Jolly Roger Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I am feeling like crap tonight, I feel sad and lost. Been separated 4 months this time around. It all started 2 years ago when my wife had an affair with her boss. Long story short, she wouldn't quit him. Said she would but I would bust them over and over again. And she has this 21 year old daughter, my stepdaughter, that hates me with a vengeance. She's called the police on me twice and more recently left voice mail and texts threatening to kill me in between all the f words. My wife wants to come home and I want her to. I want my children I have with her home, I want us to be a family again. I told her though, the stepdaughter can't come. She say's, "well she can visit and spend the night sometimes". I said, "no". I refuse to be around her any longer, you cannot control her and I've had enough. Well she says she can't tell her daughter she can't come to her house and I said well I can't be around your adult daughter. So, the separation continues and I'm worried. We're talking about just divorcing now. I'm afraid of being alone even though I already am. I'm afraid of losing my house in this jacked up market. I'm afraid. Am I wrong to insist that her adult daughter who continually tries to run my house and threaten me NOT step foot in my house when I'm here?
Author Jolly Roger Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 I should add, I think my wife has finally quit seeing/contacting her boss, but I think it was him that ended it.
RightThere Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 If the daughter is threatening and disruptive to the household, it's not unreasonable to ask her not to be a part of it. 1
health Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I see what you're saying. Get over feeling alone. Everyone is alone. Dependent people make more decisions like your wife. Don't be a doormat, let her go. This is terrible and a better life awaits you. People have to be able to face life alone before getting serious. If they don't learnt that young it seems they have to learn it when they are older. She honestly sounds so toxic! Get out of that world! Make a better one for yourself! 2
Author Jolly Roger Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Thank you RightThere and health, I appreciate you commenting and confirming. I really need to lose this woman but it's extremely difficult. I have alot invested, 16 years, and 3 daughters...shiiit. 1
Author Jolly Roger Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 She want's to come home and I was for that but I said, "no stepdaughter", she can't even step foot in the house. My was like, "well if she's in town, I'd like for her to visit. Well, I kinda understood that and said, "ok, well, she can visit, I can just hang in the garage or something...but she won't spend the night right? I can't tell my daughter she can't spend the night... Ugh, ok, she can visit and spend the night, but she won't live with us will she? She won't live with us because she doesn't want to leave her meme... But if she did want to leave her meme, she'd could live with us right? Right! ****! ok, so I can really see the future here but for your sake, my daughters sake, and the sake of our family, I'll chance it. Wife: Ok, will you drive up there and tell her you don't mind if she comes to our house? :-/ Um...I gave in on everything and you want me to suck ass too? Everytime I give in you have a new requirement....
RightThere Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Um...I gave in on everything and you want me to suck ass too? Everytime I give in you have a new requirement.... Yup. Amazing how they can just take and take and take and take........... As soon as you say "no" to the 8th add on request you become the bad guy. Keep your lines in the sand drawn. Not always good to be stubborn, but you need to pick your fights. Based on the drama and danger here, this is a fight worth having. 2
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