tiffany12345 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 When my co-worker friend and I switched from the same department at work to another department. We knew each other for about a year but was not close so we sat next to each other in training for the new department. He was obsessed with me. He waited for me in the parking garage to get there so we could walk in together, went on all breaks and lunches together and he waited for me after work to walk together to our cars. He asked me to be his Lover and I said yes. He would buy me food and constantly instant messaged me at work all day and at home he would text me. We were basically connected one way or another 24/7. We took vacation days together to go on dates. He bought me a bracelet that cost 180 dollars which is a lot for him. He treated me like a princess. We had the perfect relationship and he did not care about our co-workers teasing him about me. He said I was his soul mate and that he loved me. I believed him for months. After 3 months of this he changed. He stopped texting me and didn't want to be seen with me at work. He canceled twice the days we had vacation planned to do other things he said for his family. I asked him if he had another person he was talking to or interested in and he said no. He got upset because he said I doubted his love and didn't believe him, which made him even more distant and he kept saying he was not going to break up with me. Then on Monday, Oct 28 last week he said he wanted to break up and started calling me his sister. He said we should just be friends and he needed his space. Well today, Nov 4th he instant messaged me to go on 2 breaks and lunch with him and he also waited for me to get there in the morning to walk in together. But he met me in the break room instead of walking me to the break room so other people can not see. I acted like I was ok even though I missed him, he asked me if I was still sad during lunch and I said no. He smiled and said good. He also asked me if I had a new Lover and I said no, he said he did not either. We went on break again after that so I thought he was going to wait for me after work to walk out but he did not and he left without me. Other co-workers noticed he left me also. I don't know what he wants. If he wants to move on but still wants to see if he has a hold on me. I really think he has someone else but is afraid to tell me. Why does he care about what co-workers think when before he did not. I thought he really cared about me but now I don't think so. Why would he want to go on break and lunch with me and make plans for us to continue to take lunch together by saying we are going to start going to the gym again during our lunch. Why can't he either just let me go or be with me? I miss him so much and have not stopped crying since he dumped me.
beyondcrushed Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I went through the EXACT same thing over the last 9 months. Together 8. Several months in he pulls away and is distant. I ask what's wrong. Pushes him further away. Eventually he says he just wants to be friends. He asks me to coffee, to hang out and if I am seeing someone. But, no reconciliation. Its false hope and I tell him I can't be friends yet. I am hurting too much. I go no contact and he tells me he's bothered by NC. My advice to you is, he does not want to get back together with you. Don't waste your time waiting, hoping. He is only thinking of himself and his selfish ego. You are right, he is hanging around to make sure you still have a thing for him, to boost his ego. Let go. Go NC. Move on. I have and I feel so much better. You will too.
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