Lizrd3000 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 So my ex has been depressed all her life, and the BU she initiated wasn't really helpful either. I can say with pride and full honesty that I'm over her and don't want her back, the BU was a month and some days ago. I really won't ever take her back, but I love her and care for her, I want to know how she's doing, because I'm afraid she's suicidal, I know she is. Will it be a bad idea for me to contact her on whatsapp and see how she's doing? or could the feelings come back up and start missing her? I don't want to regret my decision of contacting her, and having to get back to square one, but I know I don't want her back even if she wanted to. we just won't work out. but I'm very curious as to how she's doing, and I wanna help her if she's not doing alright. To be honest, if she were to tell me she has a new boyfriend, I'd be happy for her, a bit shocked that she replaced me so quickly with a rebound, but nothing serious, in all honesty... So what do I do? I don't want her to jump off her balcony, but I don't want the risk of having to start at square one, which I doubt because I think I'm over her.
Author Lizrd3000 Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 Leave her alone. The thing is, this is not an excuse made up by me to contact her, I'm genuinely concerned about her mental health. I don't want to have her back, she treated me pretty badly during the relationship, due to her past issues. I'm not doing this because I'm her ex, well ofcourse obviously I am, I care for her, but it's because it's what every person who cares for someone would do. She's only 17 years old and this ****ed up. If there's anything I could do to help her, I'd do it, if it won't put me through pain, ofcourse. Is it common to think you're over someone, contacting that person and fall back to square one? any stories to be shared please?
Author Lizrd3000 Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 You're not responsible for fixing her, and contact with you could be more detrimental to her. Again - leave her alone. I wasn't able to see it from this perspective, you're right. Thank you.
headinthecloud Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 If you're truly worried about her safety then contact her friends or family. Contacting her directly could hurt her emotionally and since she's fragile it's best to engage her support network. 5
Inviv_girl Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 You broke up with her! it is not your responsibility anymore what happen to her. Contacting her is not going to help her anything. If she has new bf then its his responsibility. He slept with her, he spends his time with her, he loves her.. so why do u even bother to "care" for her now. I know you mean well by caring, but dude this is extremely not a good idea as you already broken up with her. The contact will only hurt both part, maybe her more as she maybe sees you wanted to get back to her by this loving caring and contacting her. If you are sure you dont want her back (as you said she treated you badly in a relationship) so best way is to leave her alone for good!
Author Lizrd3000 Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 (edited) You broke up with her! it is not your responsibility anymore what happen to her. Contacting her is not going to help her anything. If she has new bf then its his responsibility. He slept with her, he spends his time with her, he loves her.. so why do u even bother to "care" for her now. I know you mean well by caring, but dude this is extremely not a good idea as you already broken up with her. The contact will only hurt both part, maybe her more as she maybe sees you wanted to get back to her by this loving caring and contacting her. If you are sure you dont want her back (as you said she treated you badly in a relationship) so best way is to leave her alone for good! She broke up with me. I forgot to mention this, LOL. SORRY! Also, she doesn't have a new boyfriend, it was just me saying if she'd have a boyfriend right now, I wouldn't care. Edited November 6, 2013 by Lizrd3000
xUnknown Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I Agree with HeadintheClouds. If you truly believe she could do something to herself, you should contact friends and family and express your concerns. I would also mention that you would do it yourself but don't want to cause any more harm....okay, maybe not the last line. I feel that's something I would add (personally), but it may not be for you.
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