RightThere Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 I would be lying if I said I am taking good care of myself. It is what it is for now. Not gaining but not losing as fast either. Totally normal. I'm not a big guy to begin with, but somehow lost 20 lbs through this ordeal. Finding some of it come back, but not quickly. It's a bit of a blessing in that with decreased appetite, I'm eating less junk. Try to fill yourself with good stuff (lots of fruits and veggies) and you'll feel a bit better that filling with anything else. 3
BetrayedH Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 I would be lying if I said I am taking good care of myself. It is what it is for now. Not gaining but not losing as fast either. I didn't stop losing weight for six months (maybe more). Lost 38lbs in total. 25 were in the first month. Sadly, I gained it ALL back and then stabilized at my old weight by about 2 years. Would've liked to have kept twenty of them off. But honestly, it just felt good to know that I was healthy enough to resume normalcy in this area. 3
dichotomy Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Speaking of kid(s) - as I remember (i might be wrong in this thread) wasn't the OW's kid not OW's husbands kid? Is it your stbx's? Was this discussed in your couples therapy? If so - so many lives have been messed with.
firemanq Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 [quote=peaksandvalleys;531900 " you walking, talking piece of something that should be scraped off the bottom of a shoe. " I like that response. You made a POS think twice. First when you said it and then she had to think again when she realized what you meant. You are going to be OK, and so will the kids. 1
Author peaksandvalleys Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 Session #4 down and 1 to go. Last night was my turn to say everything that was on my mind. How I felt about his actions and the feeling of years of betrayal and how I wanted him and her to hurt like I was hurting. I got more and more angry as I talked but I did not cry in front of him. I think the kids and I will use this counselor. I like the style of talking and listening. He sat there and cried again. The counselor kept looking at him, I guess to gauge his reactions. I'm not sure. When I was finished she asked him if he had a response to what I said. I said he understands that I want to divorce him but it won't stop him from trying to get his family back. He will use his dying breath to get us back. My opinion, take that last breath already. Yes, that's mean and I don't care today. I am tired and I hate him right now. He also told us he asked for a paternity test. Seems he might not be so sure the child is his. No trust among the untrustworthy. That's poetic. Our kids are strong. Stronger than I could have ever imagined. I am so proud of them. They realize we need help and are willing to work on things. At least one is willing to met him half-way, the others not so much. I find myself wondering what if I had caught him earlier in the marriage what my life would be like. Would I have found the kind of relationship I truly desired? Would I not have some of the health issues that I have? Then I feel guilty because I wouldn't have all my kids. No word from OW or her BS. Hopefully everything can be resolved by the end of the year. It would be great to have a fresh start in the new year. 12
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