doesn't want to be with you, leave her alone and focus on yourself. You're wasting your time on someone who could say something so cold.
emz23 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Speaking as a dumper...Maybe when she realized she had to leave she put up an emotional barrier. She couldn't handle a distance realstionship and said things to try to convince herself and you that she was doing the right thing. You were early on in dating and it would have been a situation where you were apart longer than you had been together? That's got to be tough. I think she does care for you but maybe not enough to cope with a distance relationship. Has the sitaution changed? If she will stay then you can try to reconcile. If she will still be gone for a year then let her go. Don't wait for her but if you are both available when she comes back then maybe you can give it another shot...if it's meant to be etc.
Author FrostBlaze Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 What you said is what i tell myself/feel. And no stuff hasn't changed, she has to leave on the 10th for the other country. And even while she was/is in country we couldn't see ourselves daily, there's like a 70km gap betwen us, not that great. Ty for your reply's.
Author FrostBlaze Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 (edited) Slight bump. She said "i can call her anytime if i want to talk". <--i missed this out in my initial post, this was when she called me in the NC phase. Is there any way i should be interpreting this message?xD Like: 1-i'm just being nice but don't call 2- call i still want a go at it 3- we can just talk/friend like. :| Idk. Still haven't called her and 2 days from now she is leaving for the other country...eh. I'm so tempted xD. What does it ussually mean when a girl says that? Edited November 8, 2013 by FrostBlaze
Recommended Posts