Hopeless with love Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 So I will be as quick and short possible. I am very confused with what has been happening. I have been seeing and talking with a man for 7 months on and off. In the last month we had a massive falling out, he mis read a text and decided to end it. It was a bad ending. We stop talking for two and a half weeks, then got back in contact a week later it ended badly again, stop talking 5 days and then again one day sent a few texts, sorting out what went wrong. He said I had hurt him extremely bad by saying I wasn't there for him and implying he wasn't there for me. He said he did. want us to be friends,so we agreed to have space until Christmas and see where we are at then. I have found out he is in a relationship already, only matter of days/ week after we ended. (We met on a dating site and he changed his status to in a relationship. He told me he had a gf, but I didn't believe him at the time, because he has used the idea of. Other women before to get me jealous, when he was never seeing them, so I assume he was playing that card again, since we were fighting at the time.) I am at a lost we are over just as fast as we got together. I am trying to move on, but he keeps popping in my head. If its over its over and rather move on and not wait in hope for Christmas but I still find I am hoping we can work out. Why does he want too see where we are at Christmas? Then have a gf in the mean time. This is the second guy to put me in this position of not wanting me to go and not wanting to commit to me.
Author Hopeless with love Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 I am hoping some one has some advice for me. I am getting hurt emotionally.
Author Hopeless with love Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 I have been hurt with more then my fair share of pain. I was seeking clarity, not nasty comment. I am just confused as what's happening.
Author Hopeless with love Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 Also the previous guy was my ex husband, I am only 28 and I thought this new guy was a potential. This is why I am hurting, I am still dealing with a divorce and now being hurt again.
Author Hopeless with love Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 I fell for him, because he appeared to be an amazingly kind, loving gentle sort of guy. Your advice is right and I know he has treated me bad. Hence the inner torment I go through, I am good at convincing my self things are not how they appear. Your device is right and when I met him, even though was on a dating site (long story why I was on there) I wasn't ready for a relationship. But constant talking and texting for 7 months , I grew feelings for him and who he is. I loved his giving heart. I do want to move on and not be walking baggage. I am already playing sport and community focused, looking after myself to move forward.
farnhamyrl Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I am hoping some one has some advice for me. 1
felicity1 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I can see self-respect lacking here. If you respect yourself, you won't let men(or anyone for that matter) treat you badly.
Author Hopeless with love Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 I do have self respect for my self. I made a mistake with a man, yes my marriage fell apart but no wasn't from lack of self respect. I would appreciate helpful advice, not comments that intend to hurt me further. Woman can have self respect and still make mistakes, I am just human who got sucked in by a sweet talking man. Again if its not helpful advice please refrain from commenting on me personally. Thank you
felicity1 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I do have self respect for my self. I made a mistake with a man, yes my marriage fell apart but no wasn't from lack of self respect. I would appreciate helpful advice, not comments that intend to hurt me further. Woman can have self respect and still make mistakes, I am just human who got sucked in by a sweet talking man. Again if its not helpful advice please refrain from commenting on me personally. Thank you These comments are not intended to be hurtful. It's just that the only way to solve relationship problems is to study oneself first and ask the question " Is my partner respecting me the way I respect myself? If he is not, why do I stay with him? "
mukkrakker Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Also the previous guy was my ex husband, Unless you actually enjoy all the suffering ("the guy" is your "ex husband" and you don't think you have self esteem issues?) you need to take control of your own life and move on.
crederer Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 I do have self respect for my self. I made a mistake with a man, yes my marriage fell apart but no wasn't from lack of self respect. I would appreciate helpful advice, not comments that intend to hurt me further. Woman can have self respect and still make mistakes, I am just human who got sucked in by a sweet talking man. Again if its not helpful advice please refrain from commenting on me personally. Thank you The fact that you're so sensitive to these comments, which are not mean or hurtful at all, indicates that you have some self respect issues.... 2
Phantom888 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I'm reading between the lines. He has been dating other women during the 7 months. He is on and off depending on whether or not he is with someone at the time. He wants to string you along till christmas in case this current girl doesn't work.
myothernic2 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I am hoping some one has some advice for me. Are you the OP as well...?
felicity1 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 [QUOTE=crederer;5322924] The fact that you're so sensitive to these comments, which are not mean or hurtful at all, indicates that you have some self respect issues.... Being in denial about self-respect issues is a common phenomenon.
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