EC Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 It's over... He said he took me to dinner last night to tell me but couldn't... He just showed up at my job and told me he needs "space" and that we both need a break because we have a lot going on in eachothers lives... a break..yeah my A$$... I'm just at a loss for words....
Barby Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 I'm so sorry, you knew he wasn't acting right! EC I'm really really sorry! What a lousy way to break up Can't believe he didn't give you more of an explanation....how are you holding up?
NatoPMT Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 I'm sorry EC - i know you said he was behaving a bit strangely but he did give you all those reassurances when you talked to him. . . . how are you feeling? are you ok? you sound defiant right now
Author EC Posted December 15, 2004 Author Posted December 15, 2004 I'm just shocked...really shocked. Thats about it no other emotion. I just don't want to do anything right now but just stare into space.
alphamale Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 sorry to hear of your loss... but, I am available EC, well sort of.....
Author EC Posted December 15, 2004 Author Posted December 15, 2004 I was with him 8 months december 13th why now?? Why when I spoke to him did he tell me everything was fine I had nothing to worry about?? Why take me out to dinner to break up with me then dont then break up with me and tell me you took me out to do it??? Why before Christmas?? What do I do with his 150.00 dollar present? and his parents??? UGH! Male lol
brashgal Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Take it back and use the money for YOU. Very nasty time of year to break up...
Soon2bsngl Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Aaawww, that's a bummer. I'm sorry to hear that. Crappy time of year to do it. I hope you are doing ok. Keep your chin up.
Pendawn Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Ugh! I am so sorry. To me the whole "I wnated to break up with you but couldn't tell you." is one of the worst aspects because you think, how long have they wanted this, and when I've thought they were happy they were sitting trying to do the deed. My advice on his gifts - if you cna't return them sell them on ebay with an explanation why you're selling them. You tend to get good money, sympathy and a nice feeling of sticking it to him. hugs to you.
savethedrama4allama Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Hey EC, is he in town for the holidays? I Guess I missed it, I thought he was off wherever he usually is for your LDR. I'm sorry, I know it feels awful.
Author EC Posted December 15, 2004 Author Posted December 15, 2004 Llama..Yeah he is here for three weeks..and doesn't leave until Jan 2nd. I haven't cried. I guess I am in such shock that I am feeling no emotions right now. I'm just there. I just keep staring at the computer screen thinking did this just happen or am I dreaming?
bebop Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Oh no, oh no. Oh my God, I'm so sorry. You were so happy in your post after your dinner date. Oh, hugs to you. And right at Christmas, why do people do this at the holidays. When I thought I'd lost my fiance last week I was an utter zombie. Also staring into space. Pure shock. Keep posting, people are here for you. hugshugshugs
savethedrama4allama Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Well, llama loves you and never wants it to end between us. Hugs
SpaceCoyote Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 I just keep staring at the computer screen thinking did this just happen or am I dreaming? Know the feeling quite well. You feel as though your life before this happened was very real and what you are in now feels very unreal in contrast. It is like it is all one huge bad dream. Hope you are holding up OK and if you eventually feel the need to, go ahead and let the tears out because it is natural.
Naive Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 What happened EC? What supposedly went wrong? I know that there are no words that will make you feel better. If you want to scream, scream. If you want to cry, cry. If you want to curse, curse. but once you are done don't look back. Remember Pa' Tras ni pa' cojer impulso
Author EC Posted December 15, 2004 Author Posted December 15, 2004 Ok now I'm crying...I just realized I won't have someone to kiss at 12:00 on New Years! I won't have someone on the New Year...He broke up with me.... I want to call him...I have so many unanswered questions..I don't even know if we are really broken up he said take a break but a break means break up to me...I'm moving in with his brothers gf next week!!!... This just cannot be happening..
Stone Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Look at the bright side now you can go out with the Pizza Guy!!( kidding) This relationship stressed you out anyways. your to young and beautiful for that.
Scott S Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Oh Cripes!! After all the discussion?! Words cannot describe how sorry I am to hear that!
