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with a person you had amazing sexual chemistry with(as in previously dated this person)?

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with a person you had amazing sexual chemistry with(as in previously dated this person)?

 

During the course of a relationship? No.

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During the course of a relationship? No.

 

I mean JUST friends, no benefits

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If it was just sex, sure. If there are emotions, gotta get rid of that first.

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Not initially.

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sure, probably not if i was in a relationship with someone and the person i had history with was close by, i mean i could, it just wouldnt be fair. dont really see the point in holding grudges or pretending your ex doesnt exist/never existed, that behaviour smacks of not being over it in a wholly different way to clinging on to false hope, running away from your problems. If you got on with someone and like them when you first met them then why on earth wouldnt you later too? as much as dumpees may like to pretend their ex was not the person they thought they were and vice-versa, they actually are.

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with a person you had amazing sexual chemistry with(as in previously dated this person)?

 

Maybe after much, much time has passed. Much time.

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Only if it was amicable and enough time had passed. Then I would wish them well.

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I have just been dumped by my fiancé after living with her for the past 2yrs, we were each others best friends for yrs before we got it together, I now that at some point in the future we will reconnect as friends again in some capacity and I know it's mutual, how I/we achieve that I have no idea at this moment as feel devastated by the BU!

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Maybe years from now. It would be one of those ones where neither of us had seen each other for years. Both would have completely changed and maybe have something new to talk about and get to know each other all over again.

 

If it happens it happens, I aint bothered either way.

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If it was just sex, sure. If there are emotions, gotta get rid of that first.

 

Bingo.

 

Even if I acted on it, I could totally be just friends with someone I had chemistry with...as long as there were no emotions involved.

 

Previously dated them? Not likely. It takes a long time for that stuff to fade away, and if any chemistry remained, the feelings could easily come surging on back. No thanks.

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Nope. I am married and in no way want to put myself in the position of "what if". But that is me and I have great boundaries when it comes to friends of the opposite sex.

 

Also, could you not be jealous when this person finds a new significant other. Would you be able to handle should their bf/gf/wife/husband ask that the friendship be cut off?

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I mean JUST friends, no benefits

After a while yes. Especially if we have both dated other people in the meantime.

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could you be friends ?

with a person you had amazing sexual chemistry with(as in previously dated this person)?

 

Possible? Sure. Likely? For most people, mixed bag, especially if both people go on to other committed relationships/marriages.

 

IMO, much revolves around an individual's sexual and relationship style. Billions of those out there so no real general rules IMO.

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