Progress and a bad dream

[geegee81]

Hi everyone. It’s almost been a month since my break up. I can say that I feel pretty good. I’ve been going out with my friends a lot….I’ve been dressing up and looking pretty. I’ve went on 3 dates. I’ve met many guys within this month, so there are definitely other fish in the sea. I’m not trying to fall in love again right now. I just want to move on.

I find myself logging onto this site less and less. So everyday does get better. I don’t need to come here as often. I thank all the members that chatted with me during difficult times.

 

 

I’ve tried hard to block my ex out of my mind. I deleted him off facebook and blocked him. I deleted his number off my phone, etc. So after he dumped me, I did “No Contact” and never contacted him again! I refuse to beg or plea. I’m better than that. I will never contact him again.

 

 

Honestly For a while, I had hopes that he would come back, despite the fact that I felt bad most of the time around him. He was mean to me often and had a hard time expressing himself..But I cared about him and didn’t want to be alone again. I would check my phone and hope that maybe he messaged me. But this type of thinking has to be insanity. Why would I want a guy that treated me badly and didn’t appreciate me? That’s crazy! Ive know him several years, so I just wish things would have worked out differently.

 

 

 

I had a dream last night. In this dream my 2 good friends had sex with my ex boyfriend. I was really hurt, so I wrote him a letter asking why he did that to me? I never got a chance to send the letter. I woke up crying a little bit. In the dream, him and I were not on speaking terms. I got no explanation. What do you think the dream meant?

 

 

My only problem is that him and I are in the same social organization. So I have seen him twice since the breakup. I don’t speak or make eye contact and neither does he. It has been uncomfortable, but I try my best to pretend he is invisible. I just wish that I didn’t reconnect with him this year. I wish I could do it all over again. I would pay attention to every red flag. I wish I could go back in time and change everything.

[Fufu]

Hi everyone. It’s almost been a month since my break up. I can say that I feel pretty good. I’ve been going out with my friends a lot….I’ve been dressing up and looking pretty. I’ve went on 3 dates. I’ve met many guys within this month, so there are definitely other fish in the sea. I’m not trying to fall in love again right now. I just want to move on.

I find myself logging onto this site less and less. So everyday does get better. I don’t need to come here as often. I thank all the members that chatted with me during difficult times.

 

 

I’ve tried hard to block my ex out of my mind. I deleted him off facebook and blocked him. I deleted his number off my phone, etc. So after he dumped me, I did “No Contact” and never contacted him again! I refuse to beg or plea. I’m better than that. I will never contact him again.

 

 

Honestly For a while, I had hopes that he would come back, despite the fact that I felt bad most of the time around him. He was mean to me often and had a hard time expressing himself..But I cared about him and didn’t want to be alone again. I would check my phone and hope that maybe he messaged me. But this type of thinking has to be insanity. Why would I want a guy that treated me badly and didn’t appreciate me? That’s crazy! Ive know him several years, so I just wish things would have worked out differently.

 

 

 

I had a dream last night. In this dream my 2 good friends had sex with my ex boyfriend. I was really hurt, so I wrote him a letter asking why he did that to me? I never got a chance to send the letter. I woke up crying a little bit. In the dream, him and I were not on speaking terms. I got no explanation. What do you think the dream meant?

 

 

My only problem is that him and I are in the same social organization. So I have seen him twice since the breakup. I don’t speak or make eye contact and neither does he. It has been uncomfortable, but I try my best to pretend he is invisible. I just wish that I didn’t reconnect with him this year. I wish I could do it all over again. I would pay attention to every red flag. I wish I could go back in time and change everything.

 

 

I think it's really good that you are doing things to help yourself to move on

 

The dream doesn't mean anything at all. It's just a dream And also seeing yourself crying in the dream is normal because you are still in the midst of recovering.

[Priv]

Wow, seems your doing great. I'm six weeks in but nowhere near where you are. I think the dreams are just a way for your brain to process the break up and past relationship. In a sense I think there healthy. After 6 weeks I still dream about her daily, ranging from seeing her packing her stuff to the death of her grandmother last year, but every time I wake up I feel a little less upset about the dream.

[headinthecloud]

I've found that dreams are an expression of your fears and hopes. In your case, it sounds like your fear is betrayal, that he tries to hurt you by affecting your close friendships. It doesn't mean anything, it's just your mind trying to cope with the loss.

 

I had a few dreams about my ex and each one expressed a different fear or hope. In one he came back to me but I was skeptical of his intentions, in another he told me that he never loved and we should not have stayed together so long. I was just trying to make sense of it all. The good news is that eventually it all stops and you start to dream of better things.

 

You are doing really well, stay strong and keep moving forward.

[geegee81]

Thanks everyone for the response. Im glad that im doing better too:laugh:. When it first happened i felt like i was going to die. Broken hearts really do hurt... I physically felt so much pain. I think i was in love with the ideal of being in love.But that is over now.

 

 

During the dream i definitely felt hurt and betrayed. And That's exactly how i feel about the break up....I just thought that him and i were friends, so he should have been honest with me. Betrayal is definitely the feeling.

[JDPT]

Honestly, take dreams with a grain of salt and simply view them as fictitious scenarios, clearly nonexistent. Detach from these dreams and don't allow them to determine how your day will unfold and how it'll affect your mental being. Be strong, it's still a process.