Boyfriend lives almost 6,000 miles away.. Meeting him in 2 months in NYC

[greenfairie]

I've been dating this guy for two months now. He lives in England and I'm in California. We decided to meet in NYC over winter break and to spend NYE together. He is AMAZING. Unlike anybody I've dated….

 

I'm scared and nervous but really excited to see him.

 

We're spending 11 days together in New York City ALONE… We already booked our room, flight tickets so it's really happening..

 

I'm really scared that the trip is gonna turn out to be a bust, I'm also scared to show him how I really live and do my thing for THAT long of a time.

 

I'm also really independent and I like my space, so I definitely don't want to be by his side 24/7 but I have a feeling we will in this crazy city….

 

Do you have any advice for a young gal that's nervous this trip will be a bust? I don't know why I'm so nervous when I should be feeling okay with this amazing guy!?!?

[McMike]

Relax and be yourself. If he's really an amazing guy he'd love you for who you are and make you feel at ease when you guys meet.

[emi]

I assume you have never met this guy before so :

Make your trip known to your friends/family.

Dont have sex during first visit. Meet up at public place. I know everything seem rosey now, but please, have good sense of awareness and think carefully before you do anything.

And most of all : have fun and if thing goes wrong, be thanksful its just 2 months investment

[greenfairie]

I assume you have never met this guy before so :

Make your trip known to your friends/family.

Dont have sex during first visit. Meet up at public place. I know everything seem rosey now, but please, have good sense of awareness and think carefully before you do anything.

And most of all : have fun and if thing goes wrong, be thanksful its just 2 months investment

 

Nooo, we have met before! I met him thru a really good friend of mine and she introduced me to him…. We connected right away and got on really well..

 

usually I'm a shy person I don't connect with ppl that often.

 

We spent a few weekends together while he was here visiting the U.S. He's great company to be around too and I don't know why I'm so nervous!

[emi]

Ok cool, even you have met him before, i will still suggest you to be careful. All advices above are still valid in any case. Good luck and enjoy your trip.

There is nothing wrong with you being nervous, to be honest, i think its the part make LDR special

[greenfairie]

Thanks guys! I really appreciate your answers.

 

I'd love more input if anyone does!?

[ThisGal]

Thanks guys! I really appreciate your answers.

 

I'd love more input if anyone does!?

 

What exactly are you two aiming for? Long term?

 

How was the visit last time? Is he someone you can feel completely comfortable with? As the poster above said, still be cautious. You want to make sure his intentions are clear. Whatever you're seeking make sure he's on the same page. 11 days is quite long, have things planned out. My b/f and I usually make a list. You can have him meet a family member, maybe a siblings (wouldn't advise parents right away, I only take men I'm very serious about to my parents, hence my my b.f now has been the only one to meet my parents lol). Try to be realistic, don't be hyped on the romance, think if he is truly someone you can see yourself with. Is he a great communicator? Meaning, does he text and call you often when you're away/distant...

 

Anyway, I hope you two have a great time! I live close to NYC and I know the City has a lot to offer. Enjoy it. It will be hectic on New Years. Whatever you do, do not go to Time Square to watch the ball drop. You'll b trapped there in the cold lol. A friend of mine went and said it was not worth it. Again, enjoy each other's company. In the meantime, keep communication strong as you still have a few weeks to get to know each other even better

[greenfairie]

What exactly are you two aiming for? Long term?

 

How was the visit last time? Is he someone you can feel completely comfortable with? As the poster above said, still be cautious. You want to make sure his intentions are clear. Whatever you're seeking make sure he's on the same page. 11 days is quite long, have things planned out. My b/f and I usually make a list. You can have him meet a family member, maybe a siblings (wouldn't advise parents right away, I only take men I'm very serious about to my parents, hence my my b.f now has been the only one to meet my parents lol). Try to be realistic, don't be hyped on the romance, think if he is truly someone you can see yourself with. Is he a great communicator? Meaning, does he text and call you often when you're away/distant...

 

Anyway, I hope you two have a great time! I live close to NYC and I know the City has a lot to offer. Enjoy it. It will be hectic on New Years. Whatever you do, do not go to Time Square to watch the ball drop. You'll b trapped there in the cold lol. A friend of mine went and said it was not worth it. Again, enjoy each other's company. In the meantime, keep communication strong as you still have a few weeks to get to know each other even better

 

 

Honestly I'm not so sure. He met my brother and my brother said good things about him to my parents. I don't really see a long term thing between us. I could be wrong though. Yes, he messages me often… almost daily.. long messages…

 

We were talking about going to watch the ball drop lol. I don't know what we would be doing instead on NYE…?

 

And thanks for your comments! Appreciate your advice