samsungxoxo Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I would feel more comfortable in a situation like yours, obviously, but I don't mind experience. I just fear rejection I doubt he's looking/expecting to find a virgin, I can't tell if he'll find it desirable or not...If I were you, I would also beware of the virgin hunters. There are men out there who are obsessed with a woman's purity or low experience status while they like playing the fields. I would suggest try finding out who the guy is really and how exactly does he views sex in general?
samsungxoxo Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 (edited) Don't worry about it! To be honest I would prefer a girl to be similarly experienced to me. (I've had one girlfriend and I'm 25)OP, it's better if you found a man like f1asr88. That would work out more than with a reformed player. Edited November 8, 2013 by samsungxoxo 1
SoleMate Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I'd tell him, but I would never use the word "virgin". That seems too.....icky somehow. Too sexual/clinical/repressed religious/forward/whatever. I'd just say, "I'm a little nervous, I don't have much experience" or something lower key. Rather than just blasting out "I'm a 27 year old VIRGIN, now what are you gonna do about it????" You'll know you're with the right man when it's easy to tell him all your little secrets and share your worries with him and know that you'll be understood and feel safe. Sex will be fun if it's with someone you trust with both your body and your feelings/heart. He needs to show that he's a good listener and cares for your wellbeing before you take off your clothes. You may want to see a counselor for a few sessions to see if anxiety if an issue for you generally.
Author petitefleur Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 Depends on the guy. I think that's the best that can be said. I guess so. Thanks! Don't worry about it! To be honest I would prefer a girl to be similarly experienced to me. (I've had one girlfriend and I'm 25) I'm not bothered about a girl being good in bed etc. right away, I'd love to teach/ learn about it more with a girl I cared about, and to whom it really meant something Sex shouldn't be used as a bargaining chip, but at the same time, by being more conservative in that respect you've now found yourself a guy who you think is genuinely into you, for you as a person, and not just for your body. When you're sure about him, and comfortable and ready, go for it Honestly, this wouldn't be any issue at all for a caring, genuine guy Thanks. He seems really nice. What bothers me is the weirdness factor. I'm not a prude at all and have a healthy libido (I guess lol). Your scenario would be ideal but I doubt he's not experienced
Author petitefleur Posted November 8, 2013 Author Posted November 8, 2013 If I were you, I would also beware of the virgin hunters. There are men out there who are obsessed with a woman's purity or low experience status while they like playing the fields. I would suggest try finding out who the guy is really and how exactly does he views sex in general? OP, it's better if you found a man like f1asr88. That would work out more than with a reformed player. I don't have much to chose from as it is lol. We'll see how he turns out, I we keep going out that is. I won't tell him right away. I'd tell him, but I would never use the word "virgin". That seems too.....icky somehow. Too sexual/clinical/repressed religious/forward/whatever. I'd just say, "I'm a little nervous, I don't have much experience" or something lower key. Rather than just blasting out "I'm a 27 year old VIRGIN, now what are you gonna do about it????" You'll know you're with the right man when it's easy to tell him all your little secrets and share your worries with him and know that you'll be understood and feel safe. Sex will be fun if it's with someone you trust with both your body and your feelings/heart. He needs to show that he's a good listener and cares for your wellbeing before you take off your clothes. You may want to see a counselor for a few sessions to see if anxiety if an issue for you generally. I'm quite outgoing actually, it's just that I'm a Gemini and I'm very good at keeping my emotions hidden, to the point I think I have intimacy issues. I can be shy with men, specially since I'm in a foreign country speaking a foreign language and interacting with people from a different culture. Dating is very hard for me but I'm trying hard to put all that away and be open. You could say I'm anxious but that comes from te insecurity about what I just mentioned. I like your advice. Thank you. I won't use the word virgin.
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