napy666 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I have heard from friends, family, and others that I should stop looking for the guy for me, and let him come to me. Does this actually work or will I be waiting forever n ever?
Uwaae Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I know what they mean, but I dont subscribe to it. If you see a guy that you like, ask him for a drink. Dont wait, especially if thats not the type of person you are. Sometimes interactions need a little push for them to act more organically
Conners Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Yep, just stop looking! I was trying to pursue a guy I thought I liked and then I kinda realised he wasn't really into me so I just deleted his number and never contacted him and gave up on guys for a bit and just enjoyed being single. Got convinced to go out clubbing at the last minute with friends during this time and ran into a guy I used to work with when I was in high-school who I always had a thing for and we ended up hooking up and we have been dating for a year now. i've never been more in love. I found him when i wasn't looking for anything. Hope that inspires you a bit
soccerrprp Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I have heard from friends, family, and others that I should stop looking for the guy for me, and let him come to me. Does this actually work or will I be waiting forever n ever? This is one of those beliefs that are true when it happens and, obviously false, when it doesn't. Veni, vidi, vici....I came, I saw, I conquered.... Waiting around for something to happen is WAY RISKY! Perhaps, taking your time, being patient in your pursuits...but being passive is not recommended.
gaius Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 As long as you're putting yourself out there for men to find you that's good advice. I've known women who kind of hide themselves away and they never get anywhere despite being awesome. Since nobody can find them.
d0nnivain Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 You can be a clingy person who gives off a desperate vibe that you need a man, any man, but you simply don't want to be alone. You do have to make some effort to let men know that you are available. Join a dating site. Go to a singles event. Get involved in clubs & causes that you are interested in. Smile. Be friendly but not needy. Have stuff going on in your own life to show that you are independent & have qualities to bring to the relationship besides a desire to be coupled up.
felicity1 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I have heard from friends, family, and others that I should stop looking for the guy for me, and let him come to me. Does this actually work or will I be waiting forever n ever? I have a few girlfriends who spend much of their free time engaged in particular activities solely to find men or the "right" man. They may date many men but are never happy as they never find what they really want. Don't live your life searching for love. Love yourself. Do hobbies that you enjoy and make you happy. As the saying goes..."Seek love, find none, live life, find both" 1
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