PoopHappens Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I have read that an A with a single man is much more problematic and more likely to lead to divorce than if the A is with a married man. Do you think this is true?
Oldspiceywolf Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Chya! When you are both married you both have something to lose as well as the same problems finding free time. If you are married and date a single person you greatly run the risk of them getting either jealous or pissed about the lack of progress. Most singles invested in a MM/MW want a relationship, if you're married and just want a distraction find someone same minded. 1
ChooseTruth Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Yup, my ex and her MM didn't envision a future together. They were just "screwing" around (literally I guess ^^) If he had been single, maybe it would have been different. In the end it was me who divorced, not her.
underwater2010 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I agree. Most of the time when both APs are married they are just looking for sex and/or ego boosts. The fantasy of leaving is more likely when the AP is single. Although women are more likely to have an affair as an exit. Of course there are exceptions.
dichotomy Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 just my perception - but I think it is rarer for the OM in an affair to be single and the AP is a married woman. Usually both are married, or the woman is single. But I will guess and say the a single man - involved with MW, probably likes this arrangement. No risks of commitment - all the fun. In other words I would say it would be less risk
Author PoopHappens Posted November 5, 2013 Author Posted November 5, 2013 Thank you for your responses. I ask this not as idle chit chat, but to gain more insight into the situation I find myself.
RightThere Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Most of the losers who were banging my wife were single. A couple of them wanted relationships, and one of them is getting one. I agree that's it's more problematic when the OM is single, because he shows the WW the "good life" with few responsibilities. I think a married OM has more obligations and responsibilities that get in the way of the affair. 1
Betrayed&Stayed Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I have read that an A with a single man is much more problematic and more likely to lead to divorce than if the A is with a married man. Do you think this is true? I don't think it matters. It's the cheating that causes divorce, not the marital status of the AP. My wife's OM was single. I don't see that playing a role in my decision to divorce or not to divorce my wife. My wife and her OM did not have any intentions of a long-term relationship. One of my friend's wife had an affair with a single man. He divorced her. An ex-friend left his wife and kids and married his single secretary.
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