DontWorryBHappy Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I'm too curious about how you all would respond to this. Basically, the guy in the video is saying that all men fall out of love with a woman after about 46 months for biological reasons (apparently, it allows enough time for a man to fully support a woman through a 9 month pregnancy all the way until their baby's teeth first come in). He says that for men, love means that a man is happy by making the woman happy (so he will go out of his way to make her happy, think about her a lot, etc). But then at 46 months, he falls out of love and what remains is just affection. He says that affection is what men and women feel from a familiar person, and this affection grows over time, but that it is different than love. So what's your take? Are we all doomed to four year relationships? Can any guys here testify that this is false? Discuss.
Eggplant Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Well traditionally women didn't just have one baby but rather 15, so if he kept on being in love, he might see 15 more babies with teeth, plus a few grown up children that he could keep from perishing. 1
newmoon Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I've heard something similar throughout the years. something like men fall out of attraction at the 48 month mark, so that is why women are encouraged to change up their look right about then, to maintain a man's interest. might even be sooner than that, but I've heard it to be true
cocorico Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I'm too curious about how you all would respond to this. Basically, the guy in the video is saying that all men fall out of love with a woman after about 46 months for biological reasons (apparently, it allows enough time for a man to fully support a woman through a 9 month pregnancy all the way until their baby's teeth first come in). He says that for men, love means that a man is happy by making the woman happy (so he will go out of his way to make her happy, think about her a lot, etc). But then at 46 months, he falls out of love and what remains is just affection. He says that affection is what men and women feel from a familiar person, and this affection grows over time, but that it is different than love. So what's your take? Are we all doomed to four year relationships? Can any guys here testify that this is false? Discuss. If that was the case, we would not be M. We are more in love than ever, and we met more than 10 years ago! And, no babies to be supported, just us two, so there would be no reason to stay together unless we both wanted to.
serial muse Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I'm too curious about how you all would respond to this. Basically, the guy in the video is saying that all men fall out of love with a woman after about 46 months for biological reasons (apparently, it allows enough time for a man to fully support a woman through a 9 month pregnancy all the way until their baby's teeth first come in). He says that for men, love means that a man is happy by making the woman happy (so he will go out of his way to make her happy, think about her a lot, etc). But then at 46 months, he falls out of love and what remains is just affection. He says that affection is what men and women feel from a familiar person, and this affection grows over time, but that it is different than love. So what's your take? Are we all doomed to four year relationships? Can any guys here testify that this is false? Discuss. Uh, apparently he also says that a mother stops loving her child after 3 years. Sounds made-up to me. I'm not inherently against self-publishing, but this book hasn't been vetted by anybody, and this guy has no credentials - so why buy into his personal baggage? Anybody can say anything they want; I don't see why what he said should get any particular weight. 3
thefooloftheyear Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I always thought it was after 46 pounds gained.... TFY 2
Emilia Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 all men fall out of love with a woman after about 46 months for biological reasons (apparently, it allows enough time for a man to fully support a woman through a 9 month pregnancy all the way until their baby's teeth first come in). People often go off each other after a while, it's not just men, both sexes: The Neurochemistry of Sex
EasyHeart Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 (edited) It's true. Of course, there is some individual variation. I fall out of love after 41 months, 17 days, 3 hours and 54.25 minutes. Edited November 6, 2013 by EasyHeart 3
Shepp Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 They don't fall out of love, love changes, that's not the same thing! I was literally just saying on a thread the other day how you move from 'I love her, she's perfect' to 'I love her...but my god I wish she wouldn't mess up the car radio stations', that doesn't mean you don't love her anymore. My nan and grandad have been married 60 years and there still totally in love - they fall out and argue all the time, but they love each other! He's just a bloke trying to get himself famous with a theory! 2
