krazikat Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Just heard on a tv show: OW: I am tired of being alone all the time. I just need more time with you... MM: You dont get it, I hear that from everyone, my mom, my son, BS. OW: I dont want to be bs, I am different from all that. MM: You used to be my get-a-way from the bull ****. Now you are the bull ****. This was on a "reality" show....ok so not so real buuut, still had me thinking what a selfish a$$! Mind you, he is also telling OW he and BS dont have a "relationship" and just spend time together for the kids...while telling bs she is his love...having sex with both while convincing each he is only sexing her...nasty a$$. It really is so ridiculous! So this thread is for open discussion...open RESPECTFUL discussion... OW/M...why do you believe the MP? Do you really have proof, or just taking their word? MP...Have you lied to your AP about your relationship with BS? BS...what did MP tell you about AP to try and minimize, or do you believe they were completely honest? Did any one tell or get told a crazy lie? If so, how was the lie discovered? Remember, keep it respectful...anyone can participate in the discussion...
Author krazikat Posted November 5, 2013 Author Posted November 5, 2013 Just heard on a tv show: OW: I am tired of being alone all the time. I just need more time with you... MM: You dont get it, I hear that from everyone, my mom, my son, BS. OW: I dont want to be bs, I am different from all that. MM: You used to be my get-a-way from the bull ****. Now you are the bull ****. This was on a "reality" show....ok so not so real buuut, still had me thinking what a selfish a$$! Mind you, he is also telling OW he and BS dont have a "relationship" and just spend time together for the kids...while telling bs she is his love...having sex with both while convincing each he is only sexing her...nasty a$$. It really is so ridiculous! So this thread is for open discussion...open RESPECTFUL discussion... OW/M...why do you believe the MP? Do you really have proof, or just taking their word? MP...Have you lied to your AP about your relationship with BS? BS...what did MP tell you about AP to try and minimize, or do you believe they were completely honest? Did any one tell or get told a crazy lie? If so, how was the lie discovered? Remember, keep it respectful...anyone can participate in the discussion... My H didnt try to minimize or lie once he realized I knew. He did try to lie when I first approached him but as soon as I told him I talked to her, he admitted it all. TBH even though I knew, I wished it was all a bad joke. I had access to his text messages, I knew the whole ugly. So, lie from husband...a loooong affair. Thats a pretty big whopper. From OW....she told me all kinds of crazy. She didnt know I had the texts so I busted her in lie after lie...got 4am phone calls, etc. Basically, a whole lot of crazy. In the end, I did decide to r with my husband, he voluntarilly went nc with ow, and I had a closure convo with the ow. I was mad at my h for how he talked to ow although a part of me, the childish inner bitch or whatever, was doing cartwheels in mind because he didnt talk to me that way...but at the same time I felt bad for thinking that. Affairs are.crazy making.for all involved.
Sunny_Girl Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Just heard on a tv show: OW: I am tired of being alone all the time. I just need more time with you... MM: You dont get it, I hear that from everyone, my mom, my son, BS. OW: I dont want to be bs, I am different from all that. MM: You used to be my get-a-way from the bull ****. Now you are the bull ****. This was on a "reality" show....ok so not so real buuut, still had me thinking what a selfish a$$! Mind you, he is also telling OW he and BS dont have a "relationship" and just spend time together for the kids...while telling bs she is his love...having sex with both while convincing each he is only sexing her...nasty a$$. It really is so ridiculous! So this thread is for open discussion...open RESPECTFUL discussion... OW/M...why do you believe the MP? Do you really have proof, or just taking their word? MP...Have you lied to your AP about your relationship with BS? BS...what did MP tell you about AP to try and minimize, or do you believe they were completely honest? Did any one tell or get told a crazy lie? If so, how was the lie discovered? Remember, keep it respectful...anyone can participate in the discussion... I watched the same show. Sad thing is, the "OW" is his wife. She started out as other woman but he married her behind his girlfriend's back! Just goes to show how cowardly, selfish and greedy cheaters (men and women) can be.
whatatangledweb Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 My husband told the truth about her after he was caught. He never blamed her for the affair.He only blamed himself. Now my husband lied to her many times during the affair. He lied to me during the affair also. I saw all the emails. I couldn't believe the pure crap he made up and told her. 1
Author krazikat Posted November 5, 2013 Author Posted November 5, 2013 I watched the same show. Sad thing is, the "OW" is his wife. She started out as other woman but he married her behind his girlfriend's back! Just goes to show how cowardly, selfish and greedy cheaters (men and women) can be. I saw the tattoo on her back that said Mrs. MM....but didnt catch that they had married....oooh goodness, that takes it up to an even higher level of ridiculous...where the long term girlfriend (she has been referred to as his wife publicly?) The he cheats and marries ow but keeps ow as the secret relationship even tho they married? He was pissed that she told a mutual friend and went on and on about how it was a secret and she wasn't supposed to tell anyone about their relationship....wth? but do you think they are really married? She just shows tattoo, But ya, it is so sad. This is almost too much, like who does that?
Summer Breeze Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 As an OW I knew him relatively well before we had an A. I knew some of his siblings before I knew him. He knew if I caught him lying to me once it was done and to my knowledge he never did while we were in the A and he hasn't since we've been together. As a BS I worked with his OW. He didn't say anything about her because I pretty much shut down the M immediately. If his OW was M to him at this point it's pretty obvious she didn't insist on him doing any hard work on figuring out what had gone on and why. What they had was no more successful than R when the WS and BS gloss over things rather than figure them out and work at fixing them. 1
cocorico Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 So this thread is for open discussion...open RESPECTFUL discussion... OW/M...why do you believe the MP? Do you really have proof, or just taking their word? I had proof. I don't believe anything (of substance) anyone tells me without proof.
underwater2010 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 My favorite was "I wasn't cheating, I would never." No...you where just having phone sex and making plans to met up. I still to this day believe he kissed her and she gave him a blow job. Even though the last part was denied even to this day. Its never cheating until you do the same thing and they have to deal with the fallout.
crederer Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I've never been the WS but have known several. They've all been the same, the WS makes it out like they're a victim of a horrible relationship, manage to convince the OW/OM of this, tell all sorts of lies, can't leave the relationship yet because of reason x,y and z, but one day once the chips fall into place they'll run away and live happily ever after. The OW/OM usually know better than to believe the lies but have self esteem issues and choose to believe the lies because they like the lie, and then get very upset when they realize that they weren't any different than any other stereotypical affair. All of the convincing they did to themselves and people around them that their affair is different from the others, was in fact, false. Then they completely blame the WS for this heart ache, even though they had their heads up their ass and were aware that the WS was married. 1
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