absolutezero Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 A few years ago my wife confessed to cheating, we are both in our 40's, married young and have 2 children, my wife is also very attractive fun loving girl. It happened about 6 years ago and We were going through a pretty bad stage of our marrage and she was convinced i had cheated on her previously (which i hadnt). She had confessed because she thought that i had already found out about it. It had happened a few years ealier whilst i was out of town on business. She had met someone online and she arranged to meet him at a local beauty spot, they had sex in his car. She described it as a one off and also told me that the sex was rubbish and it was all over quickly, im quite aware that this may of been the truth but also may have been marrage saving speak. She never contacted him again. I was gutted but wanted all of the details, i found her memory pretty bad on a lot of things. I decided to look further into it, checked her emails, chat logs, text message etc etc I needed to know! I found quite a lot of messages to a message board, in one message she admitted that she was 'sex mad' and thought about sex with other men all of the time, she also admitted to having fallen for one of my married friends and that he felt the same way and that she didnt know how much longer she could resist him. Obviously i confronted with this but she insists that she only cheated once but had fancied my friend. I also confronted my friend and he also said that nothing had ever happened other than some intimate online chat. She begged for forgiveness, we made up with each other and life carried on, i had done my best to accept what she said and somehow forgive her, we moved on. Ive never mentioned it to her since as her mother died and i didnt want to add to her pain, im now starting to think that there may have been a lot more going on than i imagined. Did it really just happen one time? Did she sleep with my friend? Was there any other men that i knew nothing about? Im so confused and would like another opinion.
aybc123 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 not sure if it was more than once really matters. i would never forgive someone for not telling me. Cheating i might forgive, if our relationship was crappy at the time, or they got massively drunk and then they confessed to it without prompting within a couple of months because they couldnt take the guilt. The fact is she cheated on you and would never have told you about it and could look you in the eye and kiss you goodnight no problems. Couldnt be with someone who could do that. what else would they be lying about or hiding? 1
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