CNE181 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 So as explained in my previous posts, my ex and I are stuck in a lease due to our financial situation. I thought we were behaving okay together (not talking all too much but amicable), but when I texted him last night asking him if I could talk to him he ignored the text. The only reason I wanted to talk to him was so I could get household chores straightened out because he hasn't been helping with them so they've become my and the other roommates' responsibility. I finally got tired of it, and wanted to have a discussion as two roommates about it. No screaming, no blaming. Since he didn't text back, I talked to him when I got home from work. He said he didn't want to talk. I asked him why he was being the way he was being and he said that he didn't want to talk because I was "being a jerk the past week." I got upset by this and kind of let him have it, because I did no such thing. I told him he was behaving like a child and making things so much worse than they have to be and that we don't have to talk if he doesn't want to talk to me. I feel bad for it, but I was just pissed that he couldn't just talk to me as at least a roommate. I can not for the life of me think of much I could have said or done to upset him. I have been trying to be as nice as possible, but we are exes after all so I still find it difficult to talk to him sometimes. I even asked the other roommate who spends a lot of time in the room with the both of us if I had done or said anything that could have upset him and she couldn't think of anything. Why is he being such a jerk? p.s. I realize in this situation I am no angel, but I feel like he is being a jerk.
lindsay1990 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Why is he being such a jerk? p.s. I realize in this situation I am no angel, but I feel like he is being a jerk. he's being a jerk either because he's mad at you about something in the RS or the BU, but also, because he's okay with disappointing you now that you're broken up. He probably resents you telling him what to do and now that he's not your boyfriend any more, he must feel he can't be bothered to do what you want him to do because he doesn't have to keep you happy, just himself. TBH. Did you dump him or other way around btw?
Author CNE181 Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 he's being a jerk either because he's mad at you about something in the RS or the BU, but also, because he's okay with disappointing you now that you're broken up. He probably resents you telling him what to do and now that he's not your boyfriend any more, he must feel he can't be bothered to do what you want him to do because he doesn't have to keep you happy, just himself. TBH. Did you dump him or other way around btw? He broke up with me, which is why I don't understand why he is being so childish and acting like the victim. I didn't do anything to him and all I want is for him to hold up his responsibilities as a roommate. I don't want to be stuck doing all the stuff around the house for the rest of the lease.
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