dustinthewind Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I will give you a brief run down of my relationship and how the break-up went down and where I am emotionally after 5 weeks. We dated for roughly 5 months, I met her friends and family and she met mine so it seemed we were the perfect Match. Not once did I ever treat her badly or with any disrespect, matter of fact I wined her and dined her often (3 to 4 times week) and took her shopping and bought her nice things, ALWAYS opened the car door for her and treated her like a gentleman... Our sex life was pretty awesome, and our social life seemed great. She is a very very social person with an abundance of friends and loves to meet her GF's at least 3 nights per week for wine and socializing, I cannot do that due to my job, but I also enjoyed socializing with her friends when time allowed. Looking back on our relationship I can now see she was a bit selfish and self-absorbed in her social life. She had way too many distractions going on in her social and business life to focus her attention on me and I think she knew it. She was very proud to show me off to her friends and co-workers, she hinted at times that I was a much better looking partner than she had ever dated and her friends loved how I treated her so well and so did her parents. She started getting distant roughly 2 weeks before we parted ways and when I brought it to her attention how distant she was is when we finally had a mature discussion about how my needs were not getting met due to all these distractions... So we mutually agreed to end the relationship and I gave her the key back to her home and that was the last time I set eyes on her. We kissed and hugged, she told me she really did love me and it was over... I told her the ball was in her court, if she wanted to reconcile after some time apart she would need to dig deep in her heart and figure out if she wanted the committed lifestyle or the single lifestyle with no boundaries..By the way we are both mid 40's in age. So here I am, coping with the loss of the girl that I care very much for and it has been 5 weeks no contact and everyday i wake and think of her, every night I dream about her, and during the day I relive the past 5 months we shared over and over and wonder where we went wrong. I was married once for more than 20 years so I am not a comittment phobe, she was married twice both less than 2 years and I do believe she has serious comittment issues. I think when she gets too close to someone she sabatoges the relationship and becomes distance and pushes them away. Although I feel sad and a little heartbroken, the rational side of me says that even if she contacts me and wants to make an attempt to reconcile, it will eventually end due to her problems that she will not address and she would most likely push me away again and the heartbreak would be twice as hard. So I have just began to date other girls and to end this pity party and to move forward with my life.. I have been out with 3 girls in the past week and although i'm mentally not ready to begin a new relationship it's nice to socialize and build my confidence back up and to know that in others eyes I am an attractive man with a great career and I have a lot to offer the next special person that enters into my life... So I don't want to give those that are hurting false hope by saying your girl/guy might come back, because believe me I treated this girl like a princess and it's been 5 weeks and she has not contacted me and she might never contact me... But I have to believe that when a girl has been in a relationship for 5 months with a guy that treated her so good, and that her friends and family thought the world of, and a guy she was so proud to be with always, now is not in her life, and knowing how brutal the dating world is when your in your mid 40's and how hard it is to catch a great guy... She has got to be missing me and wondering if she has pushed away a great catch... Really bizzare!
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