dreamingoftigers Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Uh, apparently he also says that a mother stops loving her child after 3 years. Sounds made-up to me. I'm not inherently against self-publishing, but this book hasn't been vetted by anybody, and this guy has no credentials - so why buy into his personal baggage? Anybody can say anything they want; I don't see why what he said should get any particular weight. I love my four year old intensely. I find it so hard to have to leave to go on the road for work. I won't be home until close to Christmas. There's no way love dies at 3. Maybe it's just because in my case she has the cutest personality, is so smart and has a beautiful smile. The rest of you just have to tough out the next 15 years! 1
lollipopspot Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Basically, the guy in the video is saying that all men fall out of love with a woman after about 46 months for biological reasons (apparently, it allows enough time for a man to fully support a woman through a 9 month pregnancy all the way until their baby's teeth first come in). I think that type of suppositional evolutionary biology is often nonsense. 1
dichotomy Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Yep, thats about 34 months after the BJ's stop from the wife. Sorry could not resist.... Don't believe this unless you define love as romantic/lust/infatuation. Real love is something else
xxoo Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Ridiculous theory. We are past 5x that mark, and he is still strongly motivated by seeing me light up with happiness (which is how the theorist measures love vs. mere affection). 2
TaraMaiden Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I shot my husband last week. Point-blank range. Silencer. people might have thought it was a distant firework, had I not used a silencer, but I didn't take the risk.... I dragged him out to the garden, under cover of darkness, and threw him in the 4-foot deep pond he's been digging all week. Covered him with soil, put in the thick rubber liner, and filled the pond to the brim.... Still love him to bits though. Does that count? 4
serial muse Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I shot my husband last week. Point-blank range. Silencer. people might have thought it was a distant firework, had I not used a silencer, but I didn't take the risk.... I dragged him out to the garden, under cover of darkness, and threw him in the 4-foot deep pond he's been digging all week. Covered him with soil, put in the thick rubber liner, and filled the pond to the brim.... Still love him to bits though. Does that count? I see what you did there. 2
dreamingoftigers Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I shot my husband last week. Point-blank range. Silencer. people might have thought it was a distant firework, had I not used a silencer, but I didn't take the risk.... I dragged him out to the garden, under cover of darkness, and threw him in the 4-foot deep pond he's been digging all week. Covered him with soil, put in the thick rubber liner, and filled the pond to the brim.... Still love him to bits though. Does that count? Well, How could you not? He's the best worm food you've ever had! 2
dreamingoftigers Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Well, How could you not? He's the best worm food you've ever had! Apparently TaraMaiden really liked this. Some kind of glitch has her liking it twice. But TaraMaiden, I must critique you about staying on topic. The real question wasn't whether it not you love him still, I mean, its so obvious how much you cherish him. Just look at all of the planning you put into his memorial. Most of us won't get a pond, almost like a miniature memorial park when we pass away! The real question was whether it has been past 46 months and whether he still loves YOU. (Or, well, did before you placed him in his final resting place). You see, it would be sad to think that a man could ignore all of the kind efforts TaraMaiden made towards remembering and cherishing her husband simply because it was past the 46 month mark. How, selfish....
TaraMaiden Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 The reason I shot him was because he told me he'd stopped loving me ages ago. He then followed it with "Actually now, I adore you". Now sorry, in my book, that's elevating me to Goddess status, but that should have been the case from the get-go. I hate inconsistencies. And besides, putting me on a pedestal as he did, I'm guessing he also expected me to dust it. I don't do dusting. Woman wasn't put on the planet to dust. (And in any case, after 7 years, there's no discernible difference in the thickness, and it makes Ikea look valuably antique...) I knew dumping him would have broken his heart. But that's just one thing, so I was going to settle on breaking all his bones instead, as they're more numerous. But in the end, I shot him, largely because he often told me, "I'd take a bullet for you." So? I let him. I think that was considerate of me. I could have done so much more...... 1
hotpotato Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 It's true. Of course, there is some individual variation. I fall out of love after 41 months, 17 days, 3 hours and 54.25 minutes. I applaud you for being precise. Most of my guys fall out of love at 9 months. If only they could reach 46 1
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