Author EC Posted December 15, 2004 Author Posted December 15, 2004 So what am I supposed to do now???? I don't know if we are over or not? I mean in my eyes we are but all he said was we have too many things going on in our lives and we are too stressed and it's not fair for the both of us and that we should take a break for a while... But he was telling me this and I was just in such total shock that I don't even remember what I told him...I was left like dammit I needed to ask thos and say that. All I said was "Are you serious? " I said I don't believe in breaks and that for that it's over. He said no we should just take a break and fix what we have going on in our lives and then when things are "settled" down we can put our 100% into the relationship... I said WTF and walked away and back into my office and then posted and have been staring at my computer screen until I started crying like a min ago and he hasn't called, he didn't shase after me...and WTF am I supposed to do now?? I dont want to call him I am mad at him...if he calls me I won't pick up....but what are we..how could he be so cruel?
Pepuchin Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Hi amiga, Sorry to hear about your loss. If he calls you, think you should pick up and with all the best calm in the world, try to get answer to all your questions. Start there. Good luck
Weird Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 So what am I supposed to do now???? Um, move on with your life? Not like you were married to the guy for 50 years....your life will go on. Your preach sound advice to people on here and I think you should follow your own advice. As for the gift you bought him...just take it back or give it to him. Oh and I dunno how he could be so cruel to break up with you 10 days before xmas and do it the way he did. I really am sympathetic to your situation but I know you're a tough cookie so you'll be able to manage.
Author EC Posted December 15, 2004 Author Posted December 15, 2004 Its crazy huh I can see others situations so clearly and give advice but when it comes to me all I hear in my head is that test sound that you see sometimes while your watching TV and the weather test thing goes on...BEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEP...thats all I hear. Ugh ok I wiped my tears 1 because I'm at work, 2 because my mascara was messing up, and 3 because Freak that EC doesn't cry. Now after sitting quietly and staring at the screen for a few momwnts I have decided it's for the better. I do have a lot going on. I just got a new apartment, I start classes to get my insurance license and I will be a zombie for about a month until I get it. I start a whole new life as soon as I move in on the 28th. He goes back to school and I am left alone again anyways and on the same roller coaster I have been riding. He wants a break I will give him a break. I am calling him tonight when I get home..I am of course going to try to look amazing but as if I'm hanging out at the same time. I will call him over to talk so that I can get the answers I need because I so know that there is more. And then I will tell him I agree and start the healing process... We have a few things before Christmas that we have to attend together so I will ask him if he still wants to attend and that I will gladly attend with him I have no problem as long as we handle it in a mature manner. I will tell him that he can keep his stupid gift because at the time I bought it I loved him and I still do and I want him to have it. Then the day he leaves I will say goodbye and I will proceed with NC. Yeah thats the plan anyway.. Will I go through with it who knows? And now I am going to the vending machine because I need some chocolate and then a cigarette (even though I quit) its an emergency, and dammit we shared chocolate brownies for dessert at dinner last night....
Weird Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Its crazy huh I can see others situations so clearly and give advice but when it comes to me all I hear in my head is that test sound that you see sometimes while your watching TV and the weather test thing goes on...BEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEP...thats all I hear. hahaha, yeah that's how it goes with most people. Crazy how it works... Anyway, I like your plan and hope you can stick with it. I also hope he can gives you answers to questions you have so you wont left be wondering wtf things happened the way they did. You go sister. I want nothing but the best for you.
Scott S Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd So what am I supposed to do now???? I don't know if we are over or not? I mean in my eyes we are but all he said was we have too many things going on in our lives and we are too stressed and it's not fair for the both of us and that we should take a break for a while... [sNIP] I dont want to call him I am mad at him...if he calls me I won't pick up....but what are we..how could he be so cruel? Right now, calling would be inadvisable, given that you are quite upset. I would suggest waiting a couple days before doing so. You may wish to have a friend come over & sit with you while you make the call. That is, if you choose to do so, of course. Again, I am so very sorry to hear this!
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