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What does that mean when a guy hugs you close and kisses you on the cheek? Is that just a friendly gesture?:bunny:

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I think that's friendship.

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1st date, second date, what? Too vague.

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1st date, second date, what? Too vague.

Not even a date. We hung out for a few times and that happened in a party. I was a little bit drunk and he suddenly hugged me close and kissed me on the cheek. Then he immediately told me he shouldn't have done that because he felt like he's taking advantage of me when I was drunk.

Now I'm confused.

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I think that's friendship.

 

Do you hug or kiss your friends? :eek: I hug my close friends, but I never gave a kiss to my friends.

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Not even a date. We hung out for a few times and that happened in a party. I was a little bit drunk and he suddenly hugged me close and kissed me on the cheek. Then he immediately told me he shouldn't have done that because he felt like he's taking advantage of me when I was drunk.

Now I'm confused.

 

Sounds like he's into you, and he's playing the "i'm a good guy that won't take advantage of you when you're drunk" card.

 

I've played that card with girls I've been interested in before.

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Not even a date. We hung out for a few times and that happened in a party. I was a little bit drunk and he suddenly hugged me close and kissed me on the cheek. Then he immediately told me he shouldn't have done that because he felt like he's taking advantage of me when I was drunk.

Now I'm confused.

 

Seems like he likes you but is quite careful in respecting boundaries and being the nice guy. Maybe next time if you are going to be around him, don't get drunk just so you can be present in the moment with him and create a better opportunity to move things along.

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Do you hug or kiss your friends? :eek: I hug my close friends, but I never gave a kiss to my friends.

I do hug my friends and sometimes I kiss them on the cheek. I have no idea why that would be shocking at all.

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Seems like he likes you but is quite careful in respecting boundaries and being the nice guy. Maybe next time if you are going to be around him, don't get drunk just so you can be present in the moment with him and create a better opportunity to move things along.

 

Tbh I was drunk most of the time when I was with him because we are always in the same party. He tried to get me to hang out with him when I am sober, but I didn't because I afraid I don't know what to say :-(

Then one day he said if I like him enough I would have gone out with him, but he didn't force anything

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Tbh I was drunk most of the time when I was with him because we are always in the same party. He tried to get me to hang out with him when I am sober, but I didn't because I afraid I don't know what to say :-(

Then one day he said if I like him enough I would have gone out with him, but he didn't force anything

 

The guy is interested in getting to know you and you can't hang with him sober because you don't know what to say? I'm confused.

 

How old are you?

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The guy is interested in getting to know you and you can't hang with him sober because you don't know what to say? I'm confused.

 

How old are you?

 

Just turned 21 this summer :) I'm just never good at talking with people, always a bit awkward and I like him! ( which makes things worse)

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Just turned 21 this summer :) I'm just never good at talking with people, always a bit awkward and I like him! ( which makes things worse)

 

Well, nothing like forcing yourself to do it. Sometimes you have to put yourself in uncomfortable situations to learn, adapt and overcome.

 

If you continue this way, all you'll ever do is hide behind your alcohol and maybe meet drunken guys that just want to get laid.

 

If you like him, do something about it -- minus the alcohol. You have to start somewhere!

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Well, nothing like forcing yourself to do it. Sometimes you have to put yourself in uncomfortable situations to learn, adapt and overcome.

 

If you continue this way, all you'll ever do is hide behind your alcohol and maybe meet drunken guys that just want to get laid.

 

If you like him, do something about it -- minus the alcohol. You have to start somewhere!

Okay!!

But to be honest I'm not that sure he actually likes me. what if he's just a nice guy and that;s it?:lmao:

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If you only run into him at parties, consider adding him on Facebook and saying hi. If he's interested he'll be happy to chat.

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Okay!!

But to be honest I'm not that sure he actually likes me. what if he's just a nice guy and that;s it?:lmao:

 

Only one way to find out and that is to hang out sober and go from there.

 

I mean the guy wants to spend time with you while you are sober. He even said if you liked him enough you would have gone out with him.

 

Stop finding excuses.

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Okay!!

But to be honest I'm not that sure he actually likes me. what if he's just a nice guy and that;s it?:lmao:

 

He definitely likes you. There's nothing more too it...

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Reporting in. I went to a dinner with him and as I expected I don't know what to say. He was doing most of the talking and suddenly he bought up questions about one time he was at a bar. When I was out of town one night my friend texted me about this guy hanging out with another girl and probably slept with her ( and a lot of other details). So he asked me what my friend told me and I said I don't remember. He kept telling me he didn't sleep with anyone that night, he only walked the girl to her car and stuffs like that......... I told him you don't have to tell me that and he said he think that I need to know. The next day the friend who told me stuffs called me and said, this guy called him last night and said he's unhappy about him telling me something that's not true .( my friend was so drunk and he passed out so he didn't actually know what happened)

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so he cares about what you think of him. He likes you. he doesn't want you to think he's into casual sex. so he wants to hang out with you. Good! He's not making any moves yet because he wants to dig deeper and know you better. Good start i think.

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