gmh84 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 My ex broke up with me a few weeks ago - he said that things had been weird lately (which I completely agree on) and it was affecting his work, life and so on. I was sooo sad but I did understand where he was coming from... Anyway, a few days later, he came by to pick up the last of his things... We talked and talked, both about 'us' but about other things as well. The mood was good, or as good as it could be. We ended up, just lying on the couch together, none of us saying anything. He said at one point, that maybe he'd handled this (breaking up) wrong ... when he left, he kissed me. He kept in touch during the week (he's in the military, a few hours away from me) and this past weekend, when I realized that he'd forgotten some more stuff, he came by again. Once again, the mood was good. He told me that he didn't want to see other people... and then when I said that maybe it was too hard if we continued seeing eachother 'as friends' he kind of got sad, and said that he really wanted to see me still. And then something about....dating... in a way Again, when he left, he kissed me. A few hours later, after he's gotten back to the base, he called me, wanting to tell me, something that really wasn't important (someone took his clothes out of the dryer, I know, weird) and then we said goodnight and hung up... We still keep in touch, but honestly, I don't know that to make of anything... Can anyone help me?....
Philosoraptor Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 He's made the decision to end the relationship and you'd be best to focus on yourself fully and not let yourself suffer through this wishywashyness. You were right that you shouldn't see each other as friends until all of your feelings greater than friendship are gone, as it will cause pain. He's made the decision to leave, and he's wanting to move on slowly so it's easier for him... but he made the choice. It's easier for him to dip his toe in the water and move on slowly rather than jumping in... while you're suffering and going to be left out in the deep end once he does move on enough to jump in without needing you as a life preserver. Take care of yourself and end the contact now so you can begin to heal, find happiness, and move on with your life.
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