MalachiX Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Ok, quick run down of current situation: A friend of mine just got married. For three years me and this guy rented rooms in a large house with several other people. We became pretty close friends and stayed in touch when we both moved out about four months ago. We don't see each other a lot now (hectic lives) but we try to hang out when we can and I still consider him a close friend. He got married on Saturday and I was an Usher at his wedding. At the reception, I met a friend of new wife who helped organize the reception. We chatted a little and ended up dancing for a while towards the end of the night. I asked if she'd ever like to try a cute little coffee shop that's nearbye (we actually live pretty close to each other) and she gave me her number. I tried calling the following evening but missed her. Earlier today she sent me a text apologizing for missing my call. She asked if I wanted to grab a quick bite on the way back from work (we were both finishing up around the same time) and I said sure and suggested we go to the coffee shop I mentioned for dessert. We had a really nice time and I told her I'd like to see her again even though the next few two week is super busy. She said she'd like that and we texted when we got home. I don't know how close she is with my buddies new wife (as I don't know his new wife very well though I've always had positive interactions with her). I know that she only just met my buddy two weeks ago so I guess they can't be super tight (though she did plan the wedding reception). Any tips on proceeding with this situation. My impulse is to not over-think things (despite this post) and just try to be a good guy no matter where this goes. Any other tips on dating the friend of a friend's wife? P.S. I know internet wisdom says I'm supposed to wait a little before setting up another date (so as not to seem to eager) but I really am super booked for the next week or two so, if I want to see her again, I do kinda need to make plans soon. Does it sound too forward to give her a ring or text tomorrow night to set something up for Thursday or Friday (likely my only free times). THANKS!!!
d0nnivain Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 You answered your own Questions. Don't overthink it. Be a good guy, no matter what. Especially if you are going to be busy, calling sooner rather than later is fine. The "rules" about timing were designed not so much to be hard & fast rules but to give people a sense of self worth & show them how to not come off as desperate doormats. I don't think that's your problem. The biggest key to dating this woman is to not discuss her or your relationship in detail with your buddy or his wife, her friend. You can say that you & she went to dinner at xyz restaurant but keep any personal details out of it & don't verbalize your journey through liking her.